Feminists: Why should decision for abortion or forced miscarriage ultimately be left to females?

Question

The guy had just as big a role to play in making her pregnant, so why shouldn't HE have the final word ??

I'm only asking because the issue is hitting home. A buddy of mine wants to force his girl to get the miscarriage, but she's being UNFAIR and keeps spouting feminist crap.

Answer 1

abortion is not about "a woman's body"

The fetus is partially the man's body. Again, another example of feminists showing their real nature - they don't want EQUAL treatment, they want SPECIAL treatment.

Answer 2

The guy does not have an equal role. His role in the reproductive process only took a few minutes, and was pretty much guaranteed to leave his body unaltered and completely unharmed. A woman has the choice of going through 9 months of pregnancy and child birth or getting an abortion, both of which can have a lasting impact on her life and her body.

Besides, even if they both had an equal say, how would that work? If they don't agree, then that's one vote for abortion, one vote for going through with the pregnancy, so that doesn't really resolve anything. Someone simply has to make the call. It makes sense that it should be the woman, since she will live with far more repercussions, whatever choice she makes.

Answer 3

Because she has the reproductive responsibility of carrying the pregnancy, sustaining life, risking her life by bringing life into this world.

I feel absolutely NO sorrow for a man who's made a woman pregnant and wants to kill his own baby, his own flesh and blood. He's more worried about the financial aspects and being tied to a woman who was good enough to *hit* but not good enough for anything else. Damn straight he has no choice in 'forcing the abortion'.

On the flip side I feel just as sorry for a man who accidentally makes a woman pregnant, but wants to go ahead and become a father and attempt to do the right thing, but the woman is chosing to kill his baby, his flesh and blood.

That's why both men and women (girls and boys) should give a lot more care and consideration to who and why they fu*k.

Answer 4

What?

If a man has a say in an abortion decision, it is only because the embryo possesses half his DNA, which of course would mean that the female has just as much say.

However, the woman owns her body. No one else. Period.


It's "UNFAIR" that his girlfriend resents someone trying to force her to do something against her will? And her idea that this is evil is "feminist crap"? You're not serious are you? You should be locked up.

Answer 5

Sorry it's hitting home to much.

I am starting to think if men had a say most the population wouldn't exist. I wouldn't exist, my niece wouldn't exist, all but 2 of my friends wouldn't exist, my father and all his siblings wouldn't exist. Hell, you might not exist.

Back to the point. When a women is pregnant most the time she has a natural instinct of caring for this child that men do not have. Many women have to go through counseling after having an abortion (it's not a miscarriage even if you put the word "forced" in front of it). Men usually don't think anything of it.

Thus, it's usually completely up to the women. I think men should have some say but not the final word.

Answer 6

Think about your word choice here...you used the word "force." He would have to FORCE her to have an abortion, FORCE her to go against (perhaps) her moral and/or religious beliefs Or FORCE her to have the baby, FORCE her to carry it against her will for nine months. When people are FORCED to do something, what does that suggest? It suggests that their rights and personal freedoms are being taken away, their own PERSON-HOOD is being taken away, their body is no longer theirs. Maybe if guys could bear children, those of you that don't get this would understand. Just try to imagine how you would feel if someone was able to FORCE you, against your will, to carry their baby for them for nine months, or FORCE you to abort it, even though you are morally opposed to it. As if you were not a person, but an incubator, and what happened to you was not in your hands, but was up to someone else, and an accident of biology.
In a perfect world, couples would always be able to come to a decision about this together, and everyone would be happy. We don't live in that perfect Utopia, but, thankfully we don't live in a "1984-esque" totalitarian nightmare world where human beings have no say over what happens to their lives and bodies.

Answer 7

You are saying that she is being UNFAIR because she wants to keep her baby instead of getting an abortion at her boyfriend's request. Unreal. Let that be a lesson to you; if you don't want to be a father, then use birth control. Once that seed is growing, your 'friend' has no legal or moral right to makes demands or have "the final word" over the woman's body.

Answer 8

Okay...so this buddy of yours wants to FORCE his girl to get a forced miscarriage. And she's doesn't want to? Good luck with that.

Yet a guy would get angry if she went and had an abortion without letting him weigh in on the matter?

Ideally...it's the decision of both of the parents. Frankly...men aren't the ones that have something growing inside of them.

Answer 9

Because he is not the one who has to house that baby in his body for 9 months accompanied with many serious discomforts associated with physical, hormonal and functional changes of a pregnant body. He also is not responsible for the actual delivery of that baby ( which is a pure hell, I know it from a first hand experience ), followed by months of very little sleep and breast feeding. In fact, his life does not change at all, unless he chooses to change it to accommodate the future mother of his child. Women have no choice here. That is why it should always be up to her, after all she is the one who is making the ultimate sacrifice in order to have a child. Her life will never be the same: babies are here to stay for the rest of her life. Woman can never divorce her children.

Answer 10

I would never support the idea of the man having the last word, if this were to happen even more babies would be aborted.. Men are irresponsible jerks.. However i do think that in order for a girl to have an abortion she should have a signed consent by the father, it is his baby too, so it should be both's decision, not only hers.. But DEFINITELY not his!!

Answer 11

Because his role in pregnancy is NOT "just as big" and honestly, it is NOT equal. All he does is deposit a seed. The man does not grow a baby inside of his body and carry it around for NINE months, enduring vomiting, hemorrhoids, moods wings, bloating, weight gain, sleepless nights, constipation, and EXCRUTIATING pains and blood of childbirth, risking her own life as well as a baby's life as she brings it into the world. This is how women take it a few steps further than men, and that is why it's not equally as much of a man's right. Sorry, nature gave women that one instead of what you got....Tell your buddy OH WELL - he should have been more careful if it was so important to him. When he gets pregnant, he can decide what to do with his body!
....THAT'S why.