I don't know how much of more of this cra*p I can take from my husband?

Question

I have been taking care of my husband, son for the past two weeks. My son caught a cold about 1.5 weeks ago, he healed in 3 days, my husband has since then claim that he caught the flu, even though my son already had flu shots, it's been almost 2 weeks, he wants me to take care of his every needs. He has been crancky, yelling and hitting my son and my puppy and also yells at me. I'm letting it go because I thought he was sick, but really, how can a grown man getting over flu so slow?

I'm thinking, he's pretending to be sick, what do you think, he still got a big apetite

Even he is that sick, I think he brought it on to himself, he's a smoker, what do you think?

Answer 1

Your hubby is being an @zz !! He thinks that he's more important than anyone else that you love or care for . He is being selfish and, there is NO excuse for him yelling and hitting the child that you have together !! And, he is being abusive to your lapdog as well. I don't care if he is genuinely sick or not . This is not an excuse !! Has this happened before ?? It sounds as though he needs therapy !! He has anger management issues !! Personally, I would tell him where to go and give him directions as on how to get there. An innocent child demands your protection more than a selfish, uncaring man. It's difficult to decide as to what to do when you get caught up in an emotional issue. But, you need to differentiate right from wrong. Which is more important?? Are you fearful of the physical harm that he may cause, if not worse ?? Ultimately, it is your decision. Do what your instincts/intuition tells you !
Ruth

Answer 2

Loss of appetite is one of the flu's symptoms, so if he's eating well, I doubt that he's got the flu. How's his temperature? Does he feel hot and sweaty? Does he have a cough, runny nose, or any other symptom? If not, maybe he is just malingering.
Whatever the illness there would be NO EXCUSE to hit your son and your puppy. The fact that he thinks he should get away with it is pathetic. Why does he do it to the weaker members of his family - because he's a bully. Don't allow it. Stand up for yourself and your son, and tell him in no uncertain terms that you will not put up with this.

Answer 3

He's a Pansy (acting in a girlish way) when my dad when got sick when i was a kid he stayed home for tops 2 days tell your lazy husband to stop acting so damn lazy and quit the acting because if he was actually sick he wouldn't have the strength to hit his kids or his dogs(trust i would know i tried)or stay home for 2 weeks thats crazy and to close there's no way in hell he's got the flu because you have the flu for 3 day's and you're over it
so unless he's got something more serious tell him to get his lazy a s s out of bed and help himself. hope this works
-Jake V

Answer 4

I'm not sure but...sick or not no hitting should be happening. Keep being cautious like you are, keep a watch because if that doesn't stop he most likely is NOT sick :/ And besides, people with a flu usually don't have very much energy, not enough energy to be yelling and hitting. Kind of sounds like he's BSing already.

Answer 5

Not all, but many men resort back to wanting mom to take care of them when they feel ill. I gladly take care of my husband as he does I when I feel ill. Yes, they get cranky, needy but I would draw the line on him hitting the animal or your child. That is uncalled for.

And, not everyones appetite goes away when they feel ill; that usually happens when you are sick to your stomach.

I sympathize with you, though. Know it can be difficult especially when the child was sick and now the husband. It takes longer to get over a cold or flu if you smoke; your bodies resistance is lower.

Answer 6

STOP!!! If he is that sick, he needs to be in the hospital, stop doing for him, and tell him the nurse is taking a vacation, so get over it or go to the hospital. If he is hitting the boy, it is time for him to leave until he can get everything under control. Sounds like he likes to be abusive, and your letting him.

Answer 7

You need to make sure he knows that being mean to your son and his is not the way to go about being upset or acting no matter how bad he feels. Then you need to talk with him, you really need to say and show him you love him. Chances are he is acting sicker than he is because he is wanting more attention from you. He wants you to show him you love him and want to take care of him when he is sick. In other words he wants some of your attention he feels that you are not showing him enough love. This is his way of calling out to you. Like a child does when they act bad to get the attention of a parent, it's the same basic idea here. He is wanting you to give him some of your time and your attention and love. I know it's hard to love someone when they are acting like a jackass but this will help him get back to normal. if your son is in school then I say you should have your husband stay home one day from work and you and he spend the day together. Just lay around and enjoy being together. I think he is wanting your attention. He probably feels that between the dog and your son, he does not get to spend as much time talking to you and being with you as he wants. I know it sounds childish but it is true. He is calling out for you to make time for him and by you not making time for him he is taking his anger out on your dog, son, and you. All you have to do to help him get back to some degree of being normal is spend some time with him. When was the last time you all had an evening just the two of you alone together? When was the last time you all were able to have dinner and see a movie, then come home and make love? (Note I did not say have sex, I said make love, with passion, lust and love all mixing together) I think the thing that is causing your and your husbands relationship to have problems is the lack of time you make for each other. You have to work to keep the romance alive, to keep the love alive. He more than likely feels that you do not love him like you once did and this is his way of showing and calling out to you and for you. I think maybe your parents could baby sit your son for maybe a week or at lest a few days. Hey they will get to see and play with their grandson and you and your husband will be able to become close and intimacy again and get back some of the love that your marriage seems to be loosing. If this keeps going as it is you will both become more and more unhappy with each other and things will get worse. You both need to find a way to spend some time together as lovers not just as 2 people raising a family. If you and him could spend a little time together, take a few days and go on a little vacation it does not have to be far, just somewhere, where you will not have to cook and clean, and where he will be able to hold you in his arms, kiss you, talk to you, and make love to you. I think that could help your relationship and your family life. He is begging for your attention and love, you know if you want his or not. I pray that you do, because if you don't then your not in love. So I say try, please, try very hard to get away for just a few days like 3 or 4 and spend time together just you and him. That way he will see you still love him, and you will see how much he still loves and worships you.

Answer 8

Grab the kids and go stay at a hotel or with friends. He should never treat you that way, even if he is sick.

Answer 9

You have some big issues. I suggest marriage counseling. If he's hitting the kid and the pet, you should leave and go to a relative's or a shelter.

Answer 10

Sick is not a reason to be abusive. If he hit my son or puppy, I would take a 2X4 to him while he was sleeping. Then kick his a** out.