Am I crazy?

Question

I am 30 years old and I have been waiting for this opportunity my entire life. I finally found a store front for my dance school I can afford with an estimate from the contractor he told me that it should cost 12,000. So I put together a benefit show casted dancers and choreographers and all I have to do is direct. Everything is going so well and now I found out I am 2 months pregnant the show is supposed to go up the second week of June and I am not due until July 5th. My husband is mad that I am continuing and he keeps arguing with me and telling me I am not thinking about our family but I feel I am. Once the show is over I can take a few months off relax with the baby and then set up the school. I feel like I am so close should I just stop let this pass me by and enjoy being pregnant what do? What do I tell all those people I think with planning it is possible but he keeps arguing with me am I being too focused and not seeing reality.
What should I do {Please no hurtful answers}

Answer 1

I think you should continue with what you want to do. When it gets to be a burden on you, then you may need to take a break. But if I were you I would keep on with it *THE SHOW MUST GO ON ; )* There are plenty of women who worked through their whole pregnancy. I don't think by any means you are being selfish. Although, consult with your doctor first, I know sometimes they may call for bed rest in certain high risk pregnancies. And since I don't know your history medical and family wise, I can't tell you that your pregnancy is normal. Although I do wish you the best of luck, and hope everything works out for you. And if you do decide to keep on with what you have started (which I hope you do :)) then just explain to your husband that you think it is sweet that he wants to be protective over you and this baby (that's a good sign) but if he really wants to be there for you, he'll understand no matter what. Stress is horrible to pregnant women, so try not to stress so much, but who am I kidding?? how can you not stress over certain things? I completely understand what your going through so if you ever need to talk or just someone there for you to listen feel free to message me : ) GOOD LUCK & CONGRATULATIONS!!

Answer 2

Does he think since you are pregnant that you shouldn't do anything then? How is directing and putting together somethign you are passionated about going to hinder your future family? If it makes you happy, it should be a great thing because it is only going to make the energy that surrounds the baby even more positive, and it is going to be fufilling you as well, which should make your husband happy, I would think at least. But from what it your saying it sounds like he is afraid you following your dream with this dance school is going to take you away from what his 'picture' or expecatations of his family would be. As in, you being a stay at home mom, or at least not a mom who has a lot of focus on a career while she has a child. Maybe you should sit him down and ask him what he is really afraid of happening? Sit down with yourself honestly too and find out if you really will have the time to start a dance school and raise a child. And if you think you will, more power to you, but also plan ahead for, what if raising a child is different then you thought (if this is your first) and what if for some reason you wont have time, what will you do if that happens. Know ahead of time. It sounds like you two need to talk about what your and his expectations about raising a child are, and what you both thought it would be like and look like. What roles would each of you fill? Did he think you would stay at home? Did he think he would just get to be the breadwinner and that was all he would really have to focus on? Etc etc...good luck and I hope it all works out great for you.

Answer 3

No, you aren't crazy as long as you don't cause your body or mind undue stress during your pregnancy. Your question was a little unclear, but it sounds as if your husband is concerned about yours and baby's welfare. Just make sure that he understands that pregnancy is not a illness, (though some mornings ladies might argue that point) and that you won't take any chances. My mom was at work the day she went into labor with me, so don't stop unless the doctor advises you to. Your dreams shouldn't be put on hold, because timing is everything when working to make them come true. Definitely make sure that there is someone who can fill your shoes in case you go into labor early, or some such thing. That way the show will go on, no matter what.

Answer 4

How does your working constitute you not thinking about your family? Personally, I worked up to the day I delivered each of my children. I am a CPA (certified public accountant), and I had a set of twins due in the middle of May. I worked 60+ hrs a week while I was 7 and 8 months pregnant. I made sure that I slept enough, exercised, and ate right. My kids were just fine.... Obviously, you need to do what is best for your family, but I don't see why that can't involve you having a productive work life.

Answer 5

This is a hard one...You want your dreams but you also want to honour your husband...Can you find someone to step up and take some of the work from you?? With pregnancy you dont always know how you are going to feel I have had 4 pregnancies now and the one I am in now is so hard compared to the others there is no way I could do something like put on a show let alone doing it alone..I hope you figure something out your dreams are important too!!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 6

I would tell you to go for it. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity that you cant miss it out on. Just because you are pregnant, it doesnt mean you wont be able to do this. We are women, It can be done. Men cant multi task so they dont understand how we CAN do it. Of course, if you hear of any complications with the pregnancy, you would need to slow down and maybe have someone you trust to help you move this along.

Congratulations on your new baby. Good luck and Best wishes.

Answer 7

Do you have a close relative or friend that you can trust to be your "co-producer" for your event in July?

Your husband is just most likely concerned that you will be spreading yourself a little thin so close to the birth, and in all honestly - from experience - you will be very tired.

I don't see why you can't have your cake and eat it to in this situation! Go on with the show, enjoy your pregnancy, but get some help. Who knows, you may even go into labor a little early, in which case, somebody will have to step in for you.

No hurtful response here.... I wish you all the best. Everything will be fine! : )

Answer 8

No you are not crazy. I work in a legal environment that is very stressful and was also considered high risk pregnancy. Under my doctor's instructions, I was still able to work. Throughout my pregnancy, I had some very stressful projects but I was in touch with my doctor throughout. I am still working and am due this coming Friday. I know my body and my doctor is monitoring the baby so if you feel good and your doctor says OK, go for it. Tell your husband that women around the world are working up to the date of delivery so can you if your doctor oks it.

Answer 9

i don't mean this to be hurtful in any way I've read lots of baby books when there was nothing else in the car and my guess is that you will probably get pretty stressed out at the time of this and if you put the baby through stress while that late in the pregnancy it feels stress as one of the main emotions before its born so it is very much more prone to be stressed through life and it will be a lot more unhappiness at a younger age so it will not be as mellow as you might want and that is pretty close to the pregnancy it might hold in there that long and if you start going into lab or while there that might not end to well so if i was a girl i would try to get the thing like a month before your due date if you could

Answer 10

Pregnancy should not stop you from fulfilling your dreams! That's silly! You should take full advantage while you are pregnant and when the baby does come, take some time off. Getting pregnant should not ruin your plans. Plus... you won't have very much time when the baby does get here... so you should get all you can done now!