Advice on building good relationship with nanny?

Question

I am a work-at-home mom who will be going back to work shortly. Our new nanny will be starting.

I would really like us to have a good working relationship and be on the best terms. For her, I would like this to be a very positive work experience and as she has been looking for a long term position, that she will stay with us for many years to come.

I have had some pretty miserable bosses before so I understand that her happiness or lack of it at work largely will be in my hands.

Parents - Any tips for me?

Nannies - Any particular reasons why you would choose to leave a job? Or what makes your job especially difficult? How could the parents help to make life easier?

Please note that I am a work-at-home mom. I will be in the same room as the nanny the whole time. We have a small apartment in a city. I am not outsourcing. The nanny is here to take care of the house and to help me take care of the baby during the day while I work.

Answer 1

My wife is a nanny and here are what I think you should keep in mind

1) come home on time. She hates when her bosses don't come home on time and then want a long report of the day.

2) figure out a holiday schedule ahead of time

3) have a money cup so she do actives with the kids

4) don't pry into her person life

5) keep in mind it's a job for her and may not be interested in family gatherings. If she does come to a birthday party or something like that she should not be working unless your paying her.

6) if you want her to take the kids out then you should pay something for gas or provide a car.

Answer 2

Hi there and congrats on going back to work. I am a nanny and some ideas i have are:
1. Treat her as one of the family. No one likes to be treated as the help.
2. Make sure you have a contract that outlines all of your expectations as well as her. This helps with any communication down the line. www.nannycontracts.com, is a great place to get one if you need a great one. there are things you probably didn't think of before.
3. Be understanding to her ideas when it comes to your child, sometimes other people know different thing to stimulate the child's mind.
4. If you don't like the way she is doing something don't attack her in a negative way, talk to her in a calm way so that she doesn't feel like she got in trouble. If she feels this way she may not want to stay with you.
5. If you are going to be home interact with both the nanny and your child every now and then. yes you have to work but you are home and that way you can build a strong relationship with them.
6. Just use common courtesy, you would be surprised how a smile can change someones work day.

Good Luck i hope this helps you.

Answer 3

I am a nanny-worked for many families (and I have kids of my own). There is tons of advice to give!! First, since you will be there with the nanny, don't make it awkward! You need to seperate yourself from the kids while the nanny is there (let her know if you want to eat lunch with them, play with them at certain times). Make your kids aware that nanny is in charge when she is there,they don't need to run to you for everything, and if nanny says no you need to say no too! Both of you need to be agree on rules and consequences for the kids- and stick with it. Let nanny get out with the kids and go on excursions (being away from you helps her relationship with your kids and lets her breath not being under the magnifying glass all the time). Having nanny and mom home at the same time is rough! Second, treat her like a real employee just like at your own job...be clear on start times and end imes and stick with it, let her know asap if you are late. If you are late pay her time and a half. Giver her a christmas bonus/gift each year (great bosses give 1-2 week salary) and a 4 % or more pay increase on her anniversary each year (if you like her and want to keep her, if she's ontime, etc.). Plus a pay increase if you have another child. (nannies will almost always leave if they get more money elsewhere!). 1-2 weeks paid vacation is always a great perk, I never worked fulltime for someone who didn't offer that! And give her advanced notice of when you will be on vacation and will not need her(but in which case you still need to pay her for). There is a book out there for employers of nannies that staes all this as well, I think it is called the Nanny Handbook???

Answer 4

how old is the baby?
Do you want a live in nanny??

I was a live in nanny. I loved the kids but the family i lived with had two nannies one for the biy who was 10 and me to look after the 10 month old. i left because the family said i would get 2 days off a week. i worked with them for 2 months and i only ever got one day off. and the pay was crap i got $150 aus a week and i worked 56hrs a week. if you want to know anymore feel free to ask me

Answer 5

Try to make her feel like part of the family. Don't treat her like she is just an employee and you're the big bad boss. If you treat her more like a sister or a friend then she will feel comfortable around you and the family. If your nanny feels like part of the family then she will take better care of your kids and care for them with love.

Answer 6

you should supply your self permission to enable pass of this occasion. i comprehend the babies love you, and that they probably continually will. yet contsantly putting your self in an emotionally draining quandary is ultimately going to backfire on you. you should shrink all ties for now, till you have had a wager to go on your self, after which you will call the babies and communicate. And the lady pal (or is it the ex?) needs to supply up making you experience responsible by ability of telling you the way plenty her and her childrens care approximately you to the factor which you place your self there to assist and to make the babies happy on the fee of your guy or woman emotional nicely-being. decrease back out gracefully, clarify which you like it sluggish, and supply the lady pal time additionally to pursue her new dating. there is rather no explanation so which you would be in the photograph at this factor. this is going to reason tense thoughts and blended thoughts. Take a ruin from all of it. solid good fortune.

Answer 7

Richard C. Richard H
I checked profile(s). Obviously disturbed person according to other answers he has given. His first and only question in his Answers profile was racially charged ( not much in that mind of his). The coward doesn't allow e-mail, either.

Ignore him.

Answer 8

Why did you have a kid if you just want to outsource it ? Is your kid just a lifestyle choice ? I ask this seriously as this is how my mother treated me and I have hated her for it ever since. People should give more consideration to what their kids think and feel. It saves a lot of heartache later.