he works full time and i go to school full time and am unable to get a good paying job that wants to work around my schedule! he keeps kind of scaring me with the fact that i dont have a job and no money and custody of her, he just keeps throwing up in my face how much time each of us will have her... i dont want to lose my daughter becasue im trying to go to school and better myself and becasue i cant get a great paying job at the moment!!! does anyone know what the laws about this stuff are??CONFUSED?!?! SCARED!!!??
2007-11-26 08:36:20 · 3 answers · asked by youknow!!!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first off get yourself a job ,I dont care if it is mcdonalds . at least it is a job and if he takes you to court for custody it will look very good if you have a job and are going to school . Judges look well on that . second find someone that you trust to watch her while you work and dont let him know who it is . and also let that person (caretaker for your daughter) that your ex,her father has been harrassing you and trying to take her . after you do this go to legal aide and see if they will help you find a lawyer and get the lawyer to file for sole custody of your daughter on abandonment from her father . That should take care of things. I hope I helped . good luck and god bless.
2007-11-26 08:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does hurt and will, Your family may be right..The thing you need to remember is you both gotta do right for the baby. Just because he isn't ready now, doesn't mean he wont be later...When the baby comes, wow It changes you, the knowing does to a point but, the seeing your baby for the first time. Just wait and be patient with him, you didn't say that he was running or bad he may be just overwhelmed n confused..Right now focus on you and the baby, your hormones are on overload right now anyway, not the best time to try to figure anything out. Wait till the baby is born and then rethink it after that, when your body has calmed down... Best of Luck to both of you and the baby...
2016-05-26 00:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help, but chances are your not going to take it, your in a crap-creek with no paddle. I live out in southeast oklahoma and most of my friends found themselves in your SAME position, all thou you can get some help from the gov and get some help from his dumb-butt the fact remains you BIGGEST concern is going to ether be a baby-sister or some relative thats going to help take care, less that and you better have some great friends, or one heck of a boy-friend. The problem isn't so much the money, its balancing everything with the kiddo, which is why its a necassity to be in a relationship, now your forced to have to dance your life around her in attempts to get everything moving forward, without help outside of money, your going to be screwed. Which is going to led to your second most horrible problem. You got with a neglectful individual who didn't know what they were getting into, which means you did the samething, which means you proubly don't know what a good, deep, meaningful relaitonship is, not knowing that is going to be the second most painful thing that hurts those kiddos..... need to work on that to....
2007-11-30 07:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋