Paranoid of being being alone with people...?

Question

I get jittery and get uncomfortably queasy whenever I'm left alone with someone else - regardless of their relationship with me.

I've always been uncomfortable sitting alone in a car in the passenger seat - it's only recently that i got over the anxiety of sitting next to my parents. I used to always sat in the backseat even when no one's in the passenger seat whenever my parents are driving. The same goes for almost everyone.

Another example is that whenever I visit a relative, and everyone's suddenly going out and I would be left alone with an aunt or uncle, I would always find excuses to go out as well - I can't bear the thought of being left alone (especially in a confined place) with someone else (regardless of gender, or how they're related to me).

I remember when I was in Primary School, there's this one time when the bus driver told me that he's going to send me home last, I freaked out and would rather go off a long way off from home than to be the last sent home.
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I was so scared - everyone must've looked at me strange. They wonder why I would want to go off earlier than my stop.

I know why I'm like this: I've been sexually abused on several occasions by people I trusted (not my parents), and even strangers. I won't get into details on this one.

Do you think I'll ever be able to think normal whenever I'm left alone with other people? I can't even shared a bed with my own mother. We went on a trip a few years back and I was horrified when I saw that the hotel only had a king-sized bed - I begged her to get the one with single bed but it's already too late. Instead of sleeping on that bed I slept on the floor.

People should never feel this way about their parents, especially their mothers.

Will I ever be normal, considering that my abusive past is still haunting me?

I don't expect any professional answers, your thoughts will be appreciated, thanks.

Answer 1

I am not surprised that you are wary of being alone with anyone with what you have just discribed.

Like the other person, I believe that you need therapy. Now therapy is subjective and you need to find what works best for you.

The first place to start is with you GP who will recommend or refer you to either a psychology, therapist, approved groups etc.

This will not be a quick way of treatment and you could feel a lot worse before you start to feel better - but I would personally suggest that you ask your doctor for adversion therapy (sounds scarey but it helps you get over your fear slowly - like the fear of spiders), but all of that has to been done with help from health professionals.

I would also suggest that you look for support group in your are for abuse survivors i.e. rape crisis.

I would also suggest that you keep a mood diary to see if there is any pattern to fears etc - this also helps you to to review how far you came when in therapy.

Answer 2

I suggest you to be little friendly with people around you.The best ones are your class mates or some people near your house or some relatives who , you feel are nice to you.You should never discuss this matter with anybody.This doesn't allow you from being free .......free and fearless .....no more lonesome......it's not abnormal behaviour. It's found among young ones of the age group of 13 to 30.This isn't a disease either.This is purely a phenomenon at mental plane.....it won't last long. Just follow my advice and increase the number friends around you.Avoid staying alone at any time.Create more diversion in your life.You definitely can do that.
God Bless.

Answer 3

Paranoia being alone around other people even with your own parents is not normal and you should seek the help of a mental health professional about the paranoia.

Answer 4

U should learn to over come your fears life is too short to be frighten. But rember this takes time.

Answer 5

wow i hope so maybe u should try therapy