what are the effects?

Question

if your father hated you and abused you emotionally and physically ( sometimes, but more often used you as an excuse to beat up your mother), what effects might this have on the child when she grows up

Answer 1

She wouldn't know what a healthy relationship looks like, she's not seen one. The one she saw day in and out was abusive.

Worse yet, she wouldn't feel safe, or likely that she was worthwhile.

If she wanted to have a different life than that of her parents, she'd need to be very mindful of her thoughts and patterns with people. She'd need to find people who could support her and love her.

She'd have to be really careful with men, make sure she was making good choices, and end things if they were like her father at all.

Still, there is lots of hope. She can raise her children (when she has them) the way she should have been. This is incredibly healing. As is learning to love yourself the way your parents should have, the way she deserves.

Answer 2

Think I'm out of my league here but personally think it could be one of two ways, either become a very nervous person with low self esteem and no confidence that ends up involving themselves in abusive relationships or realisation kicks in that none of it was your fault and no way is he gonna win any further by destroying the rest of your life become independent and confident and gets out as soon as possible. In both cases i think that you will always be wary of men and find it hard to trust people.

Answer 3

BTDT(been there done that) my father sexually, and emotionaly abuse me from the age of 6--19yrs. old. He also held my mom as a hostage in a way. Everytime my mom wanted to go somewhere w/o my dad, he would lay on the guilt so strongly, that she would wind up almost hating herself for feeling so guilty, so she wouldn't go out. My father, was the life of the party, if you didn't know what went on behind closed doors, than he could charm the skin off of a snake. Everyone who met him thought he was such a great, charming, likeable man. As I, and my sisters got older, we releazed that he was a sociapath. How did it affect me. Well I am now 49yrs old. I have been a drug addict, a recoving one now for 3+yrs., I shoplifted many times in my teens, 20's, 30's. I started self mutilation, when I was 14yrs old, later found out that it was a cry for help. I have had panic attacks since I was 19, depression, Post Tramatic(sp) Stress Disorder, and recently pdoc, says he thinks I might be bi-polar type 2. I have little self-esteem, working on that. I am afraid to sit somewhere unless my back is to the wall, b/c he(father) use to come up behind you and just scare the crap out of you, or start his little routine of sexual, emontional abuse. He basically fu..ked up my sisters, and my mother. My mom who I miss so very much passed away on 3-14-06, as a much happier person, b/c my father passed away in 2001, and she remarried a man who was very kind to her. I married a man that I didn't love when I was 19 just to get out of the house, marriage lasted 6mos. Than married a man that was psychially abusive, stay with him for 10yrs, until he accidently hurt my 10yr. old daughter who was trying to defend me. Divorced him and later on married a man after a lot of therapy, that was my true soulmate. I am one of the lucky ones. I found true love, I found a decent man. He was my best friend for 5yrs, and knew all about me, my past, and my problems. I have been married to this wonderful man now for 18yrs. We have a 13yr. old son. I by the Grace of God, never abused my children and all of them are doing great. Thank you God. My sisters never abused them, so the cycle was broken. So yeah, you have issues of extreme trust, mostly with men, but also with women. Hard to make friends when you have trust issues. But I now do have friends, but it took my fathers death, before I could really trust people. Every child that is born, has the basic right to be loved, and to trust. When we become adults it is up to us to either continue the cycle or to fight back for the life that we deserved as a child. Well that is my story in a nutshell.

Answer 4

She might not trust other men, or feel safe around them. She might find it hard to control her emotions too (smallest thing could upset her).

Answer 5

She will end up in abusive relationships with boyfriends/husbands!

Answer 6

I know someone who was, she now suffers from depression, is on medication, and doesnt make a good parent herself. It depends on how strong they are and whether they want a decent life themselves.

Answer 7

It can only effect when a person is identifying with the person they are not anymore. What happened, is not happening "NOW". Now is always quite pleasant until the mind sweeps us into future or past, which are an illusion in the "NOW"!

Answer 8

Ok. Good question, Brilliant.


Ok Ok Oookay.


'How long is a piece of string.?'




"_______It All Depends_______"


upon a whole string of factors as to


which way the kid will go ~ and ~ How Far.


Sash.

Answer 9

She would probably be withdrawn, and not be able to trust men.

Answer 10

I'd have to guess, she'd have a low self-esteem, learned behavior patterns, and depression with anxiety, thanks for asking.