4months ago me & my husband had a heated arguement( i have no idea what it was about, it was that petty).my husband walked out on a weds night & didnt come home,i rang him worried and he told me he was at his mums.then 3 days later i see my mother inlaw in town and she blanks me and her 2 grandaughters,i was really un happy about this as we always had a close relationship and i would always be recieving phone calls from her to see how i and the children was,but nothing!when i spoke to my husband i asked him what he had said to make her behave this way,he promised all he told his family was that we argued thats it,so she had done it through spite,come sunday my husband was back & we was 100%happy again,but still no phone call from mum inlaw,then i was told by a friend the my bro inlaws girlfriend had been calling me & saying that the rest of the family had been calling me to,i dont know what i had done to deserve this,i still havnt spoke to them,x-mas is comin do i need to sort this????
2007-11-26 10:53:29 · 13 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just send a card and a few pictures of you, your husband and the kids having a great time this year. Tell about the wonderful things you did and the fun you had together. Mail it to them and others in his family. Make it a new tradition. If you can't kill them with malice kill them with kindness. At least you tried and are being sociable. You can't force them to act in any way in your favor.
2007-11-26 10:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi -
One thing I have learned through the many years is that blood is always thicker.
The first thing I would do is speak with your husband. He can't be running to his mothers every time you have an argument. That's ridiculous. He is a grown man and needs to deal with your problems.
I would also call your mother in law and have a talk with her.
Be very frank, tell her you are hurt you haven't heard from her, since the argument with your husband. Let her know the children and you miss her and that no matter what happens between you and her son, you will always respect her.
Invite her over for dinner. Don't let this go too long. After all, it would be a shame to ruin your relationship because of an argument you had with your husband that you no longer remember.
I've seen many people distant themselves from family members for petty things.
The bottom line is that you are a family. Mothers, fathers, grandparents, nieces, aunts, etc. Don't let a small disagreement or misunderstanding get on your way. Be loving, and humble and do the right thing, even if she doesn't. In the long run you will feel better.
Good luck :-)
T.
2007-11-26 11:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Terry D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Geezus..... Your old man runs home to mummy when you two get into an argument...... and STAYS for 3 or 4 days??? Tell the boy to grow a pair and quit running to mummy. Tell him how your mother-in-law has treated you since he pulled his little stunt, and how it's made you feel. Had he kept his mummy out of the whole thing, there wouldn't be hard feelings now. You can be sure that he told his mum a whole lot more than he's admitting to, if she's treating you like that. Tell him that your married life, and arguments together, is not for discussion with his mum. It is, however, an open and exclusive discussion between the two of you. He caused this mess by his running home and crying to mummy. Tell HIM to go and fix it with his mum.......this is his problem to fix. He may have to stand up, be a man, and admit to his mum that he was wrong on this one.
2007-11-26 11:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-12 21:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by monsalvatge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her, maybe she blanked because you are close and she did not know what to say and now she's embarrassed because she feels awkward. But not sure it mater's why she did what she did, sometimes it is better to be the bigger person and put it behind you. Talk to your husband how does he feel about it and ask him to help you clear the air, it is his mother and that may make it easier on both you and his mother than trying to fix it between the 2 of you.
Good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-11-26 11:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by opal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well ive never been married, seeing as im too young, but i know how u should go about solving this problem, the answer is simple, sit down and talk to ur inlaws and sort it out, even if it ends up pretty bad they're still gona respect u for comin to them in the first place, yes u need to short this out by xmas, not just for u but for ur children too, they need there gram, who else is going to give them cookies, so take me advice and talk one on one with her and take it from there.
2007-11-26 11:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should pick up the phone and give her a call. Let her know that you saw her the other day and you felt a little hurt that she did not acknowledge you. Ask her if she was upset with you for something and if so, could she please explain. Let her know that you love her and want to continue having a nice relationship with her and want to clear the air before the holidays.
2007-11-26 10:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by lahockeyg 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe your husband should talk to them after all he is the one that went to their house to spend a few days ... and you dont know what all was said or wasnt said , he could tell them that he wants them to treat you like always and if they wont be able to do that then he can tell them that him and his family wont be there this year ..good luck.
2007-11-26 11:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
have a sit down with your inlaws. this could lead to them not speaking to you for years. it could affect your marriage and their relationship with your children. it seems like they're overreacting, but you need to be the bigger person and not fight fire with fire. be an adult in this situation and hopefully they'll see how inappropriate they're reacting.
2007-11-26 11:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by 1080 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
absolutely not...tell them to kiss your ***...what kind of mama's boy is he anyway...My mother does not like my wife, so I have not spoken to her in 2 years, and I'm not ashamed of it...I married HER, not my mom and if my mom cant accept that then she can't accept me. If you and your husband have a problem, its between the two of you....not her....and tell your husband to quit being a mama's boy....hell, I'm a man and that would turn me off if I was a woman.
2007-11-26 11:03:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋