Do i have to be bad (again) to be loved and to cope in this freaking world?
2007-11-25 20:52:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
@strrrretch
when i'm bad i feel strong
when i'm good i feel like a wussie
2007-11-25 20:59:08 · update #1
It's not so much about being bad, it's about setting boundaries and not letting people cross them.
From my own experience, "devoted" often meant putting someone else's needs before my own. It's human nature (in any relationship) for people to often lose respect for people who are too self-sacrificing.
There's a book called "Why Men Love Bitches". While I didn't agree with all of it, there was some good suggestions in that book. Check it out.
2007-11-25 20:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by scorpiomoonbeam 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to cheat on your partner to feel more loved by them, then you might want to think about moving on to find someone else, or it's just an act of hate or revenge for your own feelings towards them. You don't have to be a doormat but being bad doesn't solve the fact that you feel unappreciated. What is their to cope with, guilt? Suspicion?
p.s you feel good when your bad, and feel bad when you not messing with people...um?....
2007-11-26 08:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by futurechild2365 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a guys knows he can do anything and you'll be OK with it then he will do anything. Being devoted and faithful are great but don't be a pushover. Set limits and establish what is and is not acceptable behavior.
2007-11-26 04:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by to the b. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing to have in romantic relationships is healthy boundaries, especially when relationships appear to be all about relaxing your boundaries. I suggest you read "Where I End And You Begin". Sorry I have forgotten the authors name. This book helped me stop being a doormat, showed me I could love without losing myself.
2007-11-26 15:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Just Be 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have met the wrong type of guy''s as i know there not all like that .Some would cherish and love you' just for being you.I have to found the same type of guy's out there' but i met one online; and i think he may be a keeper' but i'm not holding my breath on it.
2007-11-26 09:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be all or nothing. It's quite possible for a 'good' woman not to put up with crap, and to be treated with respect. The men around you can either appreciate having a good woman or p!ss off.
2007-11-26 10:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy--relatively harmless 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the law of averages, you just can't let guys do that to you over and over and over instead of you steamrollering them. We're all not perfect. Why not try something new. Reinvent yourself.
2007-11-26 07:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lance 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe to be too submissive is to invite mistreatment, don't be bad, try being strong
@Can't u try to be strong without being bad? Like making decisions that benefit u?
2007-11-26 04:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
you do not have to be bad, just find a guy who will not walk all over you
2007-11-26 04:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You just haven't found the right people to catch.
2007-11-26 05:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by Story Crew Agent KH-MMPPP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋