So he comes home today and announces that he wants a baby and if I wont have her for him (it has to be a girl) that he has already found a serrogate mother. But regardless we are going to raise her together. Ok that sounds crazy in its self but...
We already have 4 kids (his 2 my 1 and our 1)
He doesnt help do anything for them
Our son is 2 1/2 and he hasnt helped me with daycare not even one cent
We fight nonstop (not in front of kids)
Why on earth would he even joke about having another baby?? I really dont even think hes joking - he went so far as to tell my 7 year old that we are going to have a baby.
He is insane!
2007-11-26 10:56:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You miscounted your children! It sounds like your husband is your child as well.
Who is more insane... you for being his wife and having his children, or him for being an immature child?
There are some serious questions you need to be asking yourself.
Good luck.
2007-11-26 11:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just off the top of my head, (and I am just guessing) he has been having an affair with someone and has gotten her (surrogate mother) pregnant the old fashioned way. The mother has agreed for him to have custodial rights and the two of you to raise the child. I would be calling a lawyer and getting child support for the "our 1" child and be done with him. The more I think about it the more it makes sense that his girlfriend (you two fighting all of the time) got pregnant and doesn't want the baby. Therefore you get "stuck" raising another child that is not yours biologically. Get out now before he brings home another baby from another "surrogate."
2007-11-26 19:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband thinks that another baby will improve your relationship.
I would make a baraign with him. If you can make your relationship better and more romantic then in one year you will consider trying for another child, but right now your priority is making the marriage better.
Tell him what you want to change in the relationship. Work hard at it, and if you have the relationship you both deserve, then you will talk about it.
He must help more at home and with the kids. He must take you out for a romantic date once a week etc... whatever needs work.
You need to fight less.
Good luck to you!
2007-11-26 19:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that "WE" did not agree to this, didn't even discuss it before he found a surrogate. You should mention to him how much surrogacy costs, and if he sleeps with this gal instead of having it done by a doctor, she can change her mind, and he'll be paying child support out the hind end for the next 18 years. Is that what he wants? And how many babies does he want to have before it ends up being a girl? He might end up getting 3 more boys before a girl comes along.
2007-11-26 19:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to sew a few wild oats. I dont think he realizes how much goes into having and raising a child. i wouldnt let him talk you into it if you are not ready to have another baby. when he matures and takes up some of the responsability for caring for the children he already has. maybe you should look into marraige counceling.
2007-11-26 19:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Royal B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does sound a little nutty. Both of you need to agree about having another child. It is not only his decision. If he's so interested in having children, he can learn to take on some of the responsibilities of his own. You can start this process by having him pay you for daycare.
2007-11-26 19:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...you sound very mature about all of this and I hope your husband is just kidding. have you ever told him your reasons for not wanting another baby...like he doesn't help you out with the kids you have? Maybe if he was responsible for everything like you are, maybe he would change his mind...maybe you could switch roles for a few weeks.
2007-11-26 19:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by lahockeyg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is having his midlife crisis or something? He does sound a bit insane...based on your description. Maybe his own mother or close family member/friend can talk some sense into him?
2007-11-26 19:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both need to sit down and really talk about this and express the way you feel . if he goes and finds a seregate mother and you do not agree thats adultry and grounds for divorce .........so i would seriously have a talk with him
2007-11-26 19:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Dan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise getting out of the house and leaving him to care for all of the kids more so he sees what it entails. He sounds like he has no clue.
2007-11-26 19:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by purplewaterhorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋