I am having trobule dealing with my friends death. What should i do? My parents dont understand.?

Answer 1

Get some counseling...talk to someone...a pastor, a grief counselor, your friends's parents...everyone has to grieve in their own way.

Answer 2

Hi, try talking to other friends who don't mind talking about it either. Sometimes all you need to do is talk to someone who was friends as well. Your parents are going into parent care mode and are only trying to help protect you and trying to stop the hurt that your going through. If your still having trouble then why not seek a teacher to talk to or if you have a school counsellor ask to talk to them. If you can't then some local doctors practices have counsellors see your doctor and ask if you can see one of theirs. Don't keep it all bottled up inside you, whatever is inside will eventually come out and if its not how you want it to now, it may be uncontrolled and very emotional and will feel ten times worse rather than trying to deal with it now with people and friends around you.

Answer 3

Your parents do understand, but we don't know the whole story, but its hard every time someone passes. In some way we are all scared of it. Your friend doesn't want you to be sad about what is going on. You deal with it in your own way, but don't let it emotional attack you, and don't drive your self crazy asking "why"? In time things will get easier and you will have a better understanding on how to handle your emotions, pray about it, Ask god to help you understand the things you don't understand, and to send someone to help you deal with your emotions, we all have been there, so we all understand what your going through your not alone so stop thinking that, and your parents, know more then you think they know.

Answer 4

Well, I certainly understand even though I do not know the circumstances of the death and the depth of your friendship. My son just recently lost a good friend; my son is 29 years old and single. He is the sensitive type and had a problem dealing with it. So I visited him and took care of my granddaughters so he could have quiet time to deal with the death. He stayed in his room to himself and cried some; then later all the friends got together in memory of their friend; friends consoling friends. Just remember the good times and perhaps learn from the death.....find a lesson in it (know what I mean). In my sons circumstance, the boy was terribly drunk and overturned his truck; which caused instant death. So, hopefully my son will think twice about drinking and driving. Say a prayer for your lost friend and time will heal.

Answer 5

just tell them its gonna be a while until you can get back into the world, its a hard thing to go through, and you have to take a week or two to realize that the person is gone, and you will have to move on. I know its hard, my grandmother died right in front of me, but i cried and cried for weeks. then, i realized its not worth crying about because, she's not coming back, and all this crying I'm doing wont make her come back. When i stopped crying i wrote a letter to her, i joked about how she must be having tea with god as i wrote, and how she always ate orange popsicles. You will remember your friend and remember the good times, not that they left you without saying goodbye. You know that they loved you, and they still do, no matter where they are. Tell your parents, good luck.

Answer 6

You should do nothing and just let it take it's time to heal your hurt.It's the hardest thing to deal with I know.I'm sorry your parents are not understanding.You can never put a time limit on grief.Ask yourself what your friend would want you to do.If you have to talk to someone and believe me it helps to talk,talk to a school counselor or even better,a man of the cloth.Good Luck sweety,and,give yourself time.Also you could go into a chat room where people are chatting about this.I did when my brother passed,it was an angel chat and it helped allot

Answer 7

Not going to lie to you, it's one of the hardest things to go through in life. I am 21 and I've been there several times, accidental suicides, intentional suicides, drunk drivers, cancer, ect. it happens to everyone. The only comfort I can offer you is that, time does not heal the wound, but it does lessen the blow. If you feel like talking with your parents is not something you can do as I tend to do, try doing what I have. For me it's a lot easier to talk and share with complete strangers than anyone who is close to me. If you are in school there should be a consoler or group sessions available. Check with a teacher you feel comfortable with or someone who works for the school, it is always confidential. If that fails you then tell your mother or father that you need to talk to someone and want to see a therapist. If they can not afford it there are group sessions available to the public in most communities that are free, only catch is that it is a group setting. Whenever something like this happens to me I tend to write in a journal and keep it on me at all times. My parents wanted to read it at first but I told them that I started it to get out feelings on the death of my best friend and they should respect those pirvate thoughts and they did. As should yours.


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Answer 8

AM really very sorry for that.Don't think too much on that and spoil your health.
you need to over come this emotion by practising yoga.one very simple and effective method is to take long breath as many time as possible when ever you feel emotionally low.
Parents always think in there prospectus and want there child to be happy.Give them some time to understand your feeling,by talking to them politely when they are very happy.they will listen to you.Carry an positive attitude and tell yourself every day that nothing is impossible.
All the best

Answer 9

Everyone has trouble with death some more then others. You should talk to a school consular and see if you can get some help. They then can talk to your parents and See if you can come up with better ways to deal with your depression. Good luck.

Answer 10

Hunny, first my heart goes out to you and I am sorry for your loss. You can talk to your Friends parents, also if you have other friends in common talk to them. You can also talk to a counselor, if you are in school most schools have grief counselors that can teach you how to deal with your loss, also you can go to any Church and the people there will help you.
Good Luck

Answer 11

you need to find someone to talk to. A mutual friend or a counselor. I had some problems dealing with a really close friend who committed suicide. It's a long process, but you need to start healing. Someone understands. Best of Luck to you.