I have been making the money in my family since we got married. We have 2 kids, one in daycare and the other in school. Im spending $400 in daycare a month even though my husband sits at home all day. When he gets money he thinks he is entitled to the entire amount because it was handed to him. How do I get him to realize that he has to start helping with the bills and kids?
2007-11-26 03:08:21 · 24 answers · asked by moneymaker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sits at home all day and your child is in daycare why???
Tell him if he wants to stay at home, he can be a stay-at-home father... this way he will still be contributing to the household. Heck, he could earn that $400/month by doing this, give the children a better father, and you'll be much better off financially.
If this doesn't work, he is a leech who is only out for your money. He needs to show you he loves you and the children by helping out. There is nothing wrong with a stay at home dad - but why the heck is this kid in daycare if daddy is home all day!???
2007-11-26 03:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not know if there are sufficient words to describe what a sorry lowlife deadbeat you have married. Then you had kids with this useless piece of meat. You must have some serious issues of your own to want to be with this sorry excuse for a human.
Let me tell you this sister, he will never get any better because you allow him to behave like this. You get what you ask for and this shows you don't ask for much.
What do you need him for anyway? So you can have more kids? You could find a decent hard working man to give you more kids and you would get some financial help in the bargain. In short dump this bum now. Do not wait another day -- GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE!!!!!
2007-11-26 04:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by mikey_fiveoh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why allow yourself (and your children) to be in that predictment? He would not be upset or mad about not having money if you wouldn't blow $400 on daycare. Tell him if he would take care of the kids then he would have more money. And if thats not good enough then he needs to get a job. Men want to act like they are in control but the reality is that YOU are in conrol. Without you or your money he is a nobody. You have the upper hand of the deck--make him get a job or get the hell out. Think of the kids and what morals and values this is teaching them......P.S. Why do you hand him your money when you are the one who is working for it? I would hand it to my kids before I would him.
2007-11-26 03:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by LadyBug24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, tell him that you are running low with paying bills. Show him the details. Lay it out for him. Ask him what we can do to improve the situation. If he does not come up with the answer of "I will find a job" then tell him that he needs to baby sit the kids when you are at work. That way you will save 400 dollars. Then let him know that when you come home, he needs to go and work another job ..so the extra money will help pay off the debt.
Its really in how you both love each other. I have seen some guys do that because they do not want to be in the relationship and this is one way of telling the girl... throw me out. Not sure if this is the case with your husband.
If he is really caring of you and your children, he will get up and go to work.
2007-11-26 03:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by vnj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you are no longer shelling out $400 a month in day care and that he can get off his lazy a** and take care of HIS child or he can go get a job. My husband has been laid off since June and I am working 4 jobs, and he takes care of our son. He knows what I would say if he even dared to suggest daycare! Kick his butt. What a lazy bum!
2007-11-26 04:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has 3 choices. 1) Get off his lazy ***, get a job and pay some bills. 2) Do the housework and take care of the youngest child. He would expect you do this if you were a stay at home mom. 3) You can divorce him, take the kids and leave him to fend for himself. I would give him 2 wks to make a choice and make it happen.
Personally I would divorce his sorry ***. That's what I did to my ex when he tried to pull that ****.
2007-11-26 03:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull the kids out of daycare and leave them home. HE doesnt have a choice in the matter anymore. He is not contirbuting in any way so he needs to save you that money if he isnt making any. You need to put your foot down and let him know he has to find a way to contribute something other than the sunken spot on the couch his A** created.
2007-11-26 03:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
He needs to start assuming the responsibilities of a father, and a husband. Other than telling him that his behavior is totally unacceptable to you and your children and that it has to stop immediately, I don't know what else you can tell him. You can't get a selfish person to realize they are selfish until you take actions that you're not going to put up with it any longer. You are a family unit, and he needs to start taking a more active role in the family.
2007-11-26 03:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to sit down with him and tell him straight up! This is crap, he needs to watch the kids if he's not working. I work part time and feel guilty that I don't work enough!
If he doesn't change, he will never change. However, you did marry him this way... You really need to sit and think about what you want and what's best for your family... is there a reason he can't work?
2007-11-26 03:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by Can't stand this 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you accept making money for the family from the very beginning??? Then you had two kids with this guy???
Boy, you picked a winner, huh? This is who he is and you knew it before you made kids with him!! You seemed to like it then. Screwed up your kids lives, everything dependent on you.
Don't want your life!!
2007-11-26 03:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by serene e 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋