my boyfreind moved in with me because my rent went up and i couldn't afford it anymore. he offered to move in and help. not saying that he will pay half. which was fine at the time. But now we are having a baby and he doesn't pay half the rent. and i need him too because i feel we are now at a different level in our relationship. i pay more and he pays hardly anything. i've talked to him but he says that he needs to save money and it's not OUR place together it's my place. what should i do or say. i think he should pay half at this point, tell me if i'm wrong.
2007-11-26 06:10:35 · 17 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He pays for the food and takes me out every now and then. But I think he should pay half rent now.
2007-11-26 06:28:04 · update #1
It doesn't matter who moves in with who, they should start paying half the rent IMMEDIATELY.
Sit him down and have a chat with him. Tell him the situation is a bit different and you really need him to start paying half the rent now.
2007-11-26 06:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally cant give you an answer that is right or wrong, but First things first a stranger can only give an opinion based on what is typed in that little question box. We dont know your relationship, We dont know how much this man loves you. How do we know as "Yahoo answers" members just what you mean to this guy? Your man is obviously in love with you if he is having a baby with you. At any time did he tell you he WONT give you money for the rent or are you getting insecure because in the past you have had issues, quite possibly? Its hard to find a decent guy, but just maybe you have one and are over looking and worrying about things that YOU NEVER have to worry about. As for the rest of the members that have responded to your question, they are answering in a biased manner, not knowing all of the facts that are involved. Give your man more credit, I dont think he is going to let you down... And i dont think he HAS ever let you down.
2007-11-26 08:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by tony stromboli 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's different in every relationship. Some people choose to split the rent half and half, some people split the bills (i.e., one pays the rent and the other pays all utilities, etc.). So you really have to work it out with him...there's no set way for this to happen.
2007-11-26 06:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by lafemelle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
his responsibility has change the minute you are living together, most of all having a baby, I would say either take it all or leave it tell him to get married that way you would not be just another preg. girlfriend and for him to take on the full support of the home how a man should. Don't let him put you down or make you live in that relationship if you agree to work as a team and help with something for the home then do so but not for you to take the role of your baby's father if you have one there! take care
2007-11-26 06:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by mari 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him if he can't pay half the rent in a place where he lives, he can kindly find another place to live.
Let me guess, you're also cleaning up after him and taking care of him? Make a little list of what it would cost if he had to pay someone for what you do for him, ie cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc.
Don't let him mooch off you, especially now that you're pregnant. He should be taking care of you.
2007-11-26 06:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you guys are living together...not him as a part-time roomie....you shouldn't have gotten prego because you guys are NOT on the same sheet of music in life. He should be paying ALL THE RENT since you are having a baby..fuker...he needs to step up...
2007-11-26 06:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but honestly you should have worked all this out before he moved in. You don't have any leverage with him now. He knows you can't make it on your own, so he's going to do what he wants. The only leverage you have is to put him out, but that made difficult because of the baby.
2007-11-26 06:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He should be paying his fair share of the rent and other household expenses otherwise it is usually assumed that you are being used.
2007-11-26 06:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ALL of the household expenses should be 50/50
you can boot his butt out and find a roommate who's willing, but why should you shoulder the finances?
2007-11-26 06:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by ann s 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes.....wouldnt u pay half the rent if u moved in with him
2007-11-26 06:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by alc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋