I told him and I went out and bought him Christmas gifts. Well on Christmas he accused me of cheating on him and said I didn't deserve to get anything from him. I didn't cheat on him and I don't know why his attitude changed so quick. I was able to take some of the things back but not all. When my birthday and valentines day (he did call and say happy valentines day.) had passed at the end of February we started talking again and he said he would make it up to me but he never did. He is still being nice to me telling me how much he loves me. Christmas is coming around again. Should I buy him gifts this year also should I be be preparing my heart for him to flip out on me again? I love him but part of me is still holding back because I'm afraid he'll hurt me again.
2007-11-26 06:12:10 · 15 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
He really isn't your boyfriend any longer,dear. He sounds like a selfish prick to me. Self centered people make the very worst kind of partners. So, keep your chin up and drop this useless baggage. World is full of wonderful people, all you have to do is give it a chance. I can promise you one thing: there is a great man out there, who really deserves to be with you. He will treat you right and thank his lucky stars for having you in his life. Good luck sweetheart.
2007-11-26 06:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring your relationship with him, which is something completely different... If you actually believed that he started the fight to save on Christmas shopping rather than merely admit to not being able to spend much for Christmas, you would no doubt no longer be with him (I would hope).
In regards to Christmas,
Christmas gifts are not given with the requirement that someone return the favour in some way (ie. He should make up to you for accusing you falsely for cheating (assuming you truly did not) but he should not be required to do anything in regards to gifts; Christmas gifts are supposed to be gifts, not mandatory trading of material possessions). Either you want to give the person something or you do not. If you do not, merely explain to him that after the previous year, you were unclear where your relationship was now and whether or not gifts were appropriate or merely going to bring up bad memories; Your relationship should not be dependent on whether or not you buy him anything for Christmas...
2007-11-26 06:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 04:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you are being played, it a game a cheap man will play when they don't want to spend money on you. Real close to the Holiday's or special occasion they are lovey dovey out of nowhere they flip on you start and argument, accuse you of cheating, they break up or stay away for a while.Meanwhile you've spent money on them and being nice you give them the gifts anyway? It's called the something for nothing. I have 4 brothers and I've listened to their friends crack about how they treat woman, they lies and games they get away with. He'll never make it up Dump Him he's a JERK
2007-11-26 06:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by luvsmusiz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who said he's being cheap. When I read your question, I immediately thought, he doesn't want to spend money so he's making a ridiculous accusation to get out of it. He felt he had to do this, since he had been building up your hopes.
Hold off on buying him anything this year. Let him make up for last year - but don't hold your breath.
2007-11-26 06:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has major trust issues. You need to back off for a while and let him grow up a little...he's not ready for a relationship right now. If you don't, he will most likey keep the same mindset and always be paranoid.
2007-11-26 06:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the guy figured out how to save a few bucks around the holidays. You spend so much time defending yourself you forget that he jipped you out of a x-mas gift.
Dump the jerk, for his manipulation, not lack of funds.
2007-11-26 07:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Devil's Advocette 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is just a cheap bastard that always start an argument around gift giving time. He will not change, either accept it or move on.
2007-11-26 06:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hop on the bus, Gus. Make a new plan Stan. You don't need to be coy, Roy.
2007-11-26 06:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Steve-O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who cheat often accuse their partner for cheating. Don't get back with him. Move on. At the very least he is insecure.
2007-11-26 06:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋