My so called "friend w/benefits" that I've only known a month has been "sick" this last weekend. He hasn't been calling or texting me like he usually does several times a day. Friday night he told me he didn't feel good and had been sleeping all day. Saturday morning I sent him a text & asked how he was doing & he said ok & I told him if he wanted to do something later to just let me know. Saturday night he sent me a text & he was about to go to bed b/c he didn't feel good. Sunday afternoon I sent him a text to see how he was & he said he's sick as a dog and that he's been out of it all day. I never heard back from him and I still haven't heard from him yet today. He usually texts me in the morning and throughout the day and at night. Do you think he really is sick or is he just trying to let me go? He had said he wants us to be fwb & hopefully grow into something more...he knows I just got divorced. Any thoughts?...maybe I should give him a little more time to see?
2007-11-26 03:30:44 · 26 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Saturday night he sent me a text & he was about to go to bed b/c he didn't feel good."
Yeah, he's sick - or at least he's not trying to put you off.
BTW, that you care so much means that he is now much more than a "friend w/benefits."
2007-11-26 03:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Elana 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are just reading into this alittle too much...Being divorce is a good thing reguardless of what the situation was..Enjoy your time and space as a single woman...If this call so friend wants your company let him be the one to find you...He might have been sick and letting him know that you were concern and wanted to know how he was feeling is okay but, don't chase him...He knows you have extended yourself to him and it's time for him to recover and get in touch with you now...If not then keep it moving...Life is too short to wait for other people to come around...I think you probably learned that from your divorce....Best wishes!!
2007-11-26 03:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he just is not feeling good and he needs so space he might have a stomach flu or something why don't you go see him and see what is wrong with him he might have something bad go be a good friend and take him some chicken noddle and see if he can feel better and if not don't text him anymore let him be he will get better with time and if he dosen't then O well I mean you can not do anything else.
2007-11-26 03:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It could go either way. Sometimes I used the sick excuse, but it rarely works. I mean you're obviously determined to get to the truth. Sometimes I really was too sick to even talk on the phone though, let alone text. Good Luck.
2007-11-26 03:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you just got divorce starting off having FWB is not a good thing. You have to accept what ever he tells you, dont get emotionally tied if you guys are only fwb...
2007-11-26 03:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Grimey 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Could it be he had another fwb, relatives or a s/o in town for the holiday weekend?
If things quickly return to normal, I'd say you're 'the other woman' and he's enjoying the fwb to suit his needs.
Just my $0.02
2007-11-26 03:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by David M 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can take it at face value for now. I know when I have the flu for days, I don't feel like doing anything except sleep. Ask him if there is anything you can do to help him feel better? Then just take it from there.
2007-11-26 03:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by peggy m 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I just had a bad cold that hung around for a couple of weeks.
He could actually be sick.
Offer to bring him some chicken soup.
2007-11-26 04:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by fkd1015 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask any mutual friends about him and find out if he is sick or not. Just casually mention that you hope he'd get better soon and if your mutual friend asks why you said it - it means that guys isn't sick and is just pre-occupied with someone else.
2007-11-26 03:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't be counting on any one guy since you are recently divorced. Play the field and toss the jerks to the curb and enjoy life.
2007-11-26 03:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋