i am only 14 and i don't no what to do i need some help
2007-11-26 05:57:00 · 27 answers · asked by Darian E 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
first you need to decide whether your keeping the baby or what your going to do... than if the father doesn't know, tell him... if the father is going to be supportive of your desicion and take responsibilities for his actions, than if at all possible have him there with you when you tell your parents, that way he can prove he's responsible and you're not alone when telling your parents, if he's not going to be like that than you'll have to do it on your own... regardless of whether he will be there with you when you tell them or not, just tell them that you need to talk and it's important, be honest with them, and let them know what your decision about the pregnancy is **REMEMBER IT IS YOUR DECISION TO MAKE, NO ONE ELSES & DO NOT LET ANYONE CHANGE YOUR MIND.** let them know that your scared right now and you want their support and for them to be there for you... I'm not saying everything will go over smoothly, but they are your parents and no matter what they will always love you... it's hard for parents to hear that their "babies" are having babies so they are probably going to be upset and maybe even mad but no matter what they will always love you ... you just have to be honest with them and tell them as soon as possible that way you can get the medical attention you need asap
2007-11-26 06:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I got pregnant so I know how you feel. I respect my mom very much and it wasn't that I was terrified of her, I was terrified of hurting her because growing up I always got the sex lectures because she got pregnant at 17 and 'had a hard life'. Of course I was rebelious...thats what teens do! Well my pregnancy was no accident...crazy I know but I was ready. (my mom still doesn't know that I don't think) I never grew the balls to tell my mom, but she found out because I was scheduled to have surgery and they couldn't do it because of the pregnancy. Funny thing is, as we were leaving she guessed the correct answer as to why I couldn't have the surgery. That is not how I wanted my mom to find out and I really regret that part of it all because we are evry close and always have been. She was pissed...then grew used to the idea but kept telling me it would be hard...then she fell in love with my daughter (she was with me through everything!) and still kicks herself for ever getting angry and praying I'd give her up. My 2 year old is the heart and soul of my family!!! All I can tell you is you need to sit your mom down and just tell her, it's going to hurt her most likely but it will hurt a lot less if it cam from you directly than her stumbling upon it or it coming from someone else! Being a single teen mom was tough and will be even more so for you because you still need to finish school. You'll grow up quick and miss a lot...most teen moms regret that. I, however, determined I was ready and for the sake of my daughter I have never strayed. I have had my moments but I wouldn't change a thing, not even the part where my daughters father abused me and cheated on me...then hit my daughter. Things happen for a reason and if he had not of done what he did I would still be in that mess and I wouldn't have my soul mate and the best daddy for my little girl! Good luck with telling your mom and with what you decide to do with your situation and of course congrats! Kids are a blessing, always treat them as such...even when disciplining (just be serious around that time) lol
2007-11-26 14:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by LosersSuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to just tell her and ask for her advice. Think about giving the child to a family that can't conceive on their own... or your Mom is going to end up raising your child. At age 14, there is no way you can take on this responsibility. You are still a baby. And get some condoms. Did you get the HPV vaccination yet?? Probably a good idea if you are having unprotected sex. Look into it asap.
2007-11-26 14:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by futbolgirl20 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you need to talk to her about something really important. I think at home would be the best place to do this. Let her know that you are scared and didn't know how to tell her. Also tell her that you know she is disappointed; you being more of an adult and telling soon as possible face to face may have a good affect on her. Im sure after a while she will be happy and want to help you. GoodLuck and Congrats!
2007-11-26 14:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by tonya_j84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way you word it will may help a bit try saying something like, mom i know im only 14 and you may call me stupid or shout and scream but i really need your support as i have just found out im pregnant.
when she said her bit instead of reacting to it and ending up having an argument just agree with what she says tell her your sorry and tell her again that you really need her support
2007-11-26 14:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are young I understand that this is going to be hard but you need to tell her as soon as possible so you are able to get to a doctor.
Tell her in a public place, ask her if she wants to go to lunch, just the 2 of you. Thats the way my sister did it and she's 18 yrs old. They went to Rubys (casual dinner place) and they talked about it. Everything went smoothly.
Or if you feel it wont go over that way then tell an adult that you trust. Like an aunt or cousin. Someone who is older that can join you when you tell your mother.
Good luck and congrats. :)
2007-11-26 14:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Girly Graphics 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just tell her but reassure her you plan on staying in school, and being a good mother, and that you understand that your teenage days are no longer your. You need to approach it like an adult since you were adult enough to lay down and make it you need to be an adult and lay down to have this child. I was 15 when i got pregnant and broke the news to my mom, and I approached it this way I am telling you, and I have the coolest 11 year iold around keep your cool and be mature about it
2007-11-26 14:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kim M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is sit her down and let her know whats going on and tell her how you really feel about this situation. also tell her how very sorry you are but that now you have to pay for your mistake. not saying having a baby is a mistake but having one at your age is not easy. tell her how much you need her right now and let her know that no matter what you are still her daughter and you will always need her. tell her that ur sorry for the choices you have made and that f you could change all your bad one you would. just be honest she might go all crazy and stuff but she will always be there for you. i hope this is helpful to you.
2007-11-26 14:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly not going to be easy. You need to just sit her down explain to her what happened (no reason to be embarrassed now you know) and go from there. She may want to talk to you about your options (possible abortion or adoption or keeping the baby). She is going to be mad so be ready for it and DO NOT get defensive with her! She is going to be dealing with this but remind her that you are her daughter and you need her support. I know you are the one that is pregnant and not her but she has a lot to accept as well.
Good luck to you and let us know how it turns out!
2007-11-26 19:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by Stephmeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to come to grips with the fact that she will be angry. So expect that. If it were me, I would sit her down and talk to her about it face to face in private. Just say, "Mom, I'm really upset, b/c I know that you are going to be disappointed in me. I was thoughtless and now there are consequences." It will take some time for her to get use to it, but you are her daughter and she will always love you. Just remember that. Good Luck.
2007-11-26 14:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋