Hi, we are going to put our baby in her own room tonight for the first time. We have a very small flat and her room is right accross from ours. How did it go for you all and is there anything you can offer tip wise? Thanks in advance.
2007-11-26 02:27:32 · 25 answers · asked by brunelscooby 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Well now that you have heard all of the stories about how wonderfully easy it was for people (what fairly land do they live in and how do I move there?? LOL) here's how it went when at 5 weeks old we moved my boy into his own room/cot because we weren't getting any sleep with him in our room. My little guy snored and wiggled and babbled in his sleep and I woke for every single little noise.
The first night, after a few minutes he cried. After about the 5th trip into his room to comfort him without picking him up he got hysterical. After about the 10th time of picking him up, calming him down and putting him back he fell asleep mid scream. He slept for 5 hours straight for the first time. Woke up for his feeding, put him back in the cot and stayed beside him while he cried himself to sleep again. He woke up and cried until I got him in the morning.
2nd night he just skipped right to hysterical screaming when we put him down. In every 5 minutes to calm him until he fell asleep mid sob this time instead of mid scream. Night time feeding was easier as I just held him till he went to sleep and then put him down.
3rd and 4th night when we put him down he fussed, cried a little, I only went in maybe 2 or 3 times and he fell asleep. He went right back to sleep after his feedings until daylight and then he came into our room so I could get a couple more hours sleep.
5th night, I put him down drowsy, he smiled at me, stretched out and went right to sleep.
It took another couple of weeks to get him to stay in his crib all night, he still wanted to be up at 5am but as he got older and we got a more stabilized routine he now goes to bed around 8, wakes once or twice to eat at night and then wakes between 8 and 9. Very rare that he cries when in his crib unless something is wrong (he's teething right now so we get the odd night of crying cause his teeth hurt). Sometimes he doesn't want to go to bed, especially if we have had a busy day and he is over tired or if we have company he wants to stay up (he's only 4 months old but he hates missing any moment of action). Generally though he'll fuss and talk, not cry.
We have a FP Aquarium that he likes to watch and he will sometimes turn it on himself at night if he wakes up and doesn't want to eat. I also have one crib toy firmly attached to the crib that he can't get wrapped up in or smooshed against for him to play with on the mornings he thinks 6am is wake up time!
Routine - establish a firm routine. He knows that pj's go on, we sit in the special comfy chair, he eats, I sing, he goes in the crib to sleep. Try to keep it to roughly the same time each night.
Perseverance, patience and nerves of steel. Be firm but it doesn't mean you can't comfort and cuddle her when she gets upset, but don't cave, put her back in her cot. The 5 days of difficulty I went through has now allowed both baby and me and hubby to sleep much better.
I hope your baby is one of these easy to move babies, but if she isn't that's ok too. The one thing babies are good at is learning and if you are consistent, patient and loving you will soon have your bedroom back to yourself.
2007-11-26 03:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by babybugs1980 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi There
My little boy is 14 weeks old today and has been in his own room since he came home. Like you his room is directly opposite ours but what I did do up until a month ago was put him in his moses basket then put the moses basket in the cot. He was used to the surroundings and the security of the basekt. After a week I started putting him in the cot on his own for his day time naps then progressed to nightime
He now quite happily goes to bed without any fuss and seems to enjoy his cot. I have a fun cot bumper and loads of noisey toys etc that are voice activated so if he cries there is something to reassure him
One tip my mum gave me(she was a midwife) was to put a loud ticking clock near his cot. The sound is reassurung and a nightlight.
Good luck it will go fine
2007-11-26 12:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by nicewoman35 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My little boy is 20 months & we are just decorating his room for him to go in now & my other two were the same. I didn't want them away from me until they were old enough to call if the needed me or get up & come through to me. He will also have a monitor so I can hear whats going on. I was not in a hurry because I believe that children are most vulnerable at night & need their parents, If anything was to happen to my kids at night I would never have forgiven myself so why take the risk. All my children were fantastic sleepers & when they did go into their own room they were old enough not to be scared by it, instead it was a big adventure! I don't understand mums who abandon their new babies straight away & put them in their own room. If their baby got into trouble in the night they may not hear them & it's sad for a little baby to be on it's own - it's so defensless. I am looking forward to my last child leaving our room since we have not had our own room for 4 years but it is actually a small sacrifice I made to protect their safety & help them feel loved & secure.
2007-11-26 10:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by spice2504 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My baby was about six months when we put her in her own room. She'd gone from being in bed with me, to next to my bed, to across the other side of the room and she was happy with her cot so there were no problems. I think she slept better once she wasn't being woken up by mummy and daddy snoring!
You say you live in a small flat I wouldn't bother about a baby monitor. We live on 2.5 levels with the baby's room in the middle and we don't have any problem hearing her from anywhere in the house if she wants attention in the night!
And, please, don't go in for every snuffle and whimper, she'll learn to self comfort and sleep better if you let her get on with it sometimes. If she's crying, then go to her and comfort her and let her know you're close by, but trust her to get herself off to sleep if she's just muttering.
Good luck!
2007-11-26 11:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old is your baby?? My boys slept in their own room when they were about 1-2 weeks old. My daughter, slept in her crib in our room until she was 9 months old. She's now almost 11 months old. She did great moving into her room. It was like she knew it was time. No fights or anything. You all will sleep much better now. The first week sucks, b/c you constantly worry about them, but just get a baby monitor. Good luck!
2007-11-26 10:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
gosh i remember my daughters first night in her own room and i dreaded it !!! I really missed having her in the room with me, but she slept much longer than normal and to her it wasnt a big deal at all !! She was 6 months old and was fine. All babies are different just try not to make it a big deal, and if she cries, go into her but dont pick her up, try just sitting on the floor by her cot and singing or reading to her, your voice will sooth her. Good luck :)
2007-11-26 14:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ktloop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im doing exactly the same just now.
My daughter is 6 months and the first night i put her into her cot she screamed blue murder!! I think it was the size of the cot thats scaring her so for the last two nights ive put her into her basket and put that in the cot to get her used to her new surroundings first!
Take it slowly and let her guide you. Some people say let them scream it out but all that done for my baby was make her hot, teary and upset!
2007-11-26 11:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick up a baby monitor if you don't have one. That helps a lot. It is okay to go in and check on baby a million times if you feel the need too. For my baby it went fine she liked the cirb b/c she could sprawl all out. Hubby and me sleep a bit better now b/c we don't wake up to her moving around. Just have some patince with this also and it should go by okay.
2007-11-26 10:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had a small flat, too. In fact it was a one-bedroomed flat.
We put wheels on her cot and then put daughter to sleep in her cot in our bedroom at night; when we went to bed we wheeled her cot across the landing to our living room.
She didn't have her own room till she was just over 3 and slept in the cot till then (we left the side down for her to get in and out for visits to the loo in the night).
We had no problems - she just accepted it as kids accept most other things at that age.
2007-11-26 10:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a good baby monitor so you can still obsess about baby's breathing(don't worry, we all do it!) and if so far baby has been in a moses basket till now then just put the mosses basket in the cot and baby in the basket as usual, helps baby get used to room, but to be honest your baby will probably appreciate being able to stretch out!
oh yeah, a very important tip, get contraception sorted as goodness knows what mum and dad will get up to now they have some privacy!!!! enjoy! x
2007-11-26 11:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by JENNY B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It went great for us. We put him in there when he was about 2 weeks old. He would only wake up twice through the night. It was easier for him to go to sleep. It was hard for us because he was further from us. But we got used to it in a few weeks.
I would recommend putting a baby monitor and a night light in the room.
Good luck.
2007-11-26 10:34:09 · answer #11 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋