ive been marrid 20 years and 2 years ago i got ill and got MS which will be with me for life., my wife works as i cannot and is allways tired and i blame myself . our sex life is dead but i have had chances when im out with other women they say what u dont know cant hurt u. and a bit of fun will keep the stress down of our marrige so am i wrong to do this
2007-11-26 08:25:29 · 10 answers · asked by stephen d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you SERIOUS?
Your wife is working her butt off to support you, which means she must love you tremendously, and you want to have an affair?
What you need to do instead is sit your wife down and talk with her about all this. Tell her you understand that she is so tired all the time, and you want to help her in any way that you can.
Give her hugs and lots of love when she gets home, do all you can for her to show her how much you appreciate her. Then the hugs will turn into something else, and if you are a good lover and satisfy her and BOND her to you that way, she will not be turning you down too often.
Surely there is some way you can bring in some money to help. There are lots of people with MS working from home even if nothing else. If you can function well enough to get out of the house and have an affair, then you can function well enough to bring in some money somehow and take a little of the pressure off your wife.
Yes, of course it would be wrong to have an affair, and if you do, and she finds out, after all she is doing for you? You will deserve being dumped on the curb.
2007-11-26 08:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong.
I suggest you review the wedding vows you took 20 years ago.
Cheating is cheating, and that's all there is to it. How would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot?
If your marriage is over, it's over. Release her to move on to a happier life. I would say she's doing her part, especially if she works and you can't, and I'm assuming she also takes care of all the other things around the house as well. No wonder she's tired.
I believe cheating is a pretty sorry thank you for what she's doing for you by staying with you.
And what are you doing out with other women if you're not even able to work? Seems to me you need to keep your fanny home and find another hobby to keep you from straying.
What you don't know can't hurt you? A bit of fun? You can't work but you can have sex with other women? What about your wife's stress? What do you think she ought to be able to do to reduce her stress, besides leaving your sorry butt which is what she should probably do?
Puh-lease. You need a reality check or a swift kick in the rear-end, or both.
2007-11-26 16:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by Barbi T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed an open marriage with your wife. I am sure your wife will be peeved to know that the man she is supporting is sleeping with other women. If the marriage has problems then stay home and fix it.. other then that leave your wife if you want to screw around.
There is everything wrong with this and when your wife finds out (and eventually she will) you will realise that.. but by then you would have lost her
And i have a question for you.. would you be ok if your wife went and slept with other men??
2007-11-26 16:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are selfish to think of just your self just cause you are sick it gives you the right to cheat on your wife. If you feel that way you should tell your wife that so that she can go out and have a life of her own!
2007-11-26 16:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by you suck. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether you've talked to her about this.
If you've told her how much the lack of mattress dancing bothers you and she said 'too bad, I'm tired' then I don't have that big a problem with it, but if you haven't mentioned the problem and given her the opportunity to fix it then yeah, your being a jerk.
2007-11-26 16:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that's wrong, what the f%$#!
Your wife is working her a$$ off supporting you while you're out f%^&**g around? I hope she finds out so she can find someone that can "give it" to her instead of some streetho!
And if you can run the streets for a piece of a$$ you can get a J.O.B. !
2007-11-26 16:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Muschi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand. You cannot have sex with your wife but you can with other woman? Cheating is wrong and you know it. What she does not know can hurt her.
2007-11-26 16:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell yeh, wht are you playing at even asking this question, shes out at work and your thinking about fcukin sum1 else, she loves you and wants to provide for you, why are you even contemplating it, marriage and relationships are not always about sex, its about pulling together throught he good times and the bad. think yourself lucky shes still around!!!!
2007-11-26 16:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get really good advice at www.survivinginfidelity. com---good luck!
2007-11-26 19:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife is supporting you...for heavens sake....and what she doesnt know will hurt her, eventually and yes, its sick and wrong, for you to cheat..
2007-11-26 16:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by marcella l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋