i knew my bf for 2 years now and when we decided to get married his mother refused and we cant do it untill she says ok :-s he's tryin' to persuade her in vein she thinks that im not suitable for him b cuz she saw us kissin' once :-s i mean WTF tell me what to do,anything except leavin him
2007-11-26 01:17:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well she knew that i was good for her son untill she saw the kiss ... cuz that means for her that i am a ****
2007-11-26 01:23:34 · update #1
I don't have any incredible words of wisdom for you except that I feel for your situation, that would be incredibly frustrating. What in the world could you do, but leave him, or convince him to go against his mother, which from what I understand of your culture is a very difficult thing to do.
I know your situation is serious, but I thought you might get a chuckle out of this:
http://despair.com/tradition.html
By the way, I have a great deal of respect for your culture and I do not think it is stupid.... best of luck to you.
2007-11-26 01:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by blujello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two need to talk to his mother. Tell her that kissing was a mistake and you two won't do anything else and wait till marriage. Also say that you really need her blessing and get to know her. If she knows you and sees that you respect their culture/traditions, then it will work out. Because she saw you two kissing she might be thinking you will corrupt her son. As silly as this may sound but its the truth. So talk to her. Get to know her so she can also get to know you too. She is just being stubborn because she is afraid you will take her son away from her and make him turn against her. The whole corruption theory.
I am also from the middle east and I know how it is. Luckly for me my fiance's parents love me to death and my parents love him. Get close to his mother and create a good relationship with her. Promise her that you will take care of her son and respect everyone in the family. Good luck and all the best. I pray you get your way.
RK
2007-11-26 09:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every country have some stupid traditions, think of the Americans they have this stupid Halloween stuff, in my country we have some stupid traditions too, think of this one, if there is a friend or relative that died, the night before the funeral friends and relatives come together and sing eat and rejoice. But what you can do is to try and talk to her your self , get to know her, be a friend to her, who knows she may just change her mind faster than you think!. If that doesn’t work then both of you can visit another country and do your thing and go back home
2007-11-26 09:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful.
Its amazing that the moral police didn't throw you in jail for kissing.
That is what would happen in iran. Being muslim and cheeky, doesn't mix.
You need to show some kind of restraints ... or as the other person mentioned, move to a country where you can PDA all you want.
Good Luck!
2007-11-26 09:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by WhereTheBuffaloRoam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, where you live traditions are very powerful. If she got to know you she might change her mind that you could be good for her son.
2007-11-26 09:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are lucky to live in the middle east and be able to have a boyfriend instead of an arranged marridge... alot of people i know would be so afraid of their family.... ever heard of honor killings? that happens over there might want to look it up... and the answer to your question try and get to hang around his mother to get to know you better
2007-11-26 09:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by *´`*♥♡Sarah☺ Beanz♡♥*´`* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a foul mouth young lady. Cursing like a sailor is not attractive. No wonder she doesn't like you for her son.
2007-11-26 09:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's not your fault.
sometimes there are just some things we did
that we just can't undo.
so move on.
try to change his mom's opinion of you.
instead of hating his mom,
try to look for something you like about her...
then look for something she likes and make her like you!
it's not going to be easy,
but if you really love this guy,
and it seems that you really do...
then you've got to do all you can!
Good Luck!
2007-11-26 09:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lullipy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats their tradition and you can't do anything about it. If you can't leave him, I suggest theres no other way but to adopt to their tradition. "If you can't beat them, join them" principle.
2007-11-26 09:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by Joeyboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your guy should emigrate to a country where you can be free.
2007-11-26 09:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋