2007-11-26 00:56:48 · 15 answers · asked by Bibi B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you know the answer or you would not have posted this question. You have to be moral and ethical and true to your marriage vows. You can be a friend, but you cannot be her/his lover. You know in your heart it is wrong.
2007-11-26 01:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by David M 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your question is the perfect example of why married people should not have friends of the opposite sex.
Your kind of friendships may start out innocently enough, but you're walking on a slippery slope. With friendship comes loyalty, and that loyalty ends up displacing the devotion you have for your spouse. You are in a big mess now. No matter what you do, someone is going to get hurt. The right thing to do is to end your friendship, and that means that you and your 'friend' are going to get hurt. If you pursue a relationship with your friend, then your spouse is going to get hurt. If you have children, they will be affected by that decision as well.
End the 'friendship' and vow to never put yourself into this kind of mess again. Then allow your heart to return back to your marriage.
2007-11-26 01:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, acted on it, and no longer have contact with a dear friend.
It's tough to get over "in love" with someone you don't see often. Please be comforted that the powerful infatuation you feel is a passing thing; it will settle down eventually.
It would be wise to throw yourself into your marriage. Put yourself 100% behind the promises you made. One of those promises probably sounded like "foresaking all others" - devote your physical and emotional energy to your marriage.
That doesn't mean that you get everything you need from your spouse; far from it. Dear and cherished friends are part of your support system. But lingering thoughts of romance can be a real problem. If your friend hits a rough spot and gets willing to 'stray' then the situation will probably get out of hand very quickly, it will be discovered, and it all gets very ugly after that.
2007-11-26 01:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is like that... fidelity... and trust. I expect you are wanting someone to say it's allright for you to sleep with this other woman because you are using words such as love and feelings and friendship. But you chose to marry your wife and stay faithful to her. This will be the ultimate test of your marriage vows. It's going to be extremely difficult for you, but I hope you choose fidelity.
2007-11-26 01:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It,s not love, it,s called lust or you may simply be fantasizing about this guy, somtimes in life and marriage we women can get bored especially if we got married and hadnt reached our full maturity level, thats what it boils down to, most married women can easily overcome these feelings and needs because they are mentally commited to their marriage, get it thru your head, you are infatuated with this guy and to act on your feelings can lead you down a road of disfunction and drama, not a good place to be, so get your head on straight and think before you act.
2007-11-26 01:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like what you've said you are both married meaning the feeling is forbidden.Come on think about your family and your children if you have.Think what will happen if you will follow your feelings.Just stay away from your friend.You had to forget him/her. for your family's sake.Try to forget what you feel because you know to yourself that it isn't right.hope i help
2007-11-26 01:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Ahn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take any chance.you may ruin all the 4 of your lives and happiness. you are blessed with a good partner, and also have a good friendship with ur friend. whenever u get tat kind of feel,see your partner's face...lead a pleasant life
2007-11-26 01:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Cheers of Love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what it is your wife lacks and she has and try to invest time in upgrading your wife to match the woman you like ...its not the same but if you love your wife chances are the frind is just a fatal attraction...invest in your marriage!
2007-11-26 01:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by GUMCHEWER 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer in following your heart, but in this case I think you should keep your feelings to yourself unless your situations change. Sounds more like infatuation to me.
2007-11-26 01:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get really good advice at www.survivinginfidelity. com---this site is great for advice on all kinds of situations. Good luck sweetie.
2007-11-26 11:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋