She said that last week she got her period and now she knows she's capable of having babies so she's going to have sex with her boyfriend! She's only 11!!! I'm the older one so I think I should straighten her out! What should I say! She says that being a mother is cool! She says she can handle school and the baby! Please help!
2007-11-26 08:54:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She is going to ruin her life if she gets pregnant. Does her boyfriend know?
Tell her your thoughts. Be prepared for her to reject them and maybe you, but if you care for her tell her.
Being a mother is cool but it is also the hardest job in the world. Tell her about the fact that you do not get to sleep through the night again. The baby will need her 24 hours a day. She will not get to have fun with her friends again. She will have to save up thousands of dollars to support the baby in the first year. She will have to take the baby to the doctor at least once a month and how will she get there.
She can not manage school and a kid. She would probably ruin the baby's life as well and that is not fair.
Ask her why she wants to be a mom, there is some other reason there.
But again be prepared to be rejected. You can only do so much and she has to help herself. Just make sure you make good choices for yourself.
2007-11-26 09:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she's eleven then she's obviously not ready for a baby even though "Mother Nature" says that she is.
Tell her that if she has sex she will regret it and if she gets pregnant she won't be able to cope, and also because she will miss a lot of school due to having a baby, she might not be able to make the most of her education.
Also her family would probably not be very happy with her.
Tell her to ask to look after somebody's baby for a day (like an aunt or uncle) and be supervised so she can see how hard it is and then she'll probably rethink it.
Good luck!
2007-11-26 09:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by allie! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to get a helpless kitten or puppy that needs bottle fed every couple hours. they're easier than human babies, and she might get the picture. but then, the poor thing might die :(
also tell her about getting up every 2 hours to feed the baby & change the diapers, and the bills, and the not having a social life, not getting sleep, not getting time for a shower. day care at $100-200 a week. diapers $$$, car seat $$$, crib $$$, clothes $$$, formula $$$, doctors (with insurance, i still pay $200 just for prenatal care)
tell her about colic. diarrhea. poopy diapers. cradle cap. diaper rash. getting pee in the face (if she has a boy).
babies aren't dolls.
also, show her some natural childbirth videos, and stress that medication doesn't always work for the pain. make sure to tell her that most women poop when they deliver. (might be somethign to help turn an 11 yr old off the whole thing)
tell her that her body is NOT ready to carry a child to term. it could possibly kill her.
tell her about the joys of morning sickness, heartburn, constipation, stretchmarks, headaches, hemorroids, sleeplessness.
2007-11-26 09:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ember Halo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to fill a void in her life... Sit down and ask her why she feels she is ready. Tell her your concerns and the risks. Sit down with her and her mom and get her moms feelings. Sometimes the parents are a lost as the children, because they themselves were children having Children. Just don't make her feel like she can't trust you. If you go right to her parents, that's only going to cause her to remove you from the "trusted" people in her life. Children are at times innocent and do not understand the repercussions of the decisions they make. Try to bring her to terms with reality, not blunt force.
2007-11-26 09:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she feel this way? What is missing in her life that she wants to go do that? Be a good friend to her, let her know she has a whole life ahead of her and not to rush things. Besides, she can have sex all she wants, It's the Lord that will decide if she gets pregnant.
2007-11-26 09:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by melanie t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and have a talk with her and let her know that being a mother at 11 is not cool and you need to tell her mom and dad
2007-11-26 09:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by tia s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to keep dreaming!! Tell her mother about the conversation and maybe she should babysit first to see how cool being a mom really is.
2007-11-26 08:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not even ready to have a baby at her age. She has not fully developed, grown enough, emotionally, physically, mentally, financially ready to have a baby either. Talk to your parents and her parents about it. And they can put a STOP to it real quick.
Good luck
2007-11-26 15:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by ittybittylaurie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can talk with the school councelor and ask him/her to have a talk with this girl! Someone that can give her some good advise that she might listen to and she wont think they are fussing at her!!!
2007-11-26 09:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by mstlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her mom now . She is a moron.
her mom should put her on birth control or in a chastity belt.
2007-11-26 09:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by FunkyMonkey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋