Why do ATTRACTIVE WOMEN have a reputation for picking the WORST MEN?

Question

Attractive women for the most part, are considered by men.. to be at the top of the food chain. They are the women most men want or wish they could get. Men do not deny this.

Women claim to focus on LOVE and CHEMISTRY when picking men.. but this seems to be false. The women who are considered the BEST according to society often pursue men with money, and/or power and status. They want BAD BOYS and RICH MEN. Not the nice guys who will treat them like a queen. Thats the reputation they have.

Why do they have this reputation?

Men have a reputation for seeking physically attractive women... and last I checked.. most do.. or at least want to.

I say actions speak louder than words. Why do women deny something that is so obvious to men? We see what you DO so why should listen to what you SAY when it doesn't match your actions?

The main point of this question is that men are more honest about what they want than women... it seems

GOOD POINT "Aquarius" VERY GOOD POINT...

Answer 1

By and large you are right on in your evaluation of how men and women select each other (of course, there are exceptions to the rule).

1) Why do women desire rich bad boys? The reasons are mostly genetic.

First let's talk about the rich man, because this is easy to understand. Women by nature (or genetic disposition) are always looking for the best providers. Rich guys have the best potential to provide for them and their children. Simple.

OK, now let's talk bad boy. Though most women are attracted to bad boys, it's only the minority who actually select them as serious mates. The reason why women are attracted to bad boys, has to do with a challenging of the ego with the goal validating one's sexual power by trying to tame and control a man who is selfish and narcisistic. Women have a bioligical need to always validate their sexual power, what better way than to tame a beast with it. The problem is that women are unable to really tame bad boys, so it's a challenge that's never fully realized, which creates a quest for something unattainable. Most women figure this out and eventually mate with regular guys, some don't and put themselves through hell, while trying to tame these type of guys.

2) Now in regards to looks? Women do have a genetic disposition to be attracted to attractive guys. Many attractive women do date and marry very handsome guys. However, when a woman gets serious about having a relationship, her survival gene kicks in and so she looks for the best potential provider, and again, the best providers have money. Men are not dependent on women to survive, so the money/provider thing is not relevant to them.

3) Why aren't men attracted to bad girls like women are to bad men? Again, genetics. Men do like a bad girls, but only as flings, and as flings, men really don't care that much if the women is naughty or nice. It's all about spreading the seed. Men by nature, need to spread their seed. So conquering many women and having numerous partners is the way men validate their sexual power. Whether a women is bad or good is irrelevant as long as they're willing to go to bed.

4) Men and looks. Since men are only attracted to looks, and women are biolgically programmed to find the best providers they can, hot women get the rich guys. Fair? Yes and no. No, because biology is not fair. Some people are born ugly or lacking the smarts and drive to be rich. Also, we are taught that both men and women should be concerned with the quality of character and goodness of heart, superficial things like looks and money shouldn't matter. Yes it's fair, because neither man nor woman can judge heart and character in the opposite sex right off the bat. It takes a lot of time getting to know the other person. Therefore, heart and character are not traits that can attract the opposite sex in the early stages like looks and money can. So since both men and women are intially drawn to each other via these superficial traits, it IS all fair.

Someone once told me that the size of a man's wallet will determine the hottness of his woman. I would say that's true many more times than not, at least 75% of the time.

Answer 2

If men truly only sought out attractive women, then there would be no single attractive women and lots of single unattractive women out there. The fact that there isn't tells me that many men look for more than just looks in a woman. Which would you rather have? A very attractive woman who is nasty and unfriendly or a less attractive woman who has a nice personality?

Answer 3

I think it's a bit of a generalization to say attractive women pick the worst men. I think people of both genders sometimes pick their mates based on superficial qualities instead of real substance: just as there are women who measure a guy's worth based on the car he drives or the size of his paycheck, there are guys who pair up with women who are outwardly attractive but don't necessarily have much to offer otherwise. But, not all women or men are like that. I wouldn't worry about the type of woman that's after bad guys--do you really want to be with that type of person? Let the "bad boys" have her.

Answer 4

I don't know that they do. There was an article on Yahoo a couple of days ago speaking to this point exactly and attractive women are more likely to date "average joes" than attractive men are likely to date "average janes." Additionally, I know a couple of guys who are great guys but always go for women who are completely wrong for them because they only care about physical appearance.

Generally speaking, we all fall under the spell of socialization when we're young and stupid and go for the bad boy who brings excitement or the rich man who oozes power but we don't marry those guys. We marry that nice guy who's good for us and I think, at the end of the day, men do as well.

Answer 5

an attractive woman can be JUST looks or attractive all together: personality, spirituality, finance, education, she can cook, etc, etc...

attractive women aren't rare, but the ones who have the total package [are] and these women don't get talked about b/c they aren't societies norm! (diamonds in the ruff)

a man with money or good in bed doesn't equal good woman no matter how she looks, so should you even worry about her?? her main focus is herself and what the man can give her. not a relationship! or a GOOD man! the man with money, isn't looking for wife material, but a trophy, so does he even count?! the good looking ones who are broke are so used to being trifling and being gigolos. they aren't trying to wife anyone, but use their vagina.

men and women, depending on priorities will attract a person that reflects who they are already.

i think you have to be logical about situations like this and know that everything you see isn't true and that there are plenty of women out there who like good guys, however, it takes a lot more than money and looks to get her and this woman is the baddest of them all b/c she demands more and doesn't settle for surface, but will make you better b/c she's already the BEST!

so, i think your question needs to be rethunk, lol

Answer 6

Men also claim to focus on LOVE and ATTRACTION, but most often pursue those whom our society views as being conventionally attractive aesthetically.



People seek out mates who are on a similar rung of the power structure, this has been true since the beginning.
And in our society, women's power (as you pointed out) depends on their looks and men's on their earning power.

Answer 7

CONCEIT ONLY SEEKS THE REPUTATION OF THE CONCEITED.
The most important thing everyone needs to understand about this is their mutual compulsion of conceit. Conceit is the primary attribute of women seeking pronounced beauty, and men seeking pronounced power. Each of them satisfies the lust of the other for power, since beauty is understood by women to be power. And the majority of you (women) here can waste your time trying to deny that simple fact. But it remains that the standard of one's appearance has greater influence on the decisions of others than anything else. Categorically, people choose the tallest men around them to be their leaders, merely on the basis of an associated perception of power.

So, in the order of social evaluation of fitness, height ranks first, immediately followed by beauty (as individually esteemed). But then even race comes in as a factor preceding all others, as race plays the most important role in the determination of beauty.

So with beauty for women being their primary claim to power (at least as it influences the decisions of men), men who lust after power lust after the women who most define beauty. And women in turn seek those men who reward them primarily for their beauty.

Shingoshi Dao
2007.Nov.26 Mon, 12:34 --800 (PST)

Answer 8

Dude! This is jealousy talking. Stop debasing yourself. Even when the attractive girl picks the smartest, nicest, yet at the same time most attractive and muscular guy (yes such combos exist) guys will moan about the pick because it's not THEM!

Oh, and treating someone like a queen is just a euphemism for a**-kissing. Tell me, are you overjoyed when someone behaves like a complete sycophant to you or is your first impulse to RUN AWAY!

Answer 9

I don't know where you are getting your information or 'reputation.' sources....but in my opinion, a lot of men and women chose their mates for superficial reasons, such as looks, money, power, excitement (bad boy) etc. Instead of giving it some rational and practical thought, such as how compatible the two people are, if they share similar goals and views in life etc.

Your question sounds a lot like "nice guys finish last" and I resent that because I am attractive (according to hubby) and I chose him, and he's a nice guy!

Answer 10

Being attractive doesn't necessarily give a woman emotional knowledge. They will still pick the wrong person simply because they are immature and irresponsible. Until they are more mature, responsible, understanding and accepting, they will lack judgment. Once they give themselves time to "grow" in these things, then they can and will allow someone to enter their life who is worthy.