i never appreciated my husband, i always wanted more, bigger house, nicer clothes, more money, i also never?

Question

wanted to go anywhere with him, he liked vacations, the beach and the ocean, i hated them all. i was a homebody, like shopping and playing on computer and doing stuff with my daughter and going to family functions. he didn't like any of that. i yelled at him a lot. now he left me. do you think he had a good reason to leave me? he said i'm still beautiful though

Answer 1

It sounds like you gave him plenty of reasons. Don't you want to be appreciated? Of course you do. You feel appreciated when you get more more more.

He might see you as beautiful, but that does not mean that he will or should come back to you.

It sounds like you need to get your priorities straight and learn to compromise.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 2

When are people going to learn to pick those that have the same things in common with them in the first place? I can't figure this out! They date some guy, end up getting married and then wonder why it all falls apart? You just described all the reasons why you were never a couple in the first place. You can't be focused in two different directions and be successful as a single unit, can you? This time, look for a homebody, such as yourself, etc., etc. All the time people waste, choosing others so opposite from themselves, that it just boggles my mind how they ever had any closeness in the first place! And you say you yelled at him a lot, and you don't get why he finally left you? Get in touch please, with your real self, and aim accordingly, to those that align with your characteristics, or you'll never get it right! One point in your favor, your "beauty" may help you find your real soulmate! But that can be a double-edged sword too, as beauty is not what love is all about! So get past that "physical" appearance thing and don't judge a book by its' cover! Look a little deeper next time!

Answer 3

Beauty has nothing to do with it. Being with a less attractive, but more compatible person is nicer then just having someone to look at. Being married is about compromise and even if you didn't like doing those things, you should of come to some type of compromise. You make yourself sound like an awful wife and I'm sure you weren't all that bad. he most likely wanted to share his life with someone and not just be roommates. Lesson learned, that's all you can say now.

Answer 4

I don't think you are a bad person. I would cancel out all of those things about the material possessions. Those were just the "physical" representations of your decaying marriage.

Truthfully, it seems like you had different personalities. One, you said you were a homebody, but he liked vacations. If he left you b/c of your introverted personality, he's just as much to blame.

He didn't respect YOUR personality. Also, you like attending family functions, but he didn't. That can always cause huge riffs in your relationship. What kind of family events? Maybe you like attending functions at your families homes, but he refused to visit with them.

Divorce doesn't usually take one person, but two people. Two people who don't communicate or respect each others needs.

I see errors in his behaviors towards you introverted personality and your relationship with your extended family.

Answer 5

Materialistic things you cannot take to the grave. You sound like you were trying to keep up with the Jones. It is ok to be a homebody however you should also make memories on going out of town and doing fun things with the family as well. I think you need to make your own money. I think he had a good reason to leave you also you sound so vein.

Answer 6

Maybe he thinks you're beautiful on the outside but by saying you always wanted more, more money, bigger house, more clothes...you don't sound very beautiful to me on the inside. Maybe he found that in someone else. Material things and outside looks should never be the priority.

Answer 7

Yes, he had a good reason. He tried to make a life with you, that you obviously didn't appreciate it....

Remember materialistic things are nice to have, but they are not important, they don't buy you happiness..... We as people should enjoy life and everything around it, especially with someone who loves you....

The small things in life is what I cherish the most and I am very fulfilled and happy, even though I don't have all the materialistic things in life....

When you die, those materialistic things will not go with you....

Answer 8

Maybe this will teach you a lesson for your next man. He only said you were beautiful so he could still keep the magic door open. But you need to change and be more respectful. Marriage is about compromise, being understanding, being a best friend and partner. It appears you were none of these.

Answer 9

To me your a greedy, selfish and inconsiderate person. He had every right to leave you and go where he would be appreciated. You are going to end up a lonely old woman if you don't change the way you think. Not only that, you're teaching your daughter that this is the normal way a person should think in a relationship. What chance does she have of ever finding real love if this is the way you are bringing her up.

Answer 10

Well if he was doing all that for you and you didn't appreciate it, why should he stick around. There's plenty of other women out there who probably would be only too happy, to go on vacations with him etc.

Answer 11

Well if all you did was yell at him , never appreciate him, or comprimise with him on where you two went then yea he had a reason. Same thing happened to me. Sucks when you realize too late what you had when you had it.