Can we only way to make ourselves feel happy by comparing our lives to other peoples who's lives are more screwed up than ours?
2007-11-26 08:27:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
...please excuse the very poor english
2007-11-26 08:34:08 · update #1
Nope. Whenever I do that I end up making myself feel worse.
2007-11-26 08:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kristina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, good question, I like my modest life, it is better than some but worse than others.........compare??? maybe when I am feeling sorry for myself I have, but usually in the way where I say: oh, if I had only made this choice or that choice, maybe I would have a better career now, or a nicer husband with money and I could be travelling every year........
I am happy and proud of what I have, like I said it's more than a lot of single moms have but by no means rich. More or less, I mind my business in that respect.
2007-11-26 08:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Moltisanti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do. I used to be a wreck psychologically (and physically) and had to go through two years of day treatment. I learned Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) which is learning a set of skills for dealing with life. In the "Distress Tolerance" module there is a skill called "distract". One of the sub-skills in it is "comparisons": "Compare yourself to people coping the same as you or less well than you. Compare yourself to those less fortunate than you. Watch soap operas; read about disasters, others' suffering." But it isn't the only way I can make myself happy.
2007-11-26 08:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by PontificalPape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't do that. I was living in pure hell a couple of years ago, so I am thankful for the life I have now. I feel sorry for people all the time.
2007-11-26 08:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by summergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No people compare their lives to my life to make themselves feel better
2007-11-26 08:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Stark Raving Mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never do it that way round, I always feel worse if I compare myself to other people's lives.
2007-11-26 08:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by Who's your Doctor? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, I'll get upset on small things, so I dont compare. but no matter how screwed it is, I'll still find something happy about my life.
2007-11-26 08:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by baywatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not. I make it a habit not to compare people to one another. I think that is one reason I was so successful in my career.
2007-11-26 08:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I become more appreciative of what I have and who I am when comparing to those with less than me. They'll always be people with more than me.
2007-11-26 08:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
isnt that the truth! i definately compare my life to other peoples lives when things are going bad.
2007-11-26 08:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋