Okay, hopefully this isnt confusing
my best friend danielle got a new friend....kayla who happens to be REALLY MEAN. not to be cocky, but she's jealous of our friendship...and is trying to get danielle to not like me anymore. how i know this is my other friend kaitlyn told me that she said this.danielle gives into whatever kayla says. i love danielle to death and i dont want kayla to mess up me and danielle's friendship. what do i do?
2007-11-26 10:51:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i know kaitlyn wouldnt lie about it
and for some reason danielle is blind to the fact that she is the only person that kayla is nice to and not everyone has good intentions (especially kayla)
2007-11-26 11:07:45 · update #1
Oh no! This stinks! :( You should talk to Danielle and tell her that you love her to death and that you really value your friendship with her. And you get a feeling that her new friend Kayla does not like you but you hope it doesn't hurt the friendship that you have. Tell her that you understand that she is friends with Kayla and you are not going to make her choose. Perhaps Danielle will step in to help mediate. Perhaps you and Kayla will become friends later on as well. Try to keep an open mind and remember to be upfront with Danielle. I think she'd really appreciate it.
If you want, you can even pull Kayla aside and tell her that you sense she does not like you and you don't know why. Tell her that you are also good friends with Danielle and it would be great if you all got along. If there is anything specific Kayla doesn't like about you, it's a good time to clear the air. Try to be very mature and open minded to Kayla. She may be stubborn and difficult but remember that it's your friendship with Danielle at stake so you must try your best!
2007-11-26 10:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Danielle has her nose up Kayla's fanny.
You need to move on and find more mature friends to hang out with.
Listen... you need to get a little something down. There are FRIENDS and there are ACQUAINTANCES... even within family groups.
Acquaintances only call you when they want something... bring a present to a birthday party, or come when they call. These people are "users" at best. They typically don't care about you or anything going on in your life. You always wonder where you stand with these people until you put 2 + 2 together.
Friends are different. They are there for you, usually share common interests, offer a shoulder to cry on, cheer you on, and want the best for you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with.
2007-11-26 10:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend Danielle (without that Kayla girl by you) how you really feel about the situation, tell her just about everything. If you two have been really good friends for a while she will (hopfully, she should if she really is your friend) and you two will still be friends. Kayla might still be her friend but in a month or two they might hate eachother, you never know.
The trick is to be polite but be completly truthfull. Hope this helps! :)
2007-11-26 10:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can do. Hopefully Danielle will make her own decisions and not let someone tell her who
to be friends with. If Danielle was truely a friend she wouldn't allow Kayla to disrespect you.
2007-11-26 10:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is be a good friend to Danielle and not let Kayla (or anyone else) get in your way! Just stick together and let true friendship prevail! :)
2007-11-26 10:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Danielle is a true bestfriend to you, you shouldn't have to worry about Kayla coming between your, unless Danielle is a weak minded female who let others control her.
2007-11-26 10:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then, explain to danielle your feelings about kayla. It will work because the truth will set you free. At least you said your feelings
2007-11-26 10:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sakura Drops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to try to talk to kayla, and if she is jealous then u need to either 1, talk to Kayla or 2, let her be jealous, just follow ur heart, and no one can ever take ur friend away from u, not even someone who is jealous of u, i guess that means to me, that u must be a really great friend, Kayla's jealous of ur freindship with Danielle, now to me, there's no since in being friends with someone who is jealous of u. (seriously follow ur heart and see where it leads u)
2007-11-26 10:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by wildride07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can just get over this girl you at least have danielle
2007-11-26 11:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kitkat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you tell your bestfriend that kayla is trying to get her not to like you? well, just act neutral towards her bc if you pretend to like her youll seem fake. and if you act mean towards her it could cause drama. so just act neutral for now, but if it gets out of control you should talk to your best friend about it.
2007-11-26 10:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by iloveyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋