I have a question i need some advise really bad..?

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hey everyone thanks for the help..
Am married, not really happy, cause of things that i don't agree on with my husband.. He doesn't really talk to me any more, all he does now is go to work an play on games thats it..
Me an him had sexs i didn't even like it.. Whats wrong with me am i a bad person..

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I have a question i need some advise really bad..?
hey everyone thanks for the help..
Am married, not really happy, cause of things that i don't agree on with my husband.. He doesn't really talk to me any more, all he does now is go to work an play on games thats it..
Me an him had sexs i didn't even like it.. Whats wrong with me am i a bad person.. I have tried to talk to him.. it just so quit an boreing.. am 21 with a 19 month baby boy.. I been with him since stepember 18, 2004.. but theirs been stuff going on, i don't have the proof so theirs no way am leaveing with out my baby, plus taken that chance him turning around getting the baby already went to court an droped everything..

My husband is 28.. like sticking needles in his arms like cuting himself.. like him talking to himself.. wanting to kill himself.. that kinda stuff.. he says he going to get on his medic.. but i don't know.. He hasn't really showed me anything yet excpet get ride of the guns..

Answer 1

First of all, you need to get those communication lines open again. Whenever a couple talk and disagree, it is usually the husband who shuts down for fear of starting another argument. Just know, conflict should not be about winning, it should be about compromise. When communication is struck down, the relationship and the closeness begin to deteriorate. The intimacy in the relationship also suffers, and so when it comes to sex in place of love and passion is resentment. Work on the communication first and if you both need outside professional helpl then get it. Best of luck.

Answer 2

Communication is the key to a good relationship. Without the communication your relationship is over. It is okay to not agree on things but when it goes further than that, like you not liking the outcome then control starts to come in. ou are not a bad person just that things are going the way you want them to. Sit down with him and ask why he has that position and understand not agree why he feels that way. Not agreeing on item or topic just say you want things your way. If I don't get them my way things will not good. We simple need to come to a common goal. That is all.

Answer 3

You both sound very young and maybe to young for Marriage so it might be best if you ended the marriage before there are children ,and go back to School and get a good education and when the time is right you will meet Mr. Right and I think you will change your mind about a lot of things.
Good Luck

Answer 4

No, you aren't a bad person. You and your husband just don't communicate and understand each other well that is all. You don't open up to see each other's side on things. In sex you don't let each other know what you do and don't like and instead you harbor all of these feelings inside and shut each other out. You need to talk about things (including sex) and get them out in the open so that you can talk about them. No matter what.

Answer 5

Your in a rut. He doesn't talk to you... have you tried talking to him? Let him know what your feeling and let him know that he needs to give you a little attention. Find a hobby that is all yours. Something you can do that you find interest in where you can make new friends. While your off doing your new hobby he can play games and your both happy. In the bedroom you need to change things up. If you not enjoying it then find what makes it enjoyable and have him do it. Go to the nearest adult store and have a fun finding new items... together!! First things first... you both need to get on the same page. You need to talk to him. Best of luck.

Answer 6

You sound very unhappy and unable to express yourself. Also you sound very young. How long have you been married? Maybe you can take him back to his mother and undo the whole deal.

You're not a bad person. You have your needs and he has his, and they are not compatible. If you can't ditch the man, get some other interests like an evening course in English or creative writing.

Answer 7

Seek marriage counseling quick for you both. You would also benefit by singles counseling. Perhaps see a priest or minister. They have professional training to help married couples deal with issues like yours. Some counselors operate on a sliding fee scale based on your income, so cost should not be too high for you. Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 8

I don't know if your a bad person or not, but it sounds to me like you both need to grow up.

Ask yourself:

Why did we get married in the first place?
What do we want to be doing in five years?
Do I want to be with this person in ten years?
If I am not happy now, what would make me happy?

Learn to communicate in a meaningful way, or talk about separating for awhile.

cheers.

Answer 9

i really can't grasp what the real problem is,
but ti seems like the problem is SEX,

if you want a better sex life then MAsterbate while having sex

most women cannot come to orgasm thru straight intercourse
they need other stimulants

As far as the other things that you don't agree on , you didn't mention them so i can't comment

M

Answer 10

How old are you? How long have you been married? First marriage is never easy it's something you have to work on for the rest of your life! As for the sex it takes two therefore it also takes two to make it good. You need to try there is way too many divorces today!
okay your add scared me! are you on drugs too?