http://www.lovethingy.com/the-girl-i-love-i-wanna-let-go/
2007-11-25 22:04:52 · 11 answers · asked by ericka 5 in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
This story of unselfish love struck a responsive cord for me because I lived it . I did not have a wife causing a problem. My problem was the DOM (dirty old man) concept. I felt for a tired ugly old foreign man to use his wealth to take advantage of a sweet young poor Filipina to be an ugly form of prostitution. A "business" arrangement disguised as "love". I saw so many of these empty relationships. While the young girls profitted, there was often an emptiness in their eyes.
I rationalized that it was her choice, but I still felt uncomfortable.
After a very difficult five year relationship, I finally got to a point where I felt her love. I offered her all the financial benefits without the need to sacrifice herself, or her freedom. I supported her and her family, no strings attached. I encouraged her to date men she was attracted to, to live her young life with young people. Because her father was dead, I told her I would stand up at her wedding. I would support her and her young husband while they got an education and started their life together. I was ready to give her up as long as she was happy.
I admit I prayed she would see past the wrinkles and fall in love with my loving heart. But I had to endure the torture of three young handsome lovers. I had to endure the pain of her being ashamed of our "secret" relationship. I had to accept the emptiness of never having the love I had searched for all my life.
I believe that love is not so much what you "say", but how you live. A year ago there began to be little subtle changes in the "girl" I loved. She began to change her selfish insensitive ways. She began to turn away from other options and select to be with me. She was no longer ashamed of me; she even bragged to her friends about me. She began to care if I was hurt. Instead of just always taking; she began to give back. Even though I never gave her any reason to think I would stray, she began to worry I would leave. Dispite my assurances that she was and would be the only lady in my life, she began to worry I would stop waiting; stop supporting.
I told her she was not my first but she was the last. There would NEVER be a replacement. That no matter what happened in her life, I would always be here for her and her family. I offered her all her dreams, without a price tag.
Last month she accepted my five year old offer of marriage. I told her it was not necessary. I did not want an empty marriage or a sham love. She would gained nothing from marrying me and had everything to lose. A Filipina can only be married once. This is not a casual decision.
In the Filipino culture the wife is the heart of the family and needs children to truly fullfill her normal role. At my advanced age, having children involves many more risks for her and the child than it would under normal circumstances.
She insisted that I was the man she wanted as her husband. She was willing to accept all the negative and build a new life together. You never win the lottery unless you buy a ticket, take a risk.
We were married last month. I am excited about all the new adventures we will share. Of seeing the world anew through her eyes. Of helping her reach her full potential, win her dreams. No matter what happens tomorrow, today we are winners and happy.
My dream is that one day my wife will be old and grey, rocking on her front porch of her home surrounded by her family. She will gaze at the gloriously beautiful Philippine sunset and smile as she remembers the old man who once loved her. Taught her that love is giving not taking; sharing not using.
2007-11-26 01:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kojak 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-25 23:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by liliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad love story alright but he was right to let her go. The girl had no future with him, he will only destroy her. It is so rare to see or find a man who seriously considers a girl's plight or future if he can take what he can get no matter what it does to the life or the future of a woman. At least, the experience taught him the true meaning of love, one that comes from deep within and not something that is superficial or sexually gratifying. He was a real gentleman because he made the ultimate sacrifice for the woman he loved.
2007-11-26 00:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by annabelle p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a great story, but i want to tell u one thing that he has done good for leaving her because i think that every girl wants a right man and with some qualities that the girls always to have it. I m not saying that he is a bad person,he is amazing person ,peoples like him are very rare,and to be honest, he has done a great thing by leaving her,the exact meaning of love is sacrifice.he is really a great person and have a strong heart. Believe it or not,But one thing he has done wrong that by leaving the family,i.e,his wife because he married with her and he is her husband, and her life is in his hand and also by loving and caring,i think that she will come together as well.This is my opinion.
2007-11-26 03:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by Rahul B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a long story and sounds fake. To me, it sounds like a love story that was written by a woman but made to look like it was from the perspective of a man. That's just my own opinion.
If it were true then it's a tragic story of unrequited love.
2007-11-25 22:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by ken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one long story. Will read and get back at you..
..aaaw, it's sad. And I admire the guy for letting go. In life, there is "the one who got away" , "the one who ALMOST got away" and "the one I should let go"..
on another note sometimes I tell my friends not to entertain the idea of an affair. there is no such thing as harmless flirting. once you flirt, you open yourself to vulnerability. in most cases one ends up falling in love and hurts everyone in the process..
2007-11-25 22:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by battgirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a typical tale, possibly being 'replayed' in a million different versions all over the world - of a businessman who gets no physical satisfaction or mental stimulation, from his wife, until he finds both through another girl in another country.
...Problem now : His wife loves his money so very much, she will not grant him a divorce ! What is he to do ?!
The 'businessman' who narrates his version of this tale, comes across as a very indecisive, incompetent and weak-minded person - and makes one wonder how he could ever make his business a success !
2007-11-25 22:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Indychen 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its a story of a man of being directed by his other head. Not his brain. Young sexy woman tend to make us dumb.
2007-11-26 00:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by ... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fiction love story but could happen
2007-11-26 00:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Strategic Manipulator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
long story , love is funny
2007-11-25 23:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by Trasher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋