I've been working with a nice guy for the last month and until last friday I didn't notice he was gay.
I feel so embarrased because I asked him if he has a girlfriend and when he talked about his friend brian I only thought they were friends and nothing more.
I feel ashamed of the stupid things I've said (like so cool you two are such good friends, or when he showed me a photo and I asked him if that girl was his gf.).
I want my gaydar fixed!
ps: I work with 3 gay guys, I could identify 2, the other one caught me offguard.
ps: don't get me wrong I don't discriminate, I would just like to know in order to avoid embarrasing moments.
2007-11-26 02:49:22 · 11 answers · asked by natalia k 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Natalia, that is an excellent question.
The problem is that your gaydar needs to be recalibrated due to today's modern metrosexual movement blurring the boundaries between gay and straight men.
By recalibrating your existing gaydar, you can save thousands$$$ over buying a new one.
2007-11-26 02:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Trogdor the Burninator 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. If he has any class at all, he hasn't thought twice about it. Gaydar isn't as necessary nowadays as it was. With homosexuality being as accepted as it is (although we still have a way to go) being able to determine who is gay is not needed. You don't need to be embarrassed.
2007-11-26 02:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Val J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no shame in letting one slip by. Men are getting so groomed and so pretty these days it's not as easy as it used to be. Additionally, they're not an homogenous group and don't all fit neatly into one category. Sometimes, you just won't know right off and that's ok.
2007-11-26 02:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by rachel m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to be embarrassed about, You can't be expected to know that someones gay or not, and the ones you don't "quess" correctly are used to the questions.
2007-11-26 03:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think theres anthing embarrasing there!! It would have been even more so if he was straight and you called him gay! But dont worry about it, you didnt know, now you know so just carry on as normal!!
:)
2007-11-26 02:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Athena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we all can get caught off guard at times,
we're not always on 'our game' so to speak,
distracted with other things,
i've missed the signs to my own house before. ;)
don't worry about it, i'm sure he's not.
2007-11-26 02:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
aww....you wanted to ask him out.
it is hard to tell sometimes...some individuals have become so good at hiding it around certain people, and in certain situations...and despite what most people think not all are "flamboyant" or "butch".
2007-11-26 03:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by JenniT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think before you speak. I have always been told to NEVER assume anything!
2007-11-26 02:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to Jamaica.
2007-11-26 02:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by mica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a sip from the porcelain bus
2007-11-26 02:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋