ive been with my partner for 9 years. i found out he'd been looking at porn on the internet on his phone? why

Question

we have no internet at home. please boys answer my question, from a boys point of view. is it me. The thing is we have a more than excellant sex life. he said it was curiosity, but wats he curious about? and is that just an excuse

Answer 1

He's doing that because guys do that. Guys are visual creatures - it has nothing to do with you, your relationship, or anything like that. It's just a guy thing.

Some girls, too.

Don't worry about it. If you're willing, you could even do it together. It's a great way to learn about each others likes and dislikes.

Answer 2

Personally,.. when I was younger, I would watch it now and then with my partner to "get more turned on". But I am older
now....and temptation and LUST are very deadly sins against
yourself and others. It's better to stay pure in thought...not to
be perfect, no one is. But if he's looking at it ALL the time...
he is addicted to porn. And I know if I were a woman..I would
feel like,...am i not good enough ?? Because he keeps
lusting after all these naked women....it is a sickness. If it
were once in a blue moon..just to look. I wouldn't think to much about it....but...if it's a continual thing. That's not goood.
Actually...I found out my partner was looking at it alot..and it
grossed me out...it was sickening to me. So...I have lost all
respect, and trust and love for that person. Just because the
"world" thinks it's right....doesn't mean it is. Jesus even said
"when you look at another woman with lust in your heart..you
have already committed adultry. Think about that.

Answer 3

He is a guy and guys like porn. There is nothing wrong with you if he is still having sex with you. Now if he stops having sexual contact with you and only masturbates to porn on his phone that is when you get worried.

Men like porn what is so hard to understand about that. I am married 2 kids have sex 4 to 6 times a week and I still look at porn when I can. Why because I am a man and I can do it.

Answer 4

Just because he is a "guy" doesn't make it right and he should not be "cut some slack". It obveously upsets you and he needs to know how you feel about it. I wouldn't jump him with it, be tactful. Explain that you find porn offensive. Just don't attack him with accusations. It is very easy for humans to fall into the porn trap and excuse it away as just being curious. He may also be looking for new ways to make you happy so maybe he needs to be told that he does make you happy.

Answer 5

Oh Hun, that is something all men do. You can give him the best sex in the world, it wont make a difference. It has nothing to do with you. It's just the fact that when you watch something like that things start to get all tingly and it is almost a euphoric thing. Maybe you should watch a few with him. Don't worry it is just the curiosity running wild.

Answer 6

The human psychic is both male and female parts. Some have more or less type sexual makeup. It is understandable to be curious and wanting to see or even experience the other side of the fence so to speak. Don't be offended by his actions, it has nothing to do with you. After nine years you both should be secured in each other and perhaps if you go along with watching with him it may spice up your relationship.
Spartawo...

Answer 7

Not all men are like this. there are many reasons men do this:

some are just perverts

some started from a curious stand point at an earlier age and it became a habit

some use it as a form of therapy and become addicted

it is not because of you, it is never because of the girl

some actually do it because their friends do and they feel like more of a man, not realizing that the opposite is true. I was dating a guy once who actually traded porn mags with friends! Disgusting!

Porn addiction is a sickness and anyone who disagrees with me does so as denial, because they are part of the sickness and they know it but they don't want to admit it...that they are sick.

Bottom line is that it is normal for any man or even a woman to glimpse if a porn mag say is right in front of them and not placed there by them. But when they go out of their way to look and find it, they are acting out an unhealthy behavior. Porn places many unnatural and unreal ideas into men's heads and women try to please the man by acting like a porn star. How is sex enjoyable when everyone is trying to worry about performance and basing it on unrealistic views? Sex is more enjoyable when you simply feel each other and free your minds. Porn is unhealthy. Many women accept that all men do this because many men want women to simply accept it. It is just easiar to accept it then to deal with it and it is becoming normalized because of this reason. Time to reverse this sick process. Porn makes sex a chore for both sides. No one likes chores.

Men who watch porn are also more likely to cheat...a fact.

Another fact: all the men on here that tell you it is normal say this because they look themselves and wouldn't want to admit that they are sick and addicted. The women who say it is normal say so because they have a man who has this problem and it is easier to accept it then to fight it. It is very hard to break a man of this sick habit because yes sex feels good, but it shouldn't be shared with a tv, computer or other appliance...

BTW my husband does not go out of his way to look at porn and I know this 100%, so no all men do not do it.
I have been with men who do though and they are not pleasant by any means.

Answer 8

All guys look at porn. It's a natural curiosity. Don't question it. Just go with it. Your life (and his) will be MUCH better this way.

Answer 9

Internet porn has become one of the biggest problems for marriages and relationships. A lot of people use them for curiosity, or for leisure. Perhaps you can try to communicate with him your feelings, and tell him that you would rather spend the time with you. If he has time to be on the internet, wouldn't he like to spend the time with you instead?

Try to communicate with him!

Answer 10

I know you wanted answers from men on this, but this is the truth. Your partner loves you but he is a MAN. And MOST men just enjoy watching porn, no matter where it is. They think about it at least a million times a day. It does not mean he doesn't love YOU, it just means that he's a red blooded male, and he simply likes it. It's practically genetic.