feeling torn between if i should or should not tell him whats going on?

Question

i'm bulimic, and have been for a couple of years. i have this awesome guyfriend who says that if i ever need anything or if anything is upsetting me i can give him a call at any time. he's a very sweet guy and i've known him and his family for several years. he notices that i am upset a lot and is wondering what is going on. i wanna tell him but i heard him make fun of eating disorders a couple of times.....what should i do? i'm also afraid to tell him because i already told my best friend but she only made things worse....i dont know if i can trust anybody....

Answer 1

If he is your true friend he will help you with the sitiuation. If he doesn't then he wasn't a true friend.

Answer 2

Obviously you are looking for help with this or you would not be thinking of telling him. I'm sorry your best friend ended up making things worse, but you still need some support. If you're not willing to call a help line or see a doctor then you need to tell your friend.

I understand it can be difficult to confide in someone, but you have to if you're going to get through this. If you're concerned about his reaction, first explain that you have a problem that you've struggled with but you just can't do it alone. Let him know this is a serious issue for you so he understands you're not joking around. I've known a few women that were bulimic and they all managed to get past it. I know you can too. Good luck.

Answer 3

In my opinion, you should tell him. If you are seeking or are in recovery, this is not something that should make or break a deal. It was your past and is not something that defines you. I would gather some stats about the genetic aspects of eating disorders and present it like that. I would focus on how you have overcome this hurdle and it has taught you a lot of life lessons. However, the cavet is that you need to be in recovery to address it in this way. And if you are actively engaging in your eating disorder, it sounds like what you need, more than anything, is a counselor and some treatment. I would have to say that I would not blame him from shying away if you are participating in bulimic behaviors. But either way, you should come clean because this is something that you are dealing with and if he does not like it, it is better to come out with it now than find out down the line that he is creeped out by it. You can not predict his reaction. Those comments might have been made out of ignorance...something he will be more aware of in the future if you tell him your struggles. This is not something that just 'goes away' so I would focus on getting a handle on it and then being straight forward about it...regardless of other people.

Answer 4

you should tell him. he might be the one to help you out with your disorder. remember he doesn't know you have a eating disorder so hes only human we make fun of everything. listen your best bet is to tell him maybe he will be more understanding and supportive towards you. you want to end this bulimia thing don't you. well start trying to end it with his help. listen he said it his self if YOU ever need anything you can always come to me. So go to him and explain whats got you down. trust me he'll help you through this rough patch.

Answer 5

tell himm, you obviously need some help, hes your friend let him be a friend and help you, its suprising how differently guys and girls can see things he might be able to help in the way your best friend isnt able to,

ps, just cuase he makes fun of it doesnt mean he cant help, we all make fun of alotta of different things but the truth is we can have different views of the things if it happens to a family or friend

Answer 6

Talk to a therapist. They are confidential and they wont tell anyone, and they dont know you so they wont judge you. Good luck!