wife wants divorce?

Question

wife wants divorce i dont , we also have two boys age 9 and 7 my 9 years old son givers her a hard time every time i bring him back home and she blames me. she tells me i never keep my promises, but i told her this time i mean it i swear first she says she was unhappy for 10 yrs then 6months then now 14yrs been married 10yrs. known each other fo 14yrs. is she doing this for payback and does not really want the divorce, is she confused. how can i prove to her i will alwas and forever make her happy in are marriage and will never brake that promise again

Answer 1

It must be really tough to be in your position. Men usually don't have a clue what goes on inside women. You can't convince her that she should stick around. Suggest marriage counseling to her, see what she says, and if she says, "no, I'm done"...I guess you have to accept it and move on. I feel for you, because I might end up putting my husband in the same position here very soon. He's a great guy, but I think I've just fallen out of love with him...he just doesn't get it when I say there's a problem. He doesn't try to find solutions. When he does find a solution, he might work at it for a week or two. Then, I have to nag at him. If you're not putting in the effort, DAILY, it's going to go sour. And it's so hard to get it back after that. Good luck to you. Whatever happens, I hope it's for the best, for both of you.

Answer 2

You cannot always make someone happy. Your wife needs to understand that marriage is until death do you part, not until "you are unhappy". She only had one chance at marriage, she picked you. She needs to make the best of it.

What about the BIGGEST promise that she is breaking, "until death do you part". She is a hypocrite if she says you break your promises and then wants a divorce. She must have no idea what kind of damage that would cause your children as well.

Suggest counseling and work on it. Do everything you can to get her to understand that you are in it for life and you love her. I'm sorry she is being so foolish. It sounds like you both have major areas you need to work on.

Answer 3

tis a bit hard to accept now what u say that u will make her happy and u promise to keep yo promises!after 14yrs 10 yrs marriage-u should have done that from the beginning!most women r very patient to a person they love and can take all sorts- and if she says it she means it and its sometimes a bit too late too win any trust or beleive in a promise.i think she is right in blaming u about yo son u r the dad put them in check , and a son usually does what they see thier father doing! i think u have been complacent and neglectful?she cant be confused after 10yrs?!

Answer 4

Even if you love her as much as you can, you cannot convince or change her minds.It her to decide if she want to stay or go. Don't get me wrong, perhaps those are just threats for you to respond to her needs and perhaps give her attention. The moment you give a freedom to go, she would come up with reconcillation to work things out. As long as she turns you on your weakest part which she do know where you are weak ans she is taking advantage of you now, she won't stop doing it. If you truly know that you havent done anything wrong to justify her asking for divorce, don't stop her. Accept it. She is not going nowhere but play you around making herself serious etc for nothing.

Answer 5

I have no idea what promise you have broken and if you could use punctuation and complete sentences you'd probably get an informed answer.

Answer 6

Why would you want to stay with someone that don't want to be with you, have some pride buddy !!! if she ask me for one I wouldn't only say ok I 'd say here honey let me help you pack your bags, hit tha road baby, !!! my wife knows better then to say that to me because she knows what I'd tell her, I wish she would tell me that !!!!

Answer 7

stop making promaces you cant keep and try marrage couencling my opion?