Why do most women stop trying to be sexy when they are over 40?

Question

You know it's true. Most just seem to quit trying, and it let's skip the "because their husband quit trying first" nonsense.

I said MOST - not ALL - and look around at MOST 40+ women and tell me how many you see trying to be sexy? Honestly.

Why do you think I am referring to YOU??? Look around!

Answer 1

I still am sexy at 44 but I know what you're saying. I went to my 25th class reunion and it was a shocker. Most of the women still had the same hairstyles and clothes we wore in the 80s. Like they had not picked up one bit of fashion sense in 25!! years. It was a bit depressing to see. But I have to say some of the men let themselves go, the hunk was a chunk; beer bellies galore. I think when women let themselves go, people look down on them more than when men do. Men look "distinguished" and women look "rode hard and put up wet". Lot of pressure on older women to stay with the trends without looking like a teenager. Some women just don't have fashion sense. What gets me is how they complain about being overweight but won't stop eating. Just my opinion. Good question.

Answer 2

Okay, there is 'dressing sexy' and being sexy; two separate and different ways of showing sensuality. Think many women over 40 may not dress as alluringly as they once did as they are older and can't quite carry it all off. Now 'being sexy' is another thing - that is a state of mind and you won't be able to tell that by looking at them.

If you are talking solely on appearance, I must add that saying their husband quit being so as 'nonsense' is only your opinion. Many many men out there who wear jeans and t-shirts, with pot-bellies from drinking or over-eating. Also many men think belching or farting is acceptable behaviour; now that is so sexy, right ladies.

I'm over 40 and I dress sexy for my husband and attempt to look attractive when out in public and I think I will always 'be sexy' toward him as he is to me.

Answer 3

I think it's because you are not looking at the right place. Most women over 40 are self-assured and in secured relationships or happily independent. Whatever the situation they are in, they have come to terms with themselves. They are more comfortable with themselves and their body. They do not spend time in the mall or trying fad diets. Their lives are filled with giving and hobbies and passions for what they believe in. Their sex appeal is the glow on their faces from the love of life. It's sad you are not able to look past clothing and a pretty face. You won't know the true meaning of a full-filling partnership.

Answer 4

I am not sure most women do. I haven't- i am most certainly far more sexier now than i was when i was younger. Older women are far more comfortable and confident and sexy. Sexy is a state of mind. If you have a woman who is not trying maybe she doesn't feel confident and comfortable enough with you to feel that way. In general most men i know over 40 become tv and pc slobs and couldn't care less what their women are doing for them!

Answer 5

That statement is not fair because I am 40 years old and I think that I am very sexy. No I do not wear the belly shirts, short skirts, and tight jeans like I did when I was in my 20's.
But as we women mature and have families we become more conservative not less sexy.

Answer 6

Well I must be one of the lucky ones, because my husband tells me I could turn him on wearing a hessian bag, so I don't even have to try and be sexy(although I do). I am 41 nearly 42 and we still have a very honest sexual relationship. Some nights I may put something sexy on for him and he tells me I don't need anything to look sexy. It's not about trying to be sexy, beauty in the eye of the beholder!

Answer 7

Because they just get tired. Usually women are holding down a job, plus doing all the household chores and kids, and they become so miserable they just give up on their looks. Sometimes they do it out of resentment too, at having to do all of that. They just get fed up. It's called "enough is enough, I'm exhausted and have no energy for myself".

Usually by that time, their love life has gone out the window too, UNLESS their husband is a good lover and supports her that way.

So don't think it's all her fault, it isn't. Not by a long shot.

Answer 8

I am almost 40 and I still try to be sexy for my husband. The same should go for the man as well.

Answer 9

Listen, it goes both ways! Women are in general, far more concerned about their sex appeal than men will ever be! I see so many more well put-together with it women, than I do men. The great majority of men think it's all up to the women to be the centerpiece of attraction, while they walk around with their beer bellies and shabby jeans. Guys in their 20's far out do any guys in their 40's! So I disagree totally with your statement! Most men anyways, seem to be so unaware of their physical appearances, that it's really pathetic! What planet do you live on? And if you're one of the "with it" guys, you're in the minority! Give the other ones lessons, will you? Please! And BTW, I'm 50 something, and don't look anything near my real age! If you believe in yourself, you'll be "hot" forever!

Answer 10

Let me ask you a question. Why do most men...yes I said most men over the age of 35 look like they're at least 4 months pregnant? They also have man boobs ICKY! What I think is that in our society we have a double standard so it's appropriate to focus on the woman's short comings and the man's.