i am quite a shy and reserved woman who can get easily embarassed. i am looking for a job but i especially feel intimidated by men. why is this and how can i overcome it as i would need to attend an interview and also work in an environment where i have to talk to men etc.
2007-11-26 03:13:52 · 5 answers · asked by Jenny_USA 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
talk to us we don't bite and i likes meashygal.
2007-11-26 03:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to read about this 'problem.' It would maybe help you if you looked at this a little differently, and although it might be seen as initially being one of semantics, bear with me a while.
When you (or anyone says) that 'I am intimidated by men / cats etc,' the implications is that 'your intimidation is the fault / responsibility of the man / cat etc,' whereas it is not their actual 'fault' in the general scheme of things.
If you were to perhaps say, 'I feel intimidated because of men,' or 'in the company of men,' then that is your taking this potential 'blame for' your feelings of intimidation away from men and altering the perspective radically.
It may seem to be a simply semantic, but the whole implication of 'Intimidation BY men' is to put the very responsibility for whatever you are feeling onto the whole of the male of the species ~ or even one single solitary man who has nothing to do with whatever is happening.
He / I are just innocent passers by in the scheme of things.
Apart from looking at the problem you have in some form of therapy setting, the Job Centres have a 'Disability Employment Adviser' (otherwise known as a 'DEA') who may well be able to offer you some help or advice in the areas you are concerned with.
It may well do you some good if you perhaps went to see your GP first (unless of course its a He!) ...or talk with a Practise Nurse.
As for the reason(s for Why you feel what you term as 'Intimidation' because of men....! There may be one reason or it may be a series of reasons that began this ~ away back ...whenever it was that the reason for this situation took root in you.
I wish you Good Luck with it.
Sash. [ ps: I failed to pick up on the possibility that you might be an American ...which can alter some of what I've written here regarding the DEA, I'm not sure about Help in the US in areas like this. ]
2007-11-26 03:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be any number of reasons. it could have something to do with your upbringing. insecurities. you might have been treated badly by a man at some point in your lifetime? lack of self-esteem, etc.
your shyness will never trully go away. as far as having to work with men, just go out there and do it, you will eventually start building your confidence....
i am a naturally shy person, too.
2007-11-26 03:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the first question I'd ask you is, what about us men intimidates you? Why does that intimidate you?
When you have the answers to those two questions, you will be closer to having your answer..
2007-11-26 03:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are only people. Look for people you get along with.
2007-11-26 03:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by ted j 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋