I am pregnant and my husband is really nervous. He is happy about it, but he says he is a little scared too. Is this normal? His parents were abusive to him.
2007-11-26 11:00:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are a number of his things running through his mind, probably...Like, how stressful it will be, and if he'll be good at being a father. He may be worried about things financially.
It's perfectly normal to be nervous, especially if this is his first child. Just be there for him.
2007-11-26 11:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is scared. This is unknown territory for him, and he is aware of all the things that can go wrong from news stories. They tell the one unhappy thing that may have happened, but don't mention any the others that worked out right. When I had my first baby, and the pain was really bad, it never occurred to me that thousands of women have babies every day of the week, and both go home well and healthy, and that I would too (and I did).
2007-11-26 11:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by bluebell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're about to embark on a life changing journey that will impact you more than every other milestone you have ever encountered in your life: become responsible 24/7, 365, for the next 18 years (at LEAST) for another living breathing human being..................
Why would he be nervous?
My husband said the coolest thing after we had our first child together........he said: "yesterday I couldn't imagine what my life was going to be like once she got here......now I can't imagine life without her." ( He said this in the delivery room -- everyone say awwwwwwww.)
He'll adjust - it's just a scary thought -- lol I have 4 kids and some days they still scare me!!
2007-11-26 11:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aren't you nervous and a bit scared? now imagine what it's like for him. you've felt it grow and move. it's easier for a woman to become used to the idea of having a baby but a man, doesn't really have that realization til it's born. i doubt the abuse has anything to do with it. it's more than likely the natural response most men have. get him involved with every aspect but don't push.
2007-11-26 11:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course it is normal. Your entire lives are about to change, and you are going to be responsible now, for the rest of your lives, for another person's well being. Any time there is a huge life change, regardless of what it is, job change, a move - nerves are going to come into play.
The fact his parents were abusive has nothing to do with it.
2007-11-26 11:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is going to be a dad for the first time...OF course its natural to be nervous. He probably is worried that he wont be a good dad, not to mention there is going to be a lil human being that is going to need him to fulfill ALL of his needs. It can be over-whelming. Because his parents were abusive to him, most likely he will be a great dad. Good luck!
2007-11-26 11:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 05:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by lounsberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure that's normal. I was a wreck before my first child came. Calm down and cut your poor husband some slack. Don't be one of those wives who make a problem out of everything.
Good luck.
2007-11-26 11:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If a first baby does not make him nervous there is something wrong.
2007-11-26 11:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. He will be this way every time that you are pregnant.
2007-11-30 03:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of 3 #'s 4 and 5 coming 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋