Have you ever been in a social gathering where you have felt out of place?
I hate this feeling...feeling of being shunned aside and ignored.
2007-11-25 22:55:10 · 20 answers · asked by Autumn 2012 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It doesn't bother me. I certainly don't feel intimidated by it. I just listen and take it all in. Eventually someone always feels uncomfortable that I am silent and observing, and then they ask me something directly and everyone listens because they are curious. There's an old saying about empty vessels making the most noise.
2007-11-25 23:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that other people are 'better' conversationalists than me sometimes they just don't talk about things that interest me.
If it is a topic I am passionate about then I can hold a conversation with the best of them, but ask me about the mating ritual of the south pacific song thrush, sorry I'm lost
2007-11-26 07:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Shades 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way out of this is to do what Shirley Valentine did and thats to talk to a wall or something. It works and soon you will have a crowd of people gathered around and you will be the center attention. Do you know that I think that I will try that myself?
2007-11-26 07:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was just at a charity coffee morning and this group of ladies were chatting really loudly and confidently and I was kind of part of the group nodding and stuff!! Felt like a loser-knob!! Generally I am v confident but today as I am a bit flat the conversation was so not flowing!!!!!
2007-11-26 07:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Hencor72 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. If you are with great talkers then you have to be a great listener. Then everybody will be happy. You do know that talking is not the only means to communicate. You have body language to use and project to others what is in your heart. What people would want from you is your sincerity.
2007-11-26 07:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by Gentle Breeze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are not perfect at everything. You excell over them in other areas. To improve you conversation techniques, read widley, watch the news, be more socially active. You could also write the highlights of your day in a diary. That way you remember interesting things you can pass on.
You are who you are. Do not compare yourself with others - it will simply get you down.
2007-11-26 07:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a great listener and like to know about people. Ask questions and the other talks; people remember good listeners. Sounds like you are shy like me. Ask things about others such as, 'What does your job entail', pets etc.
2007-11-26 07:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dave was bragging to his boss one day, "You know, I know everyone there is to know. Just name someone, anyone, and I know them."
Tired of his boasting, his boss called his bluff, "OK, Dave, how about Tom Cruise?"
"No dramas boss, Tom and I are old friends, and I can prove it."
So Dave and his boss fly out to Hollywood and knock on Tom Cruise's door, and Tom Cruise shouts, "Dave! What's happening? Great to see you! Come on in for a beer!"
Although impressed, Dave's boss is still sceptical. After they leave Cruise's house, he tells Dave that he thinks him knowing Cruise was just lucky.
"No, no, just name anyone else," Dave says.
"President Bush," his boss quickly retorts.
"Yup," Dave say's, "Old buddies, let's fly out to Washington and off they go. At the White House, Bush spots Dave on the tour and motions him and his boss over, saying, "Dave, what a surprise, I was just on my way to a meeting, but you and your friend come on in and let's have a cup of coffee first and catch up."
Well, the boss is very shaken by now but still not totally convinced.
After they leave the White House grounds he expresses his doubts to Dave, who again implores him to name anyone else.
"The Pope," his boss replies.
"Sure!" says Dave. "I've known the Pope for years." So off they fly to Rome.
Dave and his boss are assembled with the masses at the Vatican's St. Peter's Square when Dave says, "This will never work. I can't catch the Pope's eye among all these people. Tell you what, I know all the guards so let me just go upstairs and I'll come out on the balcony with the Pope."
He disappears into the crowd headed towards the Vatican.
Sure enough, half an hour later Dave emerges with the Pope on the balcony, but by the time Dave returns, he finds that his boss has had a heart attack and is surrounded by paramedics.
Making his way to his boss' side, Dave asks him, "What happened?"
His boss looks up and says, "It was the final straw ... you and the Pope came out on to the balcony and the man next to me said, 'Who the f***k is that on the balcony with Dave?"
2007-11-26 06:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by Alice C 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Cultivate a reputation as a listener.
2007-11-26 07:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would feel suppressed. Sometimes I just seriously can't think of anything to say!
2007-11-26 06:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by ningning 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋