Male depression symptoms and treatment ...HELP ME OUT MEN!?

Question

Can you tell me some of the symptoms of male depression ...from a PERSONAL experience? Please do not cut and paste. I have read many articles on this already.I know most men dont want to admit their problem could be depression for fear some might find it a "weakness" but to those of you that have suffered from it ...what were your symptoms and how did you treat it? Are their any herbal or natural remedies? vitamins? I am sure my friend is depressed and I know he is so MACHO he wont go see a doc so are their any measures he can take w/o being prescribed meds? And can premature ejaculation be caused by this as well? I know that not being able to maintain an erection is a symptom of depression but i havent heard of premature ...being one?

THANKS FOR THE AZZHOLE ANSWERS SOME OF YOU! BUT THE AGENDA ONE SPOKEN OF BY ONE MAN IS TRUE..MY AGENDA IS CALLED CONCERN FOR THE MAN I LOVE!DUH...!AND I MEANT SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION IN MEN. AND HECK YES SYMPTOMS ARE VERY DIFFERENT IN MEN. TRY LOOKING INFO UP FROM THE MAYO CLINIC.(ONE OF THE MOST RESPECTED PLACES IN THE COUNTRY! MAYBE I SHOULD SIMPLIFY MY QUESTION.
IF YOU HAVE EVER SUFFERED FROM DEPRESSION AS A MALE,CAN YOU PLEASE TELL ME WHAT SOME OF THE SYMPTOMS WERE AND HOW DID YOU CURE IT! THANKS!

Answer 1

There is more than one kind of "depression" - there is conditional depression, like when one loses a job or a mate, and then there is clinical depression - which requires medical intervention - sometimes drugs, possibly psychotherapy.

I've been depressed at times, but it was never "clinical", only I didn't realize that until recently. My "depression" was always situational - I was really low on money, or deep in debt, or I had lost a girlfriend - things like that.

As to the premature ejaculation being related I don't know, but I would guess that this is a different problem based simply on being "overly" sexually excited. There are ways to deal with this - the "lesson" I was taught was "just keep going" or "keep it up". Truly serious clinical situations will probably require some kind of therapy, but giving medical advice is not only not a good idea but it might even be illegal if (yours truly, etc.) you don't have an M.D. license. If your friend truly has this problem they should seek assistance. I had to get counseling (for vocational counseling and relationship counseling) once, and although it was the toughest decision I ever had to make, it turned out to be one of the BEST decisions I ever made because my life got a LOT better afterwards.

Answer 2

The main symptoms and signs of depression are the following:

persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood
feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex
decreased energy, fatigue, being "slowed down"
difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
appetite and/or weight loss or overeating and weight gain
thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
restlessness, irritability
persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain

Answer 3

talk therapy. Set your life in order, maintain a daily routine of getting up at exactly the same time every day and going to bed at the same time making sure you have 7-8 hours of sleep, whatever works for you. If you have FMS could be 9-10. Eat regular meals. Find a hobby. Make sure you enjoy your job, if you don't take action to find a new one. If you do not like your industry go back to college in September. See a financial consultant and make sure you have a plan of action for your finanical affais. Enjoy where you live if not, make changes to make your environment more appealing, if not move. Down size if finances are an issue. Look at your personal relationships. Are they satisfying? Is there anything you can do to improve them. Consider letting go of relationships that are not supportive of you or are toxic. Set a boundary and say goodbye to these people in a letter, tell them why and end it. If you are unhappily married consider everything you can do to improve your marriage. Spend more time with your children whether if you feel like it or not. Go fishing, go for a hike, go play basketball or baseball at the park. Throw a frisbee. Thow a ball, go the the amusment park, go camping. Do you have religious orientation? Do you have to reevalute your faith? Should you be returning to it or letting it go? Depression is a sign for a need to change. You need to love yourself and take the action required to act on that love. Taking an antidepressant in my opinion only 'numbs' your brain so you can put up with what is wrong in the first place. Anger issues, you might want again to consider talk therapy to try and figure out why you are angry. Best of luck.

Answer 4

having waged war on my own depression for years, I've been agoraphobic at times, had anxiety attacks, didn't feel like eating when I knew I should; during the blackest of days, as long as I had a porno, and beer, I never had to leave the house.

St.John's Wort is touted as the herbal equivalent of prozac, (I haven't tried it,) and the solution I've always used is to simply force myself to start doing things. I've mowed the lawns of neighbors, just to be up and moving, I've paid the toll of the complete stranger behind me, and I adopted a dog. Many times I go through the daily routines just for the dog.

As to doctors, it's not a case a machismo, so much as it is a case of not wanting to know if something's wrong with us. If I don't know about it, and can treat it with analgesics or alcohol, it doesn't bother me. I'll go to a doctor when I'm obviously sick, such as a recent case of shingles.

And there's the factor of money and time. If you don't have the money to spend on a doctor's appointment, you could die in the average ER waiting room while waiting for treatment you can't afford to start with, which sends you off to the free clinics and public hospitals, where you're likely to wait as long as it takes a candy striper to notice that you've died in your chair.

Maintaining an erection hasn't been a problem, nor has premature discharge.

The best advice I can give you, (qualified by being friends with a psychotherapist who insists on driving me batty with batteries of questions well outside the realm of friendship,) is to leave him alone; he'll find his own solution, or he won't. If he really is suffering from depression, rather than a dark mood because his football team lost, and he won't seek help, the only thing you can do is wait until intervention is necessary.

Trust me, you'll know when intervention is necessary.

For the time being, if he's functional and capable of taking care of himself, you'll likely cause more harm than good by getting in the way of letting him deal with it his own way. He'll be able to see you more as a friend than someone interloping on his private life if you wait until you have to intervene rather than continually pestering and nagging at him.

If he looks like he's pulling it out, encourage him. If he keeps getting darker and darker, and shows the signs of imminent self destruction, intervene. If he buys a pistol, call the cops immediately.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

There is no such thing as "male vs. female" depression as depression is not like PMS and gender specific. Depression, which exists in various forms from Chronic, to Seasonal Onset, can afflict either sex and has basically the exact same symptoms. Where did you get this bit of folk nonsense about "male" depression? Here's a common type of anxiety (as opposed to depression) that can afflict males: Performance (sexual) Anxiety. Perhaps your friend has that.
He's not depressed, he's neurotic!

Answer 6

this I can tell you ,the thing is that some of us guy don't won't others to know about those kind of problems .
about the erection if there is something bothering in your head or when nervous it can prevent your erection
and the premature is not one that's a mind thing I can control it either, so try talking to him relief his head,THEN CALL ME IN THE MORNING NO MEDICINES NEEDED

Answer 7

Lol, every woman always has an agenda. It's never 'really' about the other person. Anyways, have him see a doctor.