When my son was born, I had such a hard time choosing his first name, I just put my maiden name as his middle name. Shortly after, I very much regretted not giving him an actual middle name. After convincing my husband, we decided to add a middle name while still keeping my maiden name in there.
We named him Evan Preston followed by my maiden name and of course his last name. I was so excited to tell people, but very few showed any enthusiasm or excitement. Some just ignored what I said (mother-in-law) while others gave me such a weird look that I began to wonder whether I was stupid or not. I still love his name, but talk about raining on my parade. So is it weird or dumb that I did what I did?
2007-11-26 07:59:17 · 30 answers · asked by Tina T 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
By the way, I did make it legal.
2007-11-26 08:09:12 · update #1
No, it's not dumb at ALL!! It's your baby, your choice. I have a friend who didn't even give her son a FIRST name until he was three months old! She wanted the name to fit his personality, and it sure does. I think more people are doing that these days. I'm very sorry that they didn't show more enthusiasm toward your son receiving his full name, that should be big news. But in the end you and the baby's father are the only two opinions who matter! Don't let anyone dampen your excitement!
Congratulations on your newest family member!!
2007-11-26 08:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dragonfly Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's exciting that you gave him a second name, but most people aren't even excited about the first name at the time of birth. Some people are always a downer! (ie the mother in law).
I would take joy in this middle name. Get him baptised so you can have a name the baby celebration (if this meet your beliefs and you haven't done it yet) and just celebrate with your hubby.
Maybe get some big letters and spell our Evan Preston on the nursery wall.
:)
2007-11-26 08:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better late then never. Don't worry about what other's think (even mother-in-law). With my son I worked so hard on a first name, by the time I got to the middle name I was mentally exhausted, lol. I love my sons first name, but middle name is just Cole.
Be happy! His name sounds great. Who cares when you picked it.
2007-11-26 08:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Chavahleah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your baby and he's too young to know a difference. Ignore what other people may think or say (or not say). Its truly none of their business what you choose to do about his middle name. Next time you mention it and they give you a weird look or ignore you, just say, "Calm down. I wouldn't want you to be TOO excited about it." and just roll your eyes. I think its sweet that you gave him your maiden name as his middle name. And having TWO middle names has a special place in my heart (my middle names are Marie Michelle). Have great day!
2007-11-26 08:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mother in Laws can just be a pain. If you & your husband are happy with the name then that is all that matters. Some people may not show enthusiasm just because its not their kid & they really dont care. I know that sounded bad but its true. They should at least act excited...for you.
2007-11-26 08:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Chantilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing weird about that!
i am the youngest of 7 kids....and the only girl and Grey is not a very common name, and especially not for a girl( except for in Catch and Release when Grey is played by Jennifer Garner) but my middle name is Leila and although i was not born with this name, it was given to me at 3 months old. No one ever said anything about it becuase its what my parents wanted to name me
dont worry about naming your son later! my friend is 17 and is choosing her own middle name( she just doesnt have one!) and i think its cool! i mean peekabo street chose her own name when she was three, and you dont see her getting all looked at funny or discouraged
congratulations on your sons new name!
2007-11-26 08:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by Grey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cares.
He' s your child and it's up to you to name him.
People will always give you their opinion (usually negative) about your parenting technique....
By now you should have nurtured a healthy "WHOGAF" attitude...
Who gives a f*@K what people think?
If it makes you and your family happy...then who cares what people think?
There's nothing wrong with your maiden name as his middle name by the way...it's a nice way to keep your family name carried on with your son...I like it. I have a friend who did the same thing with her son. However, if you are so inclined to add in another middle name...so be it. It's only up to you and hubby...everyone else can take a flying leap.
:)
Take Care - don't let anybody rain on your parade!
2007-11-26 08:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your baby...don't let other opinions effect your decision. Just ignore their reactions and keep spreading the news.
My daughter has 4 names...and they so happen to look like 4 girl first names. Because her father had a last name that could be used as a first. People thought I was crazy...but I ignored them...now they leave me alone.
2007-11-26 08:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by Yep...Me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! In fact, your son will probably thank you later on in life. I am excited for you that you finally agreed on a middle name for your son!! I have known and heard of people who have changed their child's first name within the first year of life so your situation is nothing compared to that!!
Congrats on your son's new name!
2007-11-26 08:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by jujube 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird. Nobody said you had to have the name on the spot. If you are comfortable with the change and the child is as young as he is I really don't see any harm done. Most kids his age don't even know their names, especially their middle names so I don't think it will harm anything. Congradulations on the baby!!! >8P
2007-11-26 08:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by The hands that killed Jesus. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋