Yes or No?Best answer 10points?

Question

Yes or No?Explain why or why not.
Will you marry person who has seizures fits.Its an arranged marriage & no,im not shallow.

Answer 1

No I wouldn't... First off, it's an arranged marriage it's not like the two of you met and fell in love because if you loved him, you wouldn't be asking this question. Second, it's unfortunate that he has that problem, but think about what you'll be taking on for the rest of your life if you marry him. Do you want to spend your marrige nursing and taking care of someone who you probably wouldn't have chosen on your own if this marriage had not been arranged? Think about all of the hospital visits and doctor bills you'll have because of his illness.
Don't misunderstand me, it's not his fault that he's sick and that's too bad, but the only way you'd be able to make this marriage with him work, is if you truly loved him. When you love someone, they're sickness isn't an issue because you loved him enough to except everything about him, but in this case there is no love (i assume) and as a result, you will grow tired become depressed and resentful because it's not the "ideal" situation you would have chosen for yourself, If the decision had been up to you.
Find someone that you love and "want" to spend the rest of your life with. I understand that this is part of your culture, so I mean no disrespect, but it's something to think about seriously.

Answer 2

An arranged marriage? I believe those went out about 100 years ago.

You should not have to marry anyone you don't want to marry, whatever the reason.

Marriage is hard enough to make work when you love someone. With added stress of illness, it's even harder to deal with that sort of stress.

If you don't love this person and are only marrying because of "duty", I'd say you need to find a way out of it. Why bother beginning a marriage that's doomed from the start? Seems like a waste of time and emotion to me. You cannot base a marriage on feeling sorry for someone.

I can relate to this, as I was in a marriage and had a fatally ill husband. I married him because I loved him and wanted to spend whatever time we would have together with him, no matter how ill he was. Even though we totally loved each other, the marriage was difficult because of the stress of his illness, my worry, etc. But, we were happier than most because we knew our time together was limited, and chose to weather the problems and were happy right up until the day he passed from this life. We were together 7 1/2 years, and when he died, he was 27 and I was 26. I am now 56 and happily married to my 2nd husband for this past 25 years. I would do it all over again the same way, and have no regrets about the years I spent with my first love. But that's the key, you see...it was love from the beginning. Not duty.

I hope this answer helps you. God Bless.

Good luck!

Answer 3

If it's an arranged marriage then there isn't any love there in the first place.

Does the person who has seizures have any chance at providing income for the household at all?

Are children going to be part of the future?

Are the seizures controlled very well by medication so that it's not really an issue of happening very much?

All of this needs to be taken into consideration before getting married.

Also what needs to be taken into consideration is how the other person feels about it. If the other person has no respect for, or feels disgusted by the one who has the seizures, it's not going to be a good marriage and the marriage shouldn't happen.

Answer 4

I think that any 'fault' a person might have is going to be magnified 100 fold if you are not in love with them, including having seizures or epilepsy or whatever this is that you are talking about.

I can't imagine marrying someone I didn't know, and if they had a bunch of problems, health issues, whatever it would be an even bigger bummer. At least initially.

If I were in love, and the person had seizures, it would totally not be an issue at all. I think that's what it comes down to - you have to love the person to feel okay getting married, but then again I'm in the US and in my culture we don't have arranged marriages typically. We choose our mates based on people meeting up and falling for eachother. So it's all relative, I suppose, but that's my two cents on it.

Answer 5

First of all, love is about marriage. If you do not love this person, do not marry them or you will be unhappy. Seizures do not matter. However, you must understand seizure fits before you take the plunge. So, based on the information you have given, I would say -no-.

Answer 6

You say it is an 'arranged marriage', not one united in love, so, in all honesty, if I did not love this person enough to be able to accept this infliction, I doubt I would go through with it.

Why - because if I loved the person, the seizures would be a part of them and I'd be happy to take on the added responsibility. If I did not love them, doubt I'd be willing to take it on without feeling resentment.

Answer 7

Seizures can be controlled with medication. If I loved the person I would marry them no matter what. If you have a choice and do not want to, do not do it. If that is the only problem you see marry him. Get him to a doctor and have him treated. There is no reason to put up with things that can be treated.

Answer 8

Arranged marriage or not(and I don't agree with arranged marriages) Love is about going through life together as one, warts and all. What differnce does it make if you marry them knowing about thier diabilities or being married for 10 years and then finding out? If you found out later would it chang ethe way you feel about them? I think not! Follow your herat and build a foundation to grow on and you will be fine.

Answer 9

Yes, you marry a person you love it doesn't if their health is poor or their appearance, love conquers it all.

No, I don't believe in arranged marriages. It should only be you to decide, your feelings of love. Not someone telling you that marry them because I say so.

Answer 10

Seizure disorder does not make a person undesirable and if you must -learn about the disorder as much as you can-most seizures can be controlled with medication-and do not effect the quality of your life .