Is this it???

Question

My life is cr@p, each day I do things I *have* to do, none of which I enjoy - the housework, looking after my partners ungreatful kids, trying to earn money in a job I don't like, etc - I don't remember the last time I actually enjoyed myself, looked forward to something or felt good about something I was doing...my question is - does everyone feel this way? Am I just being a moan? Is this really all there is??

I don't have any spare money to do anything *fun* which costs anything either, & even if I had money, there isn't anything I can think of that I'd want to do anyway.

I'm just so incredibly bored & fed up with life.
It (my life) just seems like a complete waste of time if I'm bored & miserable throughout it all.

Any advice/thoughts??

I can't afford a baby-sitter - neither can the childrens biological parents - that's where I come in lol.

And I can't afford to join a gym...when I said I have no spare money I meant it lol

Answer 1

Oh you poor thing. Yes there is hope for you.

My advice is to see what is right in the world, instead of whats wrong.
How:
When you're driving and you're stoped at a light or in traffic look in the median at the plants, or at the mountains or sky. See how beautiful they are. It can create a drive that would normally seem frustraiting into a very calming and relaxing thing.

Fun does not take money. Fun is anything you can enjoy. Go for a walk or play with the "ungrateful" little munsters.

As for the kids.. they are kids. most kids dont appreciate the people that raise them until they have long since left the house.

Housework doesn't have to be a chore. It can be fun. I know this sounds strange, but its true. Think of how the house will be once its all nice and clean. Its a work in progress to keep it clean, so possibly try and include the kids in cleaning. Giving them chores while they're little gives them structure which is a good thing. When they're older its not as good.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel. Up until september I was a stay at home mum, which I loved, but it did get a bit boring and tiresome. I felt that all I was doing was cleaning and looking after the kids. I hardly had any time for myself. When my partner got home from work he was too tired to talk or do any thing. Now I'm back at work 3 days a week and it has done so much for me, I talk to other people, I feel like I have my life back.

My suggestions for you, (and I know how hard it is having kids and little money) are to maybe start volunteering 1 day a week in something you're interested in, maybe help at a youth club, or volunteer teaching English, or volunteer with the elderly. There is so much you could do, in your town there is probebly a voluntary centre which tells you all the places you could volunteer (ask the local council.)
Alternativly take up a course in something you're interested in, another language, social sciences anything. You'll meet new people and get out of the house.
I learnt spanish out of boredom when I was a lone parent of a 3 year old, I met new friends and even now 8 years on we still meet up and go for drinks.
Also for things to do as a family, museums are usually free and at weekends have loads of activities on for the kids. Go for long walk out doors, this tires them out and the excercise is good for mental health.

Above all stay positive, life is what you make it, and although things may seem bad now, it won't always be like this.

Answer 3

Take a rebellious day. Simply refuse to do anything, announce to your household that you are staying in bed with a good book and that the rest of them can fend for themselves. Get your coffee and breakfast and book and lock the door and get back into bed.

This is most certainly not all there is. It's just a short time you have to deal with this, those kids are going to become independent and move out, your job can improve, your partner can be coerced into doing more housework (the clue is in the word 'partner'). Right now, simply digging your heels in will only highlight how much you actually do for your partner and his family. Plus you can have a giggle while comprehension dawns ... Organise it on a day when you don't have to work, so at least you don't get into trouble with your employers.

Answer 4

alot of folk feel this way, spesh this time of year, get yourself out for a walk, do stuff thats free, when me and my hubby cant afford to go out we stay in have a nice meal, some wine etc, we still get dressed up as though we were going out its fun and keeps the sparkle abit! you sound like you need a hobby, maybe a college course some you can get are free or if you have a local womens centre they run free courses, your not alone girl and i know its a cliche but think of those who are less fortunate then you that dont have family, job kids etc!

Answer 5

thoughts: yes, i've been there, often. you're not alone.
advice: maybe, do what i did, which was a complete change of lifestyle. that could be anything. i now it's easy to say, and i had the freedom to do it (single, no kids), but you could find some way of doing something similar. possibly just a small thing at first, i don't know, get out, go to evening classes, develop a hobby, give yourself some space.

good luck

Answer 6

I think a lot of people feel this way,especially at this time of year.Try to do different things like cooking,going for walks,joining a gym, have a spring clean,clear out some old stuff on Ebay for some extra pocket money.

Answer 7

Gee Girl "You really painted yourself into a corner" have you got any family or a friend who'd put you up till you got back on your feet ? As you said this is your life, just walk out of there or you will go crazy. Even living on the streets sounds better, good luck.

Answer 8

my mum woz like that then she got herself a little job where her friends were. it's only for a cupple of hours when i'm at school and if you have lil children then get a baby sitter for a while during the day

Answer 9

Start a new life in another country!

Answer 10

go see a psychiatrist you are depressed