She was home by herself and took my truck to go pick up her pills, when I asked her where she went, my truck was moved, she said she was going to go get something to drink but changed her mind. I confronted her four times about taking my truck and at the time I confronted her I did not know about the pills. She swore on are children lives that she did not go anywhere! I was left thinking the wrost. I knew she had gone somewhere. I confronted her about the pills and she admitted having a problem with them but still denied taking my truck. After knowing about the pills for over a week I asked her about taking my truck again and at first she denied it but then said that she did take it and went to pick up her pills. I am having hugh trust issues. When I'm with her everything seems to be fine but when I'm away from her I can't stand it. How do I get over this horrable feeling! I love her more then anything and want so badly to trust her again. She will not seek cousoling until she is ready
2007-11-26 07:26:02 · 8 answers · asked by Max 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ugh! If she's addicted to pills then she's not herself. Or, at least, she's not 100% well like her old self.
Beg her to get help for the sake of the children and for the marriage. There may be counseling for family members of the addicted you could find helpful.
I hope she is well soon. God Bless you all.
2007-11-26 07:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Itsa Secret 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a former pain pill abuser, I feel like I could shine some light on the situation, so here goes- You need to first come to terms the fact that you are married to a drug addict who has a disease, this disease is treatable but its gonna take some work, which consists of rehab, then once she has the drugs out of her system and she has detoxed then she must start attending NA or AA, basically some kinda support system in which their are other people who are just like her and understand where she,s been and where shes going, then its your turn, you have been exposed to this disease of insanity, so therfore its just as important for you to get in gear and start attending whats called Alanon, its a terrific group that has many people from all different walks of life, that are either married to or know someone very close to them who is effected by the disease of addictions and alcoholism. Regarding the trust issue, if shes using, forget it, she is not to be trusted, I mean their not even honest with themselves, so take it from me, Im a loving mom and wife, and I lies thru my own teeth foresaking all just to get my drug of choice, and it doesnt mean we dont love you or our children, cause we do, just keep in mind, its not so much your wife who,s lying, its the drugs, and while she continues using its the drug whos in control, I can sit here and go on and on about this but at the end of the day it is you who needs to reach out and get help first, then once you understand a bit more, get help for your wife, dont let this addiction take down yet another family, seek help fast!
2007-11-26 16:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pills are just the tip of the iceberg here.
What you need to do ASAP is find out WHY she feels she needs them! Is she depressed? Unhappy?
Has anything happened to her lately, like having a baby or quitting work or having a death or illness in the family?
She needs to admit she has a problem, first. And then she has to want to get help. You can try to convince her to go to counseling or therapy; but unless she WANTS to accept help there is not much you can do.
Perhaps you could involve her family and tell them about this situation. If others pitch in, she might see that you are not the only one who sees something is wrong here!
If you go to church, ask your pastor or priest for advice, too.
She has to know that although you love her and you want to help her, you will not wait eternally for her to "be ready" to do something about it, either. Your marriage could be in danger if you do nothing about this....
Good luck....You will be in my prayers.
2007-11-26 15:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go online to www.miraclesinprogress.org
Click on the alanon meetings link.
They are there 24/7 and will understand what you are going thru with an addict spouse....They can also direct you to meetings locally so you can have support while you sort out what you want to do about this.......
Bless you and your kids....
2007-11-26 15:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the best advice you can get: Call Narcotics Anonymous and ask them to direct you to the nearest Co-dependent meetings.
2007-11-26 15:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her ***,,,, she's a drug addict. I loved my wife and would do anything for her,,,, and I did. All that got me was manipulation, lies, debt and her having sex with ANYONE (man or woman) who would give her pills or money for sex. It's sad but this is addiction. I'm sorry for you, and will be praying for you, take care. Me
2014-04-16 23:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a serious problem that wont go away on it's own. your wife needs help or it can be fatal. do not help her be an addict you may have to give her an ultimatum. this isn't something to play around with.
2007-11-26 15:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No wonder she takes pills, quit beating her to death with all this. She'll know when she's ready to quit, hopefully it won't be to late.
2007-11-26 15:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by cooter726 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋