This girl says she found the number and decided to call to see how my husband was doing. She left info that she was married with two kids. My mother-in-law told my husband this in front of me. Do you think her motives were innocent (the mother in law)? My husband can't think of who it could be. I'm not worried, but thought it was wierd that she would share such info with us. My mom would never do this. What do you think?
2007-11-26 01:56:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't read too much into this.
Keep in mind that your mother in law gave your husband a message, she didn't give your number to this girl. I'm not sure why you think its weird for her to share this information with you. What is she supposed to do with it, keep it to herself? She probably shared this information if front of you because she didn't want to do anything that might be construed as her leaving you out, or plotting against you.
2007-11-26 02:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship with your mother in law than I say yes her motives were innocent. I say, she either said this in front of you to make you angry or to not have you find out later and think your husband was sneaking around. If you have a good relationship with her I would just ask her and tell her how you felt.
2007-11-26 02:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by doctor love 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's the past and sometimes people wonder what happened to certain people from their lives from once upon a time ago. I think your mother in laws intentions were pure, if they weren't she would have told him behind your back. And if you think about it, she was giving the information that she is happy and settled and just checking up on an old friend to see if maybe he is doing as good as she is or to just see how he is after so many years.
2007-11-26 02:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel it was innocent enough. At least she told him this in front of you instead of behind your back!!
Some old school friends like to catch up and check up on old school mates. Haven't you even thought of any good old friends ( males) from high school and wondered how and what their up too? I had alot of busy bodies from my school who didn't and don't give a sh*t about the guy's from our class who are married they call to be nosey. They must be ones too who are either bored with their own marriages, or better yet very secure!
Don't let it bother you!
2007-11-26 02:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does it bother you? Has he had a track record of cheating on you? Old friends, male & FEMALE will resurface throughout life. Why his mother didn't tell him & you who it is, is beyond me. That part is a bit of a wonder! If I were you, I'd point blank ask her why she would tell you guys who this gal is? Tell her, you'd both love the chance to connect with her & her husband! This should put "mom" on the spot & you just called her out...
2007-11-26 02:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... all sounds ok... but, did this girl ask for your husband to contact her? or did she leave contact info? if she did... the mother in law should have also stated that he does not keep in contact w/ girls from high school since he is married now... and she should have also said she should not be calling if she is married... sounds like mother in law is niave a bit... hmmm... don't worry about hubby if he does not try to "look her up too"... but, ya, mother in law needs a talking to, so she tells this woman to buzz off if she calls again...
2007-11-26 02:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't worry about it too much....maybe she just felt comfortable letting the both of you know that someone was trying to contact your husband... If you have a MIL from hell who is always trying to stir up trouble...then perhaps her motives weren't so innocent....
2007-11-26 02:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she said it in front of you, then you know she isn't trying to hide it from you. I don't know what your relationship is like with your MIL, but mine would tell my husband in front of me too. Not because she was trying to make some evil point, but just because she would be making conversation with him and she wouldn't think anything about telling him in front of me. She knows he would tell me anyway, so why not cut out the middle man and have the conversation out in the open. It doesn't sound like it was malicious to me.
2007-11-26 02:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds totally innocent. The woman is married and wants to reconnect with an old friend. I would be upset if she told him behind my back. And then I found out.
2007-11-26 02:01:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's also what they have class reunions for, it isn't a big deal in and of itself.
Your husband's reaction is what you should be concerned with. If you makes big efforts to re-connect, then maybe you have something to worry about.
2007-11-26 02:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋