I've been dating this guy for 6 months and whenever we have sex and I top I can't keep it erect.. most of times. But when he tops me I can stay hard! I dont get it... anyone have any suggestions!
2007-11-25 13:57:23 · 26 answers · asked by jaredmb05 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I get erect when I think about topping him but when I go to do it, it goes away! i want to do it but cant keep it erect most of the time.. i think it is a mental problem but cant get over it. when he tops me i stay erect.. i dont get it
2007-11-25 14:38:57 · update #1
Most men will not admit this but their "G-spot" is in the rear. I think it is easier as a receiver because you are having that spot stimulated. If you need to keep it in the upright position, try a plug or something in there so your "g-spot" gets stimulated. Hope this helps.
EDIT: make sure you tie a string around said Plug, so if it does accidentally go too far, you can retrieve it without a hospital visit.
2007-11-25 14:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It may be a psychological thing. You can stay hard when he's in "control" so to speak, but when the roles are reversed you can't. Maybe there is a slight fear of "failure" or something, or maybe you're just a little self-conscious. Try to stay relaxed and don't put too much pressure on yourself. I've had similar problems in the past, but it always improved.
Good luck.
2007-11-25 14:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Entwined 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ED is both a physical and emotional problem. When it is physical there is usually something physically wrong with your body that prevents the erection. When the obstacle is emotional it is a psychological wrong and needs to be addressed by competent medical help. My suggestion is that in one instance you feel "aggressive or masculine" and therefore have all the traits of that behavior and in the other you are "passive or female" and therefore are merely evoking that behavior. The brain controls our emotions and our bodies merely react to the brain's instructions. See a Psychologist very soon.
2007-11-25 14:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm straight and I guess you must be homosexual so I guess when he tops you he is stimulating your prostate which gives you an erection, but the other way around you are not getting the stimulation enough to keep you erect. Try using a dildo when you top him.
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2007-11-25 14:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you wern't trying to stick it in a man it might stay erect. It is your body's way of saying that is wrong. It stays hard when the man is doing you because you have a pleasure spot back there.
2007-11-25 14:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Peace Lilly 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
not going to state my opinion of the matter of homosexuality but just going to say... maybe you need a new partner? your's doesnt excite you? maybe you have erection disfunction? ask your doctor..
2007-11-25 14:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Matthew Shlmn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you don't find being on top sexually arousing and that being on the bottom is more your thing. that happened with some of my friends. maybe you should stay on the bottom more often than not.
2007-11-25 14:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Frita_VanShnidelvanhouwserson 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Try a different position
2007-11-25 14:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Subconsciously you associate your positioning with control/dominance. Maybe you should try equal positioning until you are over your mental block.
2007-11-25 14:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by DIVAPRINCIPAL 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you are not a giver, but a receiver.
2007-11-25 14:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋