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i lost my virginity to a jerk... im only 15 if my parents find out they're gonna kill me how do i get it back?????

2007-11-25 14:26:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Women's Health

my family is jewish and my mom is really strict on not letting boys touch me... we live in north carolina and im home schooled. im scared that he will say something and my parents will find out. please can someone help... im sure there is some way i can get it back. I am so ashamed, i never new about sex until he touched me and i didnt know what to do it just felt weird and now i regret it...i hate myself.

2007-11-25 14:39:23 · update #1

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Well I saw on the the view that theres this procedure in L.A where they can "put things" back into place... but I dont know if they're still practing that...all in actually I dont think you'd want to do that just take it as another lesson learned besides you may be able to physically change that but you cant forget it. You didnt go into much detail as to why he is jerk my guess is that he just wanted to take ur virginity or he cheated on you..if that the case Im sorry to hear that but you know what? And I TRULY belive this..what goes around COMES BACK around so dont worry he will get his. I've been cheated on too and I seen the karma happen so I know itll come to him. I suggest you wait a while before you have sex again at least untill you're 18...(believe me after that long its like youre a virgin again! at least thats what they say!) And I hope you used protection if not use for the next time and get tested!Next time really really read the boys signs (its a DEAD give away esp the boys ur age) they dont tend to hide thier intentions all that well. Can you just going to have to deny having sex untill you think your parents can handle the truth later on..
Also you can make the virginity pact with God and ask for his forgiveness and become a born again virigin...we all make mistakes and dont feel alone cuz Im waiting till marriage too!
Good luck girl and remember you're not the first and you aint gonna be the last that crap like this happens to. Take Care

2007-11-25 14:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by lilmiss 2 · 0 0

Hun... I've been there. I've made the mistake and now you can't erase it. I've thought about it as well and there's one last resort. When you're old enough and 100% sure, there is a procedure that restores the hymen to make it look like you bleed. You'll realize as you get older that virginity doesn't mean anything unless you are raised in a conservative household. You will find someone, you will marry. Your parents wont find it. Do not tell anyone. Do not speak of it. Pretend it never happened and DENY. It will probably remain a regret for a while but realize that the wisest men and women learn from their mistakes. I did.... I've never been happier, wiser, or stronger. Don't freak out... Don't give yourself in to jerks anymore. Guys especially look for girls your age to mess around with. Like I said, I've been there. I cried every night.... I had rumors all over my town and my culture. I come from the conservative home and it's really difficult. But I will tell you, do not worry! The more you panic... the more paranoid you become and the more it will hurt you. Everyone makes mistakes. It's okay.... Everything will work out for the best.

If you ever need to talk... email. I know its lacarthic to speak to someone who knows and has dealt with the situation. I would have appreciated it if someone did it for me.

2007-11-28 15:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

in modern times you lose virginity when you have safe, sane and consensual sex for the first time. so what religions says doesnt matters anymore, religions rules are thousands of years old. would you like if the law would have 500 years old law? 500 years ago they were cutting hands for stealing. so dont worry about the religion. live in modern times with humane rules. you can still call yourself a virgin in your mind, physically nobody is a virgin. if a gynaecologists has to use the speculum, then they take a womans virginity? its stupid that the hymen is a sign of virginity.

but you can lie that you didnt had sex and there is a surgery when they can somehow reconstruct the hymen, so when its penetrated again, it will bleed. many women do this. and how will your parents find out? will your mother or father look if your hymen is still okay? then they are covert paedophiles and its a crime. just find a husband that would lie to your parents that you are still a virgin, if nothing else helps.

and you should be in school among all those boys, hugging and kissing with them. its not humane that you arent allowed to be with boys. just be careful around them, some are very evil.

tell your parents that its time to start living in the modern times, cause religions are too old for this World.

2007-11-28 10:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by baywatch 3 · 0 0

Virginity is a marginally arguable subject in recent times. on the only hand there are ladies who're embarrassed that they are nevertheless virgins, and desire to get rid of their virginity, and on the different hand there are nevertheless men who desire their better halves to be virgins and it is so significant to them. i'm not a guy, so i can't answer the 1st question. yet what i think of is that we ought to continually settle for ourselves (us ladies) as we are and we ought to continually be regular in turn by ability of the guy who loves as we are. Human could make blunders... the previous will stay the previous... it rather is little need to attempt digging the previous... little need feeling responsible or embarrassed... each little thing has a initiating and the initiating does not inevitably advise invariably... to comprehend the custom of virginity and why it concerns, enable's take a seem at Sigmund Freud's explanation. Freud, on the initiating of "The Taboo of Virginity", states right here: "The call for that a woman shall not deliver to her marriage with a definite guy any reminiscence of sexual relatives with yet another is, certainly, not something different than a logical continuation of the suitable of unique possession of a woman, which varieties the essence of monogamy, the extension of this monopoly to disguise the previous." "Whoever is the 1st to fulfill a virgin's want for romance, long and laboriously held in examine, and who in doing so overcomes the resistances that have been outfitted up in her in the process the impacts of her milieu and practise, this is the guy she will have the potential to take right into a protracted-lasting dating, the potential of that isn't in any respect back be open to the different guy." "This adventure creates a state of bondage in the lady which ensures that possession of her shall proceed undisturbed and makes her waiting to stand as much as new impressions and enticements from outdoors."

2016-12-10 06:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by stockett 4 · 0 0

You can't get it back. Once lost it's lost forever. Just hope a pregnancy doesn't come out of the experience. Because then your parents will find out. Pretend it never happened. If he says something say he took advantage of you.

2007-11-25 14:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Memory 6 · 1 0

I have heard that if you wait like 6 years then it will form back because you havent had anything in there for a while so it grows back, but i also heard that you cant get it back, see usually if you do something to youir skin it will cure itself its kind of like that, it could heal itself if you leave it alone and no intercourse, but you never know, you can also just believe you are a virgin because you beside not to, it all depends on your look on it, i believe it can heal itself after a while of none, but thats just me

2007-11-25 14:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by hunny_bunches96 1 · 0 0

You can't get it back, but you can wait until you are ready to have a baby...or at least old enough to take the responsibility. If you don't want your parents to know then don't do it until your ready, and 15 is not ready. Imagine getting pregnant or an STD and having to tell your mom and dad...be careful, plus it's not really fun until your older;)

2007-11-25 14:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by flyrah 2 · 2 0

Is this a joke?
How can u be 15 and not know that once u lose ur virginity, u cannot get it back?
If u didn't know that u should not have had sex in the first place!!!
Amazing!!

2007-11-25 14:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by debbie062687 2 · 1 0

There is no way to get it back. But your parents don't have to find out, it's not as though it's stamped on your forehead.
Take it easy though, you are only 15.

2007-11-25 14:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Look Girl! You can never go back! It's gone forever!

Please think about things before you do them! I hope you have learned your lesson.

2007-11-25 14:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by Nina1 1 · 0 0

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