When making an important decision is it better to follow your head or heart, in matters such as your future, children, divorce?
2007-11-26 01:41:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
which has served you better in the past? following your heart probably led you to the man that you're trying to divorce & escape from now, didn't it?
2007-11-26 01:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by Redrum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both are needed to make these decisions. I read here, and by tradition, women continuously make the stupid remark "follow your heart", this is why women end up, broken hearted, screwed up, pregnant, single parents and the highest statistically to live on the poverty line, women also have a higher rate of mental breakdowns, so you tell me! No other decision on earth and about anything, is made with the heart, the heart has no thought process, nor logic, so why would anyone go strickly with the heart? When you child is deathly ill would you go to a Doctor or a very kind person with a great big heart, before a surgeon operates do you care if he's educated or "follows his heart? We have machines that keep the heart going, once the brains gone, your just plain dead. What's even scarier is the number of young girls who are taught this! It takes both Brains and Heart to survive in the world.
2007-11-26 02:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pertaining to one's future i'd say the head's a good place
to start, so it stand's to reaon one educate's themselves.
Now as for the children and divorce, well, unfortunately
and most ironically, one enters into this alliance with
another, because of what was suspposed to be in our
hearts to begin with, i mean who listens to there head
when there in love? so obviously the heart is a major
player in deciding these events . . .
To answer your question precisely, when it come's to
children, the head must win out if not, the courts will be
only to happy to accomendate . . .
divorce no matter how well thought out is always based on emotions, just like love, but in reality one neither need's
the heart or the mind to know who'll suffer the most from it.
Always go with the head, cause you never when you'll
give your heart away again . . .
Bottom line, i'd say anything that has to do with the heart
would be wise to consider the head first . . .
good luck 2u . . .
2007-11-26 02:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Ben 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must listen to both and make a decision based on all aspects. Following your heart in many cases is a bit too irrational. Your heart wants to believe that it can outdo all, but it really can't. But if you decided everything with your head, it might be the right answer on paper, but you could be miserable with the choice. It is a matter of looking at everything and then deciding.
2007-11-26 02:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little bit of both, but mostly your head. Your heart is too tied up in emotions to make a sound decision. Your mind usually has a more realistic view on the situation, not clouded by feelings.
2007-11-26 01:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by gatsgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it have to be an either/or situation? The head doesn't always conflict with the heart and if it does, then you're in too many of those situations. When making large decisions, you should NEVER let your logic, reason, instinct, or gut be left out. While it's romantic to think we should just all make every decision with our hearts, it's just not wise.
2007-11-26 01:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Children first. Sounds like you already made some mistakes. Here are some secrets you should know if you haven't learned them yet:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat
3. Marriage sucks
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want honest answers from a man that doesn't
lie anymore.
2007-11-26 03:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would never follow my heart because your heart is easily fooled...and for some reason in this day of time people like to play with your head! So go by facts..
2007-11-26 02:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by heavansangel52973 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either way you loose.
I followed my head and married giirl B over girl A
We have been married for 18 years now but I always think about girl A and how things might have turned out with her.
No winning situation.
your future - your head
children - your head (especially if you are contemplating a divorce)
divorce - your head (if it's bad - run) you can't make it better and he won't change.
2007-11-26 04:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by old-softy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your head or course, use your common sense and the brain God gave you. Emotions are crazy things and they don't always lead us in the right direction. We often ignore the good sense our head is trying to get us to see for what our heart feels.
Your head is the best bet!
2007-11-26 01:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋