I'm pregnant and don't know what to do?

Question

well first just like all the other teen moms, im scared to death, im 2 months pregrant..and honestly i dont know what to do..i've been told by many people to get rid of it. but some of my close friends told me "who am i to play god"..im 19 i dont have a highschool dimploa, im currently in school right now trying to put my life together. i've been pregrant before and i got an abortion. i was not proud of what i did, to this very day i still think what if i didnt abort my chlid. i became very depressed, started using drugs and drinking to get rid of the pain i had inside. right now i honestly dont know what to do..the guy im with is a selfish - self centre F**** a*shole..i dont understand why he's being hateful to me , I DIDNT MAKE THIS BABY BY MYSELF..he just recently told me why would i even have this baby..and the only reason why i want this baby his to keep him in my life...WHEN I CLEARLY TOLD HIM! HE CAN LEAVE AND FORGET ABOUT ME! ...i need some advice...and i need it fast!! HELPP!

Answer 1

"i became very depressed, started using drugs and drinking to get rid of the pain i had inside."

Abortion obviously is a very bad choice for you.

It is also obvious that the father does not have any intention to man-up to the responsibility. Contact the nearest christian adoption agency and tell them that you would like for them to find an excellent family and home for your baby.

Answer 2

Well things can either be really good or really bad. I was in college and pregnant. I was 18. Now I do not have my son because I got severe PPD and my ex husband took him away from me. He's seven now and I've always been in contact with him. But he lives in another state so I can't see him very often.

So that's what I mean by things can go bad.

BUT Don't freak out. IF you decide to keep this baby, just do the best you can do, and don't worry. I don't believe in abortion. And I'm glad your friends gave you that advice.

Be good to yourself. Your pregnant. It's a good thing. You will always love this child. And like you said when you did have an abortion it was horrid. You turned to drugs. So my advice would be either keep the baby, and raise him/her to the best of your ability love unconditionally and keep them away from the father. OR You can give it up for adoption. I don't know how bad that hurts but for me I know that you can go on with life without your child. Their health and happiness and mental well being is more important than your own.

My son is well adjusted and happy. THat's all I can ask for

Answer 3

It is a avery good thing that you are in school trying to figure out your life. I had a friend in high school that instead of having an abortion gave her child up for adoption. She was happy that she did not have an abortion. My Sister in law had two abortions when she was yonger once when she was 21 and once when she was 23. She is not longer able to conceive because of the multiple abortions, she wanted very badly to have children and was devastated when she found out she couldnt because of past decision. If he is the father i believe that een if he doesnt want anythiing todo with your baby you ca still get child support if you want. But you do not need him.

Answer 4

Regardless of your situation, your baby is completely innocent and does not deserve to die. I think you know this in your heart. At two months, your son or daughter already has a beating heart, recordable brain waves, and tiny fingers. You CAN do the right thing this time. Please let your baby live.

For help and support, please go to a pregnancy care center as soon as possible. All of their services are free and confidential, and they can give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; a free ultrasound (at some centers); free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one near you by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting:
US: http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
International: http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

I also recommend that you sign up for the free, confidential, online post-abortion program available here:
http://www.healinghearts.org

They can help you address the issues surrounding your first abortion and help prepare you to be the best mother you can be to this baby. Just about all of their counselors are women who have aborted babies and now regret it. They can help.

Below is more information you should see. Some of it may be painful because of your previous abortion, but it's very important that you see the truth now:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Answer 5

First you need to get this guy out of your life. He is abusive & obviously doesn't care about you. Get some counseling or talk to a friend or family member. Decide what you're going to do about your baby. But definately seek couseling. You don't want to be in this situation again. You need to work on yourself. Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

WOW WE SHOULD TALK I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT TOO I WAS PREGNANT WHEN I WAS 15 THOUGH. SO ON ONE HAND IT IS NOT GOOD TO BRING BABIES INTO THIS WORLD IF YOU KNOW THEIR LIFE IS GONNA BE HELL AND ALSO LIFE IS SO MUCH HARDER WITH KIDS BUT ON THE OTHER HAND YOU KNOW HOW AN ABORTION WILL AFFECT YOU I HAVE ALSO LOST A CHILD SO BELIEVE ME YOU WILL NEVER GET OVER IT ! GO TALK TO SOME ONE YOU KNOW WITH SIMILAR EXPERIENCE I WENT TO MY OLDER SISTER SHE HELPED ME SO MUCH ALSO YOU DONT HAVE TO BE DECIDED UNTILL AFTER YOUR PREGNANCY MEETING IM ASSUMING YOU WILL GO TO PPH GOOD LUCK HUN! (PS. DO WHAT IS IN YOUR HEART NOT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE TELL YOU)

Answer 7

well your 19.. your an adult. i'm 19 too, i found out when i was 18 though. don't get rid of it.. when you tell your parents they'll get mad, but you'll notice a much happier household after a while when everyone gets over the shock and gets excited... tell the guy if he doesn't want it just to sign over parental rights and thats it.... good luck!

Answer 8

aww man you should have kept the first child **** what people think girl take your pride and let him be a dick head okay **** him if he wants to act like that.,..but show him you can do good with out him ...keep you head up....but honestly most guys just want to hit and run your beatiful in you own ways like everyone else.....leave him before he hurts you more..

Answer 9

please dont get another abortion!!! i know its your body and your choice but if you can at least carry the baby full term you can give the child up for adoption! as much as you dont want this baby there is a women out there who wants a child even more! please consider it............from someone who is having a hard time getting pregnant.

Answer 10

you should have thought of this before. stop with the self harming it only going to cause your child life long suffering (if you decide to keep it)