What is the problem with having female friends your wife doesn't like?

Question

Please I'd like to only hear from females.

My wife has asked me to stop talking to my best-friend. My best friend happens to be female.

My wife thinks my friend is very filirty with me. I don't see it?

Little help.

I live in Hong Kong & I met my friend when I worked in Australia 7 years ago. I see my friend every couple of years. I've been with my wife for almost 2 years.

Answer 1

well unfortunitly your wife is proberbly right..
the male species are very oblivoious to many things which women see completely..

my thoughts is that your wife is either right or someone who worries you'll leave her for another women because her insecurites come out when your sexy, skinny beautiful best friend is around?
do you have kids? if you do this would put alot of worry on your wife too.
i suggest you make a decison, who is more important to you? your wife or your best friend because ultimatly you will have to decide and choose.
either that or you sit your wife down, try to explain that theres nothing going on and HOPE she understands, but believe me im a women and even if i knew that my husband loves me to bits id still be very upset if his best friend was a women who he CONFIDES in when home life is too hard..

Answer 2

Every female has the fear that her husband will give in to temptation. Talk toyour wife about it and try to see it from her point of view. Ask her what your friend is doing that makes her uncomfortable and then ask your friend to stop doing it. Talk to them both together. If your wife has something to say to your friend, she can say it then. It's possible that it's just a misunderstanding, but it's also possible that your wife sees something you don't see. Sometimes when you think of someone as just a friend, they may do things that you dismiss as just playing around, or don't even see at all because you aren't looking.

Answer 3

Your situation sucks. Your wife does have partial right to tell you who she thinks your friends should be, but the question I have is, was your friend around before your wife? This is something that you have to think about. Now I am not saying to choose your friend before your wife, but your wife needs to know how to comprimise about the situation. Now if she became your friend, after the fact, that is some bullsh!t. Since i have been in an relationship, I don't need to make no male friends and if I have associates, thats all there all. Its all about who was around first, then go from there

Answer 4

I have opposite-sex friends also. Who was there first? How much time do you and your "best-friend" spend together? That could be the issue.

My best-friend (male) has been in my life "since birth" and my husband for 7 years. But I don't allow my best friend to monopolize my time, and I don't monopolize his. We hang out when we can, and talk when we can. My husband has met my best friend and approves of me spending time with him alone.

Your wife is insecure because most of the time when affairs happen it's between "best-friends." She MAY see something you don't with this friend of yours. Chances are, the friend is being flirty and your wife is angry about that. Sit down and talk to your wife, and ask her the problem that she truly has with your "best-friend." And then sit down and talk to your friend and set some boundaries. And if your friend is truly your friend and not out to ruin your marriage, then she will understand; here's the clue, if she gets mad and starts downing your marriage, she was out to ruin it (there are some girls like that).

Hate to break it to you: Most of the time women's intuition is correct about some friendships.

If that is the way your wife feels, I would accept it and find another friend to have; maybe include your wife in the friendship. Sometimes when you love someone (your wife) you make sacrifices for them, even friendships. I recently had to choose between having a friend of the opposite sex and my family, and guess who won..MY FAMILY!!! My husband saw something in this guy that I didn't.

Trust your wife..and LISTEN!!!

Answer 5

Try and look at it from your wife's point of view. This best friend may be over stepping the boundaries. Would you like it if another hetrosexual man was paying way too much attention to your wife? I think it's ok to have friends of the opposite sex but not if it makes your partner uncomfortable.
Put your wife first -always.

Hope this helps
Sharon

Answer 6

If your wife does not get along with your best friend, then you have to choose. The logical choice is your wife, unless you love your best friend more. In which case, you should have married your best friend.

Loyalty is important in a marriage. If you can not be loyal to your wife, you do not deserve her.

Answer 7

First of all you have to think why you married. Was your reason for marriage was love or production of children? If you loved your wife to marry her then it is obvious that she would be your best friend and life partner. Your wife's wishes comes before your other friends and any wife in their right mind would never accept anyone else in their position.

Answer 8

Your wife might right not sure sometimes you dont really notice but maybe you should try talking with her about it and your friend as well she might seem alittle worried that your friend is trying to come onto you