will this child remember or forget me???

Question

I was in a serious relationship with a single mother for almost 2 years, we just broke up about 1 month ago - we had lived together and me and her son were inseperable - he thought I was his real father, he even called me daddy and thought the world of me, as I did of him, others referred to me as super dad. He just turned 3 years old. I was wondering if he will remember me down the road or will he forget me? he still asks about me everyday and it has been just over a month. The break-up was not my decision and I would never walk out on this child - but I have no choice. Will he forget me or will he remember me?

Answer 1

If the two of you are on speaking terms, I think it would be in the childs best intrest as well as yours to talk to her about still seeing him. It would be a shame for this child to think that you don't love him anymore.

Answer 2

This is really a sad situation. I hope that he remembers you, I don't know if your just wanting him to remember you or you still want to be a part of his life from here on out even you and her are no longer together, but I know that I have a 9 yr old son and sometimes I can tell him about things that happened earlier on in his life and I will say do you remember that and he will say no. I would tell this girl how I feel about this child, hopefully she will always let you be a part of his life, but then again if and when she gets another guy he may not want this. I hope you the best of luck in this situation and God bless you !!!

Answer 3

That is so sad, both for you and the 3 year old boy. I'm sorry you and the child can't have any time together. Will the boy's mother allow you to see him at all? Since you and the boy's mother were never married I don't think you have any legal right to see the child. At his age I would think the little boy will remember you for a while but probably not very long.

Answer 4

Wow this made me tear up. Though it is very sad, He will most likely forget you. I am sorry!! Unless he sees you often till he gets a little older like 5-6. he could possibly have 1 or 2 vague memories of you. but they will not be on his mind all the time when he gets older. He would have to be reminded prolly then he would say oh yeah I kinda remember a little of that that!!! If the mother speaks of you often and shows pictures of you often or he sees you often then his memory will be of what he hears all the time so he will think he remembers it but he will actually just remember being told. See when I was 2 my mom left my dad for another man she was only married to him for a year. I remember him very vaguely only cause he was in alot of pictures in my baby book and I still saw him 1 every couple of years till I was in High school. I also babysat these 4 kids they were all related I babysat them for 4 years when I started watching them the oldest was 4 the youngest was one. I also work for their Dad's (who were brothers) and saw them often at work. They used to think I was their aunt (I worked there for 6yrs) I then saw them last year 6yrs after I last saw them the oldest was now 16 and the youngest 13 and the oldest one still only vaguelly remembered me. See my conclusion was that they always say that kids minds are like sponges constantly taking in new info. so therefore the memory of me must have been mostly replaced with much more important info. Not that your not important but in the scheme of life your not as important as some other things. You are not his father which I'm sure your sad about. Always remember him and smile I'm sure he will be happy and healthy. again sorry for your loss

Answer 5

How much do you remember about your life when you were three? The child will forget. It is inevitable. It is also a good thing. On the other hand, talk to her and get her stance on your remaining to be a part of the child's life. Think of it as a "big-brother" type of relationship rather than as a father/son. If you truly care about the child, then this option would definitely be satisfactory.

Answer 6

That's terrible, poor kid. You know, my 5 year old has known my husband most of her life and she still remembers when she was 3 for whatever reason. By the way we got married when she was only 1. Children have awesome memory capabilities. Maybe, at the back of his head, you'll always have a special room in his thoughts.

Answer 7

What a loss if you lose touch with him. Do you think the mother would let you still be in his life? He needs you and this is really heartbreaking to read. There are so many children out there who are not lucky enough to ever find a father figure to love, help and guide them. I hope she will let you and her son still have a relationship.

Answer 8

Being so young, most likely he'll forget. But, the nice way you treated him will imprint on his personality, perspective of a loving relationship, sense of self esteem so it was worth it. Unfortunately, he is probably hurting and confused as to what happened to you. I hope you can maintain contact somehow like occasional visits or something for his sake and for sure he wont forget.

Answer 9

I remember back to when i was in a crib! I think the child will remember fragments of you. But..maybe you can suggest that you ask your ex if you can have some part in the child's life. If not.. then ask if you can send cards and maybe you can talk to the child when he becomes older.

Answer 10

It's so hard to remember especially since it's on at least 5 papers from the hospital and the baby's hospital bracelet..