What would you do?

Question

I have been seeing a girl for a few months and i was led to believe that it was a serious relationship, yet the other night I went out with her to a club, we had a few drinks and next thing i know - i turn round to see her kissing some other girl right next to me, and then act all normal as if nothings up. She does this for a hobby from what i've heard but she says she wants to be with me. I think cheating is cheating no matter the sex of the person your cheating with, Some people may like to be in my situation but i don't and i would like to have been consulted first! She is now pissed off with me because i'm not happy with the situation.

Answer 1

You're right - cheating is cheating.
If you can't deal with the fact that she apparently has no respect for you, I'd say move on.
Good luck.

Answer 2

I think you answered your own question....cheating is cheating no matter what the sex and you don't like being in this situation. Your girl sounds immature to me. You stepped up and thought it was a serious relationship that you were ready to take seriously. Apparently she doesn't share the same feelings. She seems to be acting like your relationship is a lark and she can do what she wants. Everyone deserves to have a good time and not give up their lives for another.....but not at your expense either. You sound like a better person than this and shouldn't be treated like a second-class citizen.

Answer 3

Have you talked to her about it? If you've just heard and not actually talked to her then you need to sit down and have a chat with her and let her know how you feel, don't hold back you need to let her know how things make you feel. Maybe she thought it would be a turn on for you and if she cares about your feelings she would not do it again. But don't listen to "oh I had too much to drink" when people say that it's a lack of responsibility if you act dumb when you get wasted don't get wasted! Cheating is cheating. Talk to her and see what she has to say before you make any decisions. Maybe there's something you don't know and when you find out it's your choice from there.

Answer 4

Apparently her hobby is kissing strange women. That's not good. Don't get me wrong, some people maybe into that and if they are that's their right and decision. But if you are a person that is not comfortable with an OPEN relationship of ANY kind, then that is your right and decision as well.
Let her be pissed with the situation, move on, believe me there are plenty of fish in the sea. Let her date the girl she met in the bar, then her hobby can be kissing strange men.

Answer 5

first off, she has no right to be mad at you. for any reason. you're right, cheating is cheating no matter what the sex. you're the one who is suppose to be mad for her not telling you anything about this. and if it was a serious relationship to her she would have thought about you and asked you first or even just told you that she's been doing this for a "hobby". it wasn't courteous of the way she was handling the situation. i woudn't like the situation either. if i were you, i would break it off with her because this shows her lack of consideration towards the way you feel AND the way she goes around like that. she was cheating, she didn't tell you, it was with a girl..what's to stop her from going to another guy? i think you should break it off..she said that she wanted to be with you, and yet, she's with another girl..

Answer 6

I am very proud of you. Most single men believe that this is a fantasy come true. The truth is, she's whack. Move on and find a girl that can at least determine the sex of the people she wants to have a relationship with. My goodness, whatever happened to being able to make up your own mind? This young lady is so unintelligent, she can't figure out if she likes boys or girls. What does she do at the store? I mean, paper or plastic takes on a whole new dimension with her, doesn't it?

Answer 7

If she is the one that led you to believe this then she is a bold face liar; to do things right in front of you is unacceptable whether it is a committed relationship or not. I have heard of hobbies but this is a new one to me. Let her know it's better to be pissed off than pissed on as she basically did to you by lying.

Answer 8

She is bisexual. You have to make a decision as to whether or not you want to be with her knowing that fact. Some people can handle it and continue in their relationships just fine, others are set in their values and principles and know that they can't live that way..to them, its a lie. It is cheating, but you are the only one who can decide if its forgiveable or not and if you can live with it or not. There is someone out there who shares your values...she's not the last woman on the planet. Good luck

Answer 9

Ok sooo... If you dont like it she shouldn't do it. But w/ me and my friends when we drink (I know this may sound weird to some) we kiss, like most of the time friendly pecks, and honestly it means nothing, its us being just silly, crazy and fun. I dont know why it happens but it does from time to time. And most of the time I am told I did it, and I dont actually recall doing it. But If you do not approve of it she should respect your feelings and stop. My man doesn't care at all he knows its not in a sexual thing. But if your having a problem with it and she will not make a compromise, leave her and find someone who will respect your feelings.

Answer 10

That's really lame. If you don't like that, she should understand...plus that's totally weird. A guy just doesn't expect to have to compete for a girl with...another girl. There's something wrong with that. Actually, there's something wrong with her doing the same thing with another guy while you two are together, too. I say forget about her, and find someone who is only into you.

Answer 11

I'd go look for somebody else. You're right, cheating is cheating.
But her being pissed off because you didn't like that she kissed someone else is just weird. I'd break it off with her and find someone who only wants to be with you.