2007-11-25 21:14:37 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
that really happened to me. my best friend married a girl that none of us(groom's friends) can stand. i really wanted to say some things to him but the only thing i did was look him in the eye and ask "are you really really sure about marrying her?" he said yes.
I wished him luck after he said yes.
2007-11-25 21:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by ken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you stand him/her? Are you alone in that view or do most of your mutual friends feel the same?
As the potential bride/groom's best friend I think you have a certain obligation to make sure your friend is making the right decision for themselves. You should look objectively and see what they see in this person.
The right decision for them may be a person you can't stand, and if that's the right decision for them, you should support that decision and find a way to tolerate this person since they will be in your life.
If you talk to them do it for self-less reasons, not out of your own dislike of this person. Talk to them about wanting to make sure they are happy and comfortable with the decision. Unless you have direct firsthand information about negative things this person has said and/or done, you should not engage your friend in badmouthing this person; that will just drive a wedge between the two of you.
2007-11-26 05:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. Question is why can't I stand him? Is he mistreating her, obnoxious, a dead beat, or what? For those reasons, I'd tell my best friend where I stand/how I feel, but if she chooses to marry him, I'm still there for her and love her regardless.
2007-11-26 05:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is just to complain then no! If you're trying to break them up then only if this isn't her only shot at ever getting married in her life. If this person really makes her happy, don't say anything. If you honestly think she could find someone better like within a year, go ahead. But beware, she is probably loyal to this man, you don't want to cause problems.
2007-11-26 05:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by linda 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, a real friend would speak up. I wish someone would have talked to me before I got married .Now I've got to pay for the diviorce.
2007-11-27 16:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by kookski4639 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on the situation. Why can't you stand this person? And is your friend really in love with him/her? If your friend is truly in love I would suggest trying to figure out why you can't stand this person and try to overcome it. Love doesn't come around often.
2007-11-26 05:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by darline1154 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to let them make their own mistakes. I have two friends who married the wrong men and both knew it on their wedding day. They later divorced. I couldn't be the one to tell them as people don't believe you at the time, they only realise in hindsight.
2007-11-26 05:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Minki ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its your bf, I'm sure they already have a clue that their fiancee isn't your most favorite person. As long as your friend isn't getting hurt from them it seems like they must be happy together and I wouldn't want my selfishness to get in the way of that.
2007-11-26 05:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by SkaRox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my best friend will be engaged soon to a girl i 'less prefer' back in school.
but i dont say anything, maybe never will too. because i dont have the right and because he is my friend.
2007-11-26 05:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by Heaven Hill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they allow a time for it during the procession when the preist says "All those who disagree with this marriage, speak or forever hold your peace".
...make for a really akward moment though.
2007-11-26 05:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋