My friend recently came out as a transsexual and stated her desire to become a girl. I am totally ok with this and want to support her. I know that one of her biggest desires to be 'one of the girls at work'
We work in a small office and only the 2 of us will be in on Thursday. I wanted to surprise her by giving her a female make-over and fulfilling her need to be one of the office girls.
Do you think this is a good idea?
What should I buy for her to dress in - she is always admiring other girls in smart outfits especially skirts . She also moans at me wearing 40 denier black opaque tights telling me 60 denier black opaques are far softer and sexier. I am thinking necessary underwear, white blouse, black skirt, 60 denier black opaque tights and black heels?
Does my idea sould good or am i pushing her too soon?
2007-11-26 04:40:40 · 18 answers · asked by Roxy H 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
How can your friend be a girl if he`s a guy.It is not genetically possible.
2007-11-26 04:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I'm not sure if this is such a good idea. It sounds to me that you are a really good friend, but be careful. Even if you have accepted the idea, it's not sure others have and it might come as a shock to them.
It sounds to me that you are (perhaps unintentional) doing this more for your own part, rather than for your friend.
We do not live in an ideal world, new things are far from being excepted. I don't mean to sound cruel, but I think you are pushing her too soon.
What you could do, is to invite your friend to a girls night at home where it's more safe. Have fun!
2007-11-27 00:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by UglyHag 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quite admirable in intentions, but like other girls who have answered I too think it is not a good idea.
Your friend was brave to come out to you, but she might be months at least away from coming out to her work colleagues.
Usually to do this, you need first to do a deed of name change, and then change details with the Tax office, the National Insurance records, electoral role , Medical records and so on.
When she is done all she can think of, and has given herself time to consider her options, only then is it wise to tell HR and show her true self to her work colleagues.
Offering to dress her like this could have disastrous results, just let her develop at a natural pace which she will decide on herself, as no 2 transitions are ever exactly the same.
Be the supportive friend, that's what she needs right now, not unneccesary approaches as this is a very delicate time in her life.
I run on like groups, she can message me if she wants
2007-11-26 05:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a big step for any transsexual and should be done carefully. If you are willing to do this for her then I suggest you start in private either at her place or yours, if you can. If that is not possible then do not surprise her but suggest the idea to her. Believe me as a transvestite one of the best things in going fem is anticipation so not only would you give her the opportunity of declining your lovely idea but if she accepted she could have the pleasure of thinking about it for a couple of days. If she declined I am sure this would only be temporary and from being nervous so if she did assure her she could try some time in the future
2007-11-26 05:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi im living full time as your friend will probably being doing soon and work is a tricky place to come out its generally good manners and respectful to talk to your manager and hr director before showing up to work as a girl and then if they are ok with idea than they usually have you take a few days off so that they can get everyone up to speed with what is going on so that the surprise factor is taken out and its not a huge shock to everyone witch is good because people usually respond better to it when its not a surprise but if it is just going to be the two of you it should be ok if your friend is ready for it that maybe give her a heads up on what you are planning dont push her it will probably take her a little time to comfortable with being out in the world as a girl just be there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on or help
2007-11-26 05:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by Puddle Dive 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say go for it. If this is her true desire then she will jump at the chance.
As for the outfit - just perfect. She knows more than you - definitely make her wear 60 denier black tights - you should too!
I wish I had a girl like Sara in my office
2007-11-26 04:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by Graeme 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I'm just an old guy but after reading this I was reminded of a friend who sadly ended his life about 15 years back. He wanted to be a she but we all treated him as a her anyway but at that time I don't think he could get the surgery which he so wanted.
Your idea sounds great but most importantly it will send her a signal of acceptance - well done.
Mark
2007-11-26 04:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by mark_2005_london 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would personally love for one of the girls in my office to do that for me, but I'm very submissive to begin with. Your support for her is sweet, but I would just have the clothes available for her and let her decide if she wants to wear them while y'all are there together alone.
2007-11-27 08:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are pushing her too soon
Slow down and try to be more supportive without making a fuss.
2007-11-27 03:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intention is good...
I respect it... But, give her some time first...
This is the transition period in her life...
Let her get the roove first... When she is stable and steady then you come into the picture,k?
Relax and let her know that u care for her and support her emotionally...
That will do just fine for now...
2007-11-26 05:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by acer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds good to me but I would go for 10 or 15 denier stockings, not thick tights
2007-11-26 04:45:27 · answer #11 · answered by freelander 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋